Sola
@Sola
19 Years1,000+ PostsLibra
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UhOh......
be a bit patient Sola , they often are aloof if they sense that you do all the chasing 🙂
Sola, no matter what he does, we love you. Dem Libras are UNpredictable you know---it can go either way. EITHER way, you're super.
Exam, there?s a difference between being friendly with someone, and chasing them...its not like im ringing him constanty begging for a date!! I shouldnt have to actdifferently than i normally would because of his aloofness. A person can surely just say hello once a week without coming across as some kind of stalker?
Atom, thanks darlin?...you?ve just made it all better!
Atom, thanks darlin?...you?ve just made it all better!
I dont say you were asking him for a date or begging somthing but obviously , he can sense that you are interested in him more than friends .They can read between the lines and subtle hints very well , indeed , they have intuition just like Scorps ourselves but what different is that they dont rely on their hunches but stopping to analyse the inf they get , weighting up and down before reaching the consequence to make sure there is no possibilities they leave .That's why the decison making process is slower than Scorps , we often rely on the emotion level more than head level ,somewhat psychic without any explaination! Especially when it comes to relationships! It isnt that Scorps dont use our heads , it's just we can be lost often in our emotional well if we arent careful -coming across as too intense for Libras !🙂
So dear Sola , just stop contacting him to say "hi " , if he really likes you , he will miss you and contact you . Friends , we miss each other but we dont have to contact everyday , unless we re best friends or lovers 🙂 Just my own view.
So dear Sola , just stop contacting him to say "hi " , if he really likes you , he will miss you and contact you . Friends , we miss each other but we dont have to contact everyday , unless we re best friends or lovers 🙂 Just my own view.
But come on...there was a 5 day silence in between communications!! Im not going to appear ignorant to anyone, so just saying hello is part of my process. He doesnt even need to reply, its just a bit of consideration..and i have to say that i contact my friends at least 3 times a week..even if its a one-liner by email...its called common courtesy, and for me it means they know im thinking of them, and they dont need to write back. Yesterday i was a bit tipsy when i text him, and i always get all lovey-dovey when im like that 🙂
Im not looking for a serious relationship, we just get on well, so im happy for it to be kept casual. Well, we?ll soon see if we?re evengoing to be friends at all now...im all nervous and anxious...not ggod, my poor scales are in turmoil.
Im not looking for a serious relationship, we just get on well, so im happy for it to be kept casual. Well, we?ll soon see if we?re evengoing to be friends at all now...im all nervous and anxious...not ggod, my poor scales are in turmoil.
*sigh*
('Sounds familiar, eh, Chatz?)
Sola, I agree with the common courtesy thing. It's like most Libras I know just don't get it. I said, "Hi." Buzz me back. Too busy? Well, maybe I'm too busy too BUT I make the time. CONSIDERATION. Along with that, I truly believe Libra has a different internal clock than the rest of us. No biggie for 3, 4, 5 days, two weeks, to go by when the rest of us sense one day is substantial enough. Yeah, it hurts, Sola. Chatz and I have been going through with our Libras for a LONG time now----and just accept that's they way they are.
Sola, I agree with the common courtesy thing. It's like most Libras I know just don't get it. I said, "Hi." Buzz me back. Too busy? Well, maybe I'm too busy too BUT I make the time. CONSIDERATION. Along with that, I truly believe Libra has a different internal clock than the rest of us. No biggie for 3, 4, 5 days, two weeks, to go by when the rest of us sense one day is substantial enough. Yeah, it hurts, Sola. Chatz and I have been going through with our Libras for a LONG time now----and just accept that's they way they are.
If they dont reply you promptly then obviously you are not important on their list.Acquaintances are like that , busy with their own lives and then get back with the others when they feel like it ! I know it 's very inconsiderate but some of the people I m acquaintanced with , they re just like that , get back to me after weeks and honestly , I dont mind because they re not that important to me ! It's just courtesy for me to ask about their well being but it isnt theirs to reply . However, it's different when I contact my close/best friends or my lover , I'll be very worried if they dont .
Sola , if I dont remember wrongly , he and you just knew each other a few weeks something? It might take time for him to be totally comfortable with you and get closer .It is also depend on the connection between you two . Some people just click when they meet , some takes long time to build it . SO be patient if you want him , otherwise just move on 🙂
Sola , if I dont remember wrongly , he and you just knew each other a few weeks something? It might take time for him to be totally comfortable with you and get closer .It is also depend on the connection between you two . Some people just click when they meet , some takes long time to build it . SO be patient if you want him , otherwise just move on 🙂
*their responsibility*
Thanks guys..honestly. The truth hurts of course, but its always good to hear different perspectives. He isnt coming after all, so i take it he?s too busy, and you know..im too busy. I always feel like i pressure myself to accommodate people to the extent that i forget, or dont consider much why i want them or what i want them for(ie, i give too much of myself without making people earn it...its a charcter flaw, i was born with it)! I know now that when i see him i will feel resentment because ive been left wondering about whats happening. Im pretty pissed off already. Im far from perfect, but there are some basic rules that i apply: 1) make DEFINITE arrangements with people, or dont make any at all.
