Sad but what can ya do?

Hey guys....this doesnt relate to my situation but I have a friend who has recently been diagnosed with leukemia which saddens a lot of us, however, she too was seeing a Libran...well she kinda still is I guess but she sent an email to him (grrrrr@her for doing it that way) letting him know what had happened and that she didnt want him to come over anymore as she felt she would only become a burden, or become a chore or obligation to see, etc. By the way she is a Sag.

I feel terrible knowing this and hope that he doesnt just walk away as she asked him to do as she is going to need him and everybody else around her...oh and yeah, she doesnt want us to be there either but I think that's just her being overwhelmed at the moment, hopefully she will think differently soon.

So I guess this is a question for you Librans and its only for my interest I guess as it won't help her or him...what would you do if you were in the same situation and your loved one did this when they should be turning to you instead? He is such a nice guy and I didnt even know he was a Libran until now and til now very much into her. They are a great couple at other times.

Im totally blown away that this has all happened 😢

I do assume that he'll need some thinking time which may even come across as being aloof if he doesnt chase her down. I think deep down she's hoping he will come through - I dunno....tis all so sad 😢

Your thoughts

Chatz, how sad a story...

If I was at the receiving end of that email I would wonder if it was a joke and hence true. Wondering if someone was trying to get rid of me. Not very trusting, I guess.

If it then turned out to be true I would definitely break through the situation, not honour the request and probably just stand on her/his doorstep, unannounced, so there is no way out. I would do that at least once. Then take it from there.

Libra

Same for me as Libra. If I really cared about the person my priorities would change from doing what they want to doing what they need. If I filled that role, they would be stuck with me.

lol well lets hope that's true from his part...she hasn't heard from him *shrugs*

Because it's not his style of communicating he does now know what do do with the information and is probably still going through phase 1. We take our time to mull things over. You know it.

I suggested that she phone him and she did....of course he didn't walk away....he was upset that she "told" him via email and didnt know what to say or do but I have a feeling he'll stick with her through this. 🙂

I'd be cynical enough to at least officially go. I'd say "If that's what you want..." and go.

Of course, I would secretly keep watch, but she wouldn't know.

LOL@secretly keeping watch and her not knowing....what would the point of that be? Wouldnt that just eat you up rather than just go for what you want?

Oh you LIbrans!!! a breed amongst yourselves......being Leo, I'd just charge right on in LOL

Update on this one is a text from him to my friend:...."I will catch up with you soon...cheers for now"

Oh so Libran!!!

Define "soon"!! LOL....the amount of times I've heard that from mine?? OMG if I could get a $ 1 for each time he said that, but soon can = a few hours to a couple of weeks!!! Yikes

*laffs*

@Chatz:
Well, if people don't want me around, I'm off. No hard feelings, I'm kinda accustomed to it (oh, how tragic).

However, my conscience won't let me rest since I'll always think about her, if she's getting better or worse, etc.

So the point, I guess, would be watching over her a bit, without going into the confrontation ("Why didn't you go off as I told you? A**hole!").

While one may argue that no one in his right mind would send friends off like this in a situation like this, I have to say, it happens, and every time I just charged right in ( 😉 ) it went completely wrong, because somehow, people take this as an insult.

Chatz - I am confused as to how this can be a topic of conversation between your friend and yourself at a time like this (for your friend). You know what I mean? I am sure there must be a lot going through your friend's mind but I am also quite sure she's got a free reign in what she wants her friends to do/how to be. I am sure that anyone (boyfriend) would understand that one (your friend) might be slightly irrational right now. And that she might be pushing people away. It's natural.

He will do whatever she wants and don't forget that the boyfriend is also losing the love of his life (just imagine what's going through his mind).

When reality hits the hardest irrational behaviour is a natural first response.

Chatz - sorry for sounding harsh if I did. Who am I to talk?

Chatz, so sorry to hear that about your friend. He her Libra friend will come around if he loves her. He will be there. He is hurt and scared as well. I am sure of it. Libra guys and Sag girls seem to have a special connection - I wonder if it is because Sag's are so close to scorps... 🙂

Chatz, here's $ 101,000 for the times your Libra has said "soon."

Definition of "soon" is= 'depends.

Thanks Atom - that will help re: travel costs LOL. Thank you - see ya soon 🙂 Oh and I hope you will all make an effort to catch up if Im coming that way *hints*

Libra, no that's fine.....I agree, she's being irrational and it is fair enough - God only knows how I'd be (I'd probably be a drama queen and WANT everybody around me LOL) and of course her Libra will come around and see her through 🙂 It was really just for my interest to get a better understanding as to how you guys feel...you know me....I get into the nuts and bolts of these things.