Update on Libra going cold ..wtf?

Ok...Well the week-end passed...He texts me Sunday with.." Hey how are you been thinking about you"...I keep it short and sweet....Like I am ok, and that is sweet...Then hours go by and he texts me " busy?" I reply with at the gym..He tries to call me that night, I ignore it...Well TODAY....I sent a text with " Hey hows is your day going? Is work busy or slow?" He replies busy so I text back with " Ok just checking on you I will let you deal with work.....Ok well he tried to call me and I wasn't home. Well I text him instead of calling with " whats up" Not even 20 seconds later he calls me, and said well I was hoping to see you tonight, and I am sitting there going what the hell? I said nothing, but well I am going to my cuz's house if you want to swing by...He said well its to late now, and I have to pick up my boys early...I said well u can see me for a hour if u want. He said well I want get to spend that much time with you. SO anyway..I go and he asked me to come over there. I did and well.....You get the picture...What the hell is going on with this man?? He goes from I think we should not see each other 3 days ago to wanting to................—————

he was horny. you were available.

Hmm, yeah, what Tamara said. I've read your prior posts in respect to the Cancer
and now the Libra, and it seems that you really do want to be in a relationship, yet you are attracting or chosing men who are not available, and you are getting hurt by these men.
It's not that the men may not like you........but.....I don't know. Good luck.

Posted by libragal76
Ok...Well the week-end passed...He texts me Sunday with.." Hey how are you been thinking about you"...I keep it short and sweet....Like I am ok, and that is sweet...Then hours go by and he texts me " busy?" I reply with at the gym..He tries to call me that night, I ignore it...Well TODAY....I sent a text with " Hey hows is your day going? Is work busy or slow?" He replies busy so I text back with " Ok just checking on you I will let you deal with work.....Ok well he tried to call me and I wasn't home. Well I text him instead of calling with " whats up" Not even 20 seconds later he calls me, and said well I was hoping to see you tonight, and I am sitting there going what the hell? I said nothing, but well I am going to my cuz's house if you want to swing by...He said well its to late now, and I have to pick up my boys early...I said well u can see me for a hour if u want. He said well I want get to spend that much time with you. SO anyway..I go and he asked me to come over there. I did and well.....You get the picture...What the hell is going on with this man?? He goes from I think we should not see each other 3 days ago to wanting to................—————

What's not to get? You were his booty call.

libragirl you are attractive but woo woo woo, lol d:

Yeah he's just calling to get the panties, he is not down for being in a real relationship. How long is it going to take you to get this guy is not relationship ready, he is all about convenience, I was hoping to see you tonight is like eric said, language for booty call and why are you so easy with giving up the panties gosh, wow you make me wanna pull my hair out d:

Because he and I spoke and he meant it ...Its not just about the sex, I might have needed to go into more depth the whole entire thing instead of skimming on it all

He said that he doesn't want a relationship yet when a man's nature calls he's calling to see whose available, he got horny, he called ms.available, he complains about not having much time to see you as if he's desperate and misses you, HE MISSED THE ASS but for some reason you can't determine that because you are thirsty for love and for a relationship so you hear I miss you when in reality he's saying I miss the sex, so he says I don't have much time to spend with you to get you all anxious and thirsty, you run over his house and gave him some ass, that is a booty call okay no matter how you slice it. You are nowhere closer than you were yesterday, stop letting him do this to you and you won't be confused...

Everyone has hormones, and just because you sleep with a man doesn't mean your letting them run over u because of I continue to sleep with him because the sex is good. I have needs to....I am allowing it to happen, just to go along with the roller coaster ride. Do I like him yes, do I like the sex hell yes or I wouldnt go back for more. Just because u drop ur panties doesnt mean u are easy

I am not destroyed over this because I have not known him long enough to be " in love" with him, I just want to figure out why he is hot and cold with me, it is not just sex with is, there is a foundation there that has started, and I am learning that he is scared of his feelings..Each time he feels more..He gets a little distant, and comes back for more ( not always in the bedroom either) Not like being in the bedroom with him is a bad thing mind you. Hell I call to see him just to fill my own needs sometimes....