2) if its not working, clear the space in your life for someone else...because there is always someone else to be had (especially for Libras🙂 3)Dont think your too important to be considerate, because all you do is confirm to the other person that you?re a waster of their time and energy.
2) if its not working, clear the space in your life for someone else...because there is always someone else to be had (especially for Libras🙂 3)Dont think your too important to be considerate, because all you do is confirm to the other person that you?re a waster of their time and energy.
turn the tables. Right now your he is the actor and you the reactor because whats going on with you in regards to the two of you is dependant on him. I would call and talk or leave a message stating that you get the feeling he isn't all that intrested because of this and that and that while you like him, you can only assume what you can sense without his input.
The ball is in his court just like that, and you can go about your business knowing how you see things and do not have to wait for an answer as the more you wait, the clearer your answer becomes instead of being more confusing.
Just my opinion. I take these situations like "what do I have to lose" when I am considering making that kind of phone call. The answer is not much, because you are in the dark on his feelings and he hasn't built a solid emotional foundation that you are at risk of being hurt by.
The ball is in his court just like that, and you can go about your business knowing how you see things and do not have to wait for an answer as the more you wait, the clearer your answer becomes instead of being more confusing.
Just my opinion. I take these situations like "what do I have to lose" when I am considering making that kind of phone call. The answer is not much, because you are in the dark on his feelings and he hasn't built a solid emotional foundation that you are at risk of being hurt by.
Your damn right Nic...but i dont even want to waste my time, because im not upset with him...im upset with myself. I just overanalyse and build things up in my head, and then when it doesnt go the way i envisage then i just get all morose when i shouldnt even be thinking about it half as much in the first place.
You know, i dont want anything from this...in my head its over already, i just need some time out. Its not a game im interested in playing, so i canleave it already. Its crap for a day or two and then im fine 🙂
You know, i dont want anything from this...in my head its over already, i just need some time out. Its not a game im interested in playing, so i canleave it already. Its crap for a day or two and then im fine 🙂
"It is unfortunate that the man governed by Libra often seems to initially give a bad impression of himself"....the truest thing i ever heard!
Sola, you're handling it right.
"If they dont reply you promptly then obviously you are not important on their list" I do agree there...I haven't witnessed mine not replying promptly...normally its within minutes and lately he even instigates the texting fun, etc but yep, there can be days, even a week go by that I won't hear from him but its ok, I dont budge either these days...drives him insane!!! Then he comes on even stronger 🙂
Lately I've heard from mine everyday...unheard of...Im waiting for the week with no communication - argghhhh!!!!
"You know, i dont want anything from this...in my head its over already, i just need some time out. Its not a game im interested in playing, so i canleave it already. Its crap for a day or two and then im fine" If only it was that easy!!
Sola, seriously, just have your own fun.......men!!!!!
*runs before shoes get thrown*
bwahahahaha LOL
Lately I've heard from mine everyday...unheard of...Im waiting for the week with no communication - argghhhh!!!!
"You know, i dont want anything from this...in my head its over already, i just need some time out. Its not a game im interested in playing, so i canleave it already. Its crap for a day or two and then im fine" If only it was that easy!!
Sola, seriously, just have your own fun.......men!!!!!
*runs before shoes get thrown*
bwahahahaha LOL
"Chatz and I have been going through with our Libras for a LONG time now----and just accept that's they way they are"
Wouldn't wanna change mine at all except for the aloofness.....I'll ROAR it out of him LOL...j/k!!! To them its probably not even aloofness, just being caught up in their own little world....deal with it I say....easy to say though LOL
OMG Im cracking myself up
Wouldn't wanna change mine at all except for the aloofness.....I'll ROAR it out of him LOL...j/k!!! To them its probably not even aloofness, just being caught up in their own little world....deal with it I say....easy to say though LOL
OMG Im cracking myself up
Still make the call. It changes the alignment of power. Your done with it but you need time to yourself? Your done with it when you don't need time to yourself or more specifically it doesn't bear any consideration on what you do at all.
Right now you are in a reactive position. Not a proactive postion.
I will explain it like this.
My good friend and his girlfriend enrolled in my martial arts class this week. There is a portion of each class that is dedicated to applying the art perfectly and viciously in a self defense situation. I partnered up with my friends girlfriend because her and I had done some hands on technique sharing in the past so her bf and I both knew she would be most comfortable with me. She is no beginner, but the style and techniques are new and foriegn so it is best to the situation be comfortable so that all of the focus goes into applying technique perfectly.