Posted by libragal76
Everyone has hormones, and just because you sleep with a man doesn't mean your letting them run over u because of I continue to sleep with him because the sex is good. I have needs to....I am allowing it to happen, just to go along with the roller coaster ride. Do I like him yes, do I like the sex hell yes or I wouldnt go back for more. Just because u drop ur panties doesnt mean u are easy

Okay so as long as you don't confuse booty call with relationship than your cool, have fun be safe, just because he called you and fed you a bit of attention to get sex doesn't mean he wants much more than that, as long as you know what your doing and why your doing it with little involvement on his part then your good.

The sex doesn't make you easy, you make you easy by being his everything without the offical title, when women do this they are not acting in there best interest and she's doing it backwards which makes it harder for you....

you are saying you are not worth much more than that, accepting things on his terms tells him that you are second to anything else in his life and you are inviting mistreatment and confusion...your actions make you feel easy which includes wanting a relationship with an emotionally unavailable man, you are enabling his commitment issues by being accessible, you are making him feel that he can have what he wants without making much effort to give back and if that is fine with you well hey it's okay.

Posted by moon_eyes
Do you hate women tiki?
DO you have some issues?

Go seek a therapist

LMAO!!!

She has a hell of a lot of patience trying to help people that dont really want to listen. Fine words of wisdom. Sometimes it takes going through a time where you do actually hate men to be able to see through them!

Libragal.... you wouldn't be asking or wondering about hot/cold if you didn't to some degree care.
I had a guy treat me exactly like this when I was way younger. A libra guy (not my ex a different Libra). It took me a while but I figured it out and yes.... I was a booty call. When it hit me I stop all communication. He tried to "act" like he cared to lure me back. Nope wasn't happening. He stopped trying when he figured out I wasn't giving it up anymore and I wasn't going to listen to his BS. He's trying to appear sincere to get back into your britches. Don't try to analize it anymore. That is what it is. I'm sorry. Men suck sometimes 😢
Do yourself a favor and take control back by ignoring him. NO MATTER WHAT HE SAYS/DOES.

Posted by libragal76
Everyone has hormones, and just because you sleep with a man doesn't mean your letting them run over u because of I continue to sleep with him because the sex is good. I have needs to....I am allowing it to happen, just to go along with the roller coaster ride. Do I like him yes, do I like the sex hell yes or I wouldnt go back for more. Just because u drop ur panties doesnt mean u are easy

No one is jugding you for wanting sex. You are only human and have needs. However you asked us why this relationship an't working the way you like. People are giving you their honest opinions. Its up to you to see it for what it is.

The truth is if you aren't willing to stop giving him what he wants then you really have two choices.

You can either find happiness with what you have or change your role in the relationship. If you refuse to do either then honestly you have no one to blame but yourself for being hurt and confused.

No one hear is going to tell you different unless they lie to you.

Posted by moon_eyes
Do you hate women tiki?
DO you have some issues?

Go seek a therapist

What a stupid thing to say moon eyes. What advise do you have to contribute?

ok...... im about to contradict myself. this guy really likes you. Just keep your gaurd up and let him do the initiating. He obviously went through a confused period where he wasn't sure and had to weigh things up and get the scales balanced... The same thing is happening to me. It's nuts! i can usually walk away from people but this one is everything i want and for the first time in my life i don't want to let it slip away.

Venus, the planet ruled by your sign has been in retrograde since March 6th and wont turn direct until April 17. The planets have been screwed up. Venus in retrograde means that people step back and look to the past and at past relationships to reassess there current ones. Librans are most affected by this planetary movement. (my venus is in Libra in my chart- so i'm feeling it too)

The new moon on April 9 will bring you closer, but then Pluto or something goes direct with something on the 11th and the freak out thing will happen again. So don't push for commitment and just take it as it comes. You'll have to wait until after April 17 before its all on track again... April 22 Airies kicks in and will make everything much clearer so if you can be patient try to wait it out.

It sounds like typical Libra guy behaviour and i think he does care for you but you need to take it slow and whatever you do...DONT CLING! 2009 is a great year for love (jupiter has something to do with it), but take your time with it.

If its meant to be, then it will be.

i cant read anymore of this. all i keep thinling is "again?"