Well, she is also a Libra, so you are her in this situation. And I am the dude you have been seeing. There is a technique where you step into your oponent and your shin crosses thiers and your knee intersects theirs in an alignment that bends their knee the wrong way, breaking the joint and folding the leg. It just takes stepping in, disturbing the strength of the load brearing front knee and applying preassure buy leaning into the opponent and that is it. Wala.....knee dislocation, ligament and tendon seperation just like that. But there is a key, you have to disrupt the strength and alignment of the opponents load bearing leg first.
We practiced this by standing squared off, I would step foreward and she would step foreward and her leg would intersect mine at an angle and just like that.....a girl comenses in making a guy drop to the ground or face permanent joint damage. We were having a problem though. She would wait for my step to complete itself thus allowing the proper execution of my stance and effectively she would be stepping around and to me, instead of through me. I explained that unless she intercepts my movement before I set my stance, she is simply reacting to me, not intercepting and therefore forcing me to react. The person reacting by rule is off balance, the person acting is on balance.
So....basically, she WAS acting to position herself to the advantage, but she was worrying more about what I was doing than what she needed to do to accomplish her goal......
Right now you are in a reactive position. Not a proactive postion.
I will explain it like this.
My good friend and his girlfriend enrolled in my martial arts class this week. There is a portion of each class that is dedicated to applying the art perfectly and viciously in a self defense situation. I partnered up with my friends girlfriend because her and I had done some hands on technique sharing in the past so her bf and I both knew she would be most comfortable with me. She is no beginner, but the style and techniques are new and foriegn so it is best to the situation be comfortable so that all of the focus goes into applying technique perfectly.
Well, she is also a Libra, so you are her in this situation. And I am the dude you have been seeing. There is a technique where you step into your oponent and your shin crosses thiers and your knee intersects theirs in an alignment that bends their knee the wrong way, breaking the joint and folding the leg. It just takes stepping in, disturbing the strength of the load brearing front knee and applying preassure buy leaning into the opponent and that is it. Wala.....knee dislocation, ligament and tendon seperation just like that. But there is a key, you have to disrupt the strength and alignment of the opponents load bearing leg first.
We practiced this by standing squared off, I would step foreward and she would step foreward and her leg would intersect mine at an angle and just like that.....a girl comenses in making a guy drop to the ground or face permanent joint damage. We were having a problem though. She would wait for my step to complete itself thus allowing the proper execution of my stance and effectively she would be stepping around and to me, instead of through me. I explained that unless she intercepts my movement before I set my stance, she is simply reacting to me, not intercepting and therefore forcing me to react. The person reacting by rule is off balance, the person acting is on balance.
So....basically, she WAS acting to position herself to the advantage, but she was worrying more about what I was doing than what she needed to do to accomplish her goal......
So she was focusing on me foremost, and I was focusing on me foremost....I had all of the energy initiative. Now, she was getting all of the steps correctly except decisively intercepting my movement and thus making me focus and react to her....I was still in control.
This is exactly what your facing right now. You see whats going on, your acting on your behalf but at the end of the day your really reacting to him......your both focusing on him. He has the power. Until the power is balanced, you will continue to see it in a light of anticipation then reaction rather than action and observation. The latter is a lot more harmonious.
This is exactly what your facing right now. You see whats going on, your acting on your behalf but at the end of the day your really reacting to him......your both focusing on him. He has the power. Until the power is balanced, you will continue to see it in a light of anticipation then reaction rather than action and observation. The latter is a lot more harmonious.
Chatz, you?re right, so dont worry, im not stropping about over this!! And it is that easy for me to get over these things, a couple of days attthe most, and then it can be treated as though it never even happened. Its a quality i have that im actually so happy to have..whether i have been with you two weeks or two years..off you go and i won be looking back for you either.
Nic, you are also right, and thanks for taking the time with the response, but im still not doing any contacting..the reason being im not about to give him an opportunity to explain himself because im simply not interested if he was working/out with his friends/watching tv etc etc...is he thinking that im justwaiting for him to come and entertain me. No thanks, im interested in making time for people on a give-and-take basis, thathasnt happened here so its over, and im not posting about it anymore!!
Conclusion..Sola is NOT a fan of her male astrological counterpart, and sees no reflection of herself in him.
End of story 🙂
Nic, you are also right, and thanks for taking the time with the response, but im still not doing any contacting..the reason being im not about to give him an opportunity to explain himself because im simply not interested if he was working/out with his friends/watching tv etc etc...is he thinking that im justwaiting for him to come and entertain me. No thanks, im interested in making time for people on a give-and-take basis, thathasnt happened here so its over, and im not posting about it anymore!!
Conclusion..Sola is NOT a fan of her male astrological counterpart, and sees no reflection of herself in him.
End of story 🙂
Well it looks like you have it handled nicely. I agree with what you said, he already showed he aint worth it so might as well leave it at that. Hopefully the next one that comes along doesn't take an awesome girl for granted like this guy did. Argh....Libras sometimes you know 😛
Oh Nic, i hope so too. Dont worry, i can do better and we both know it!!
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