Posted by leokitten2
i cant read anymore of this. all i keep thinling is "again?"

lol

Posted by Starfish225
What I have learned about Libra's is I don't give a shit what you tell them in goes in one ear and out the other, and sometimes they know whats happening is not right and they still allow themselves to be played. I hae a Libra Aunt like that she knows this man is playing her yet she makes up every excuse in the book to not face him on it..Low standards and low self-esteem will get you treated badly almost everytime..Most Libras I know are jsut to darn anxious to be in a relationship so they settle for whatever especially after they realize they like a man..or woman..I thought Libragal you were caught up with a Cancer guy, this is almost something like that situation..Did I mention the thing about low standards..I am just going to say this and leave this alone keep doing what your doing and your gonna keep getting what your getting..

Yeah I knew a Libra who was in a abusive relation with a guy for three years. Despite she is an OT and knows mental illness. She can't comphrend her own situation. Inregards to Libra76 I will never give this Libra chick adivse again. If she comes on here with the same sob story again I will be like yup you had it coming doll.

I am done with this one.

Care for some advice from a Libra guy? I can see how this could come off as him just wanting to get some but from whats been said that may not be the case. Ok so he started by being cute with you, the whole "been thinkin about you," then called you, you didnt answer, and thats were the first problem was. The next day he says he is busy, kinda short in the way he said it ya? Then that kinda goes on for a bit...Well when a libra guy likes a girl he will say those cute things, but if you ignore him in anyway it will really hurt his feelings. And in this case i think you did just that. You had sex but i think there may be more than just a "booty call" as some have stated. When libra guys like a girl and the girls shows she likes him, he expects her to stroke his ego on a daily basis (non-sexual) but when the girl ignore's him, it'll bother the crap out of him, making him very short with people. So sure it could have been a booty call but in most cases libra's like attachment too much to screw the world for kicks. So my advice is to boost his ego and dont ignore him, if you have plans with him stick to them. If he starts saying cute things to you throw some his way, dont one-up him just be sweet. And if its more than sex, he will show it, if not then he's not worth your time. Good luck!

Just what Libra8pant said. Being surrounded by Libra men, they really don't like women for just "sex" all the time. They are sort of weird but I know for sure, if he likes to talk on the phone ALOT and he hangs around you for more than just sexual EVERYTIME being a Libra male, he likes you. His love is strange and detached. Libragal you may relate very WELL with another Libra male. It is like you can read each other's language. You know what he wants, he knows what you want then you two detach. Most Libra males like women are close too them when they want but can attach away from them when the time is necessary.

You are a LIBRA, Libra and Libra can read each other's needs VERY WELL and so can a ARIES-Libra combo.

I guess if you don't believe me, go and look on the mathematical calculations for Libra male and Libra female. WHO IS THE BEST MATCH FOR LONGEVITY, NON DIVORCE and MARRIAGE! Libra-Libra relationships. Libra man needs Libra woman, Libra woman needs Libra man.

I know this is true because my son's LIBRA girlfriend has a birthday two days from his and they are the weirdest couple but hey, they understand each other WAY more than outsiders do.

I say chunk the advice, you KNOW what YOU need to feel safe and comfortable and so does he.

he like you for now! dont give him nonthin for like a month then see how he act

LOL v s o p

I think LibraP8nt and Krobe have a point.

Aries and Libras are similar, me being Aries...I hate to be left alone for too long I always come back to people, I may be a little more heated than a Libra that being the MAIN difference as opposite as we are that Aries = heated and we can handle it whereas Libras = harmony, cool waters they can't handle heat.

My point is, when I have NO interest in a person I simply do NOT bother.

Don't know about the Libra/Libra situation..I don't believe for one second that Libra and Aries can read each other
and understand bc if so there would not be so much confusion on the Libra board about Aries and vice versa and just in general..And Libra and Aries are the hardest couple to get along with out of all the opposites as far as I am concerned..

I know some couples who have been together for YEARS 20+ some with the Libra-Aries thing. Mostly the women are Aries and the males are Libra's but the Aries women SURE gave them a chase of their lives together. I didn't say it was a MATCH made in Heaven.

What is it that confused a Libra about Aries?

Krobe03 -- what do you mean the Aries gave the Libra a chase? Chased them or had them chase the Aries?

The ARIES women had the men chasing them! Aries women when you get on their nerves and they finally get tired of you, you have to deal with some competition or bye. Aries women don't play! You are either in to them deeply or they will find someone else who is into them. The couples I know may go their own separate ways for a while but the Libra men come back and they do what they need to do to keep the Aries woman. I KNOW alot of Libra man/Aries woman combos.