What are your experiences with Virgo men

I'm a Libra woman and I have never been so confused in terms of a boy in all my life. He's so difficult to read and goes days and weeks without talking to me, but when we do spend time with one another, he seems eager and happy. He tells me he doesn't see us being in a relationship yet, but that he is committed to me and would classify us as dating. When we spend hot nights together, he gets cold for long periods of time afterwards.

It's like pulling teeth trying to draw out what he really means and how he feels. He sends mixed signals ALL the time and I find myself feeling like I'm always left in the dark, playing a guessing game. Frankly, it's exhausting.

Has anyone else had similar experiences?

I was dating a virgo guy, could still be for all i know since none of us actually broke it off, I just decided to stop texting him and see how long it took him to txt me , think I will be waiting forever lol. We had fun when we hung out but I found him quite rude. He never once complimented me, not being big headed but I actually really made an effort for him and was always looking good and NOTHING! didnt want him to go over the top but just a "you look/smell nice" would have been sufficient.

Virgo's are far to precise and orderly for me, I like mayhem and chaos, and im always late, I prob drove him crazy, maybe thats where he's disappeared to lol. Sex was pretty bad too we might aswell have been following a step by step instruction book, I dread to think what would have happened if we had skipped a step or added a new one haha never again!

I think the problem with his union is that both signs are prone to back off and be passive rather than aggressive.
As a Libra, I'm not familiar with feeling like I have to take all of the initiative.
Additionally, we both seem to mirror what the other does.
If he doesn't text me for a long time, I won't text him back. If I avoid confrontation, so will he.
It's nearly impossible to resolve or talk about anything. Suppose I finally do have the gull to ask him a serious question, I'm met with a one word answer and a very pensive gaze.

I really do like him, though. I just don't know how much longer I can tolerate this behavior for.

I attract Virgo men like flies. I have a hard time with them. Every Virgo male I have dated has cheated on me so I really don't care for them.

I've never had one.. He start nit picking almost immediately and I was POOF... GONE.........

Posted by BelovedAssata
Man I had a psuedo-relationship with a virgo once, he made the first move but oh my goodness he was the best kisser ever. I never experienced so much passion in ANY other guy since. And he was a shy guy too, very reserved. But man, I didn't know where that passion was coming from so if that's just how virgos are in general you have a potential powder keg there.

I think what I did wrong was that when I didn't think anything of him he came to me, but after I started really feeling him and getting emotional and somewhat clingy he got turned off. And he'd nitpick things I'd do that made me feel like I was walking on eggshells in general (from my style of dress, to the bedroom, to how I talked to him) which was frustrating(and made me so self conscious because i hate constant criticism) but like I said before *phew*, if I had done things differently, I'd have given him alot of space and not open myself as much. In small doses, that relationship would have been perfect.

My advice would be to let him make the first move, and try to play it cool. If you try to move things too fast he'll lose respect for you, or think you are clingy. And don't take his criticism too seriously because that's just his 'thing' to show you that he cares. And if he does lose respect (you'll be able to tell), please, please please just break it off, because if other virgos are like him..he'll treat you horribly.

If he thinks of you as a virgin(the ideal), he'll treat you as such..but if he thinks of you as a whore...

Well, he better think of me as a virgin considering I am one! haha
And in regards to passion, I know just what you mean.
Looking at such a shy, reserved guy, you'd never expect him to be so lascivious.
But you can't mistake passionate for romantic, because Virgos are FAR from that.

He's become better at communicating, but that means zip since what he communicates are nothing but mixed signals! He asks when I'm free so we can spend time together, and when I tell him I'm busy (which I genuinely am!) he seems dejected. When I try to make plans with him, and ask him to hangout, he (it seems to me) responds very half-heartedly; almost as though it's an obligation.

Last night, he came out to my birthday, and he held my hand and caressed my leg the entire night, secretly under the table. Anything he does is subtle. Even at my party, he was so hot

and cold, that there was a point my friend remarked "he doesn't like you." She was only joking, but the comment still hurt. His behavior is so cryptic that none of my friends (most of whom were meeting him for the first time that night) had no idea he was there with me!

And as libra sun said, he seldom compliments me to my face. Even stranger, he's told mutual friends that he thinks I'm "gorgeous" and "stunning" but I've never heard anything of the like from HIM. I think the closest thing to positive reaffirmation I've gotten was when he once told me he liked what I was wearing.

Ugh, it's frustrating to say the least. He acts so differently around me than he does around his friends. There have been moments where I've happened upon him and a group of his friends where he was so vivacious and confident, but the moment we spend time alone, he becomes insecure for some reason.

I wish I didn't like him so much, or at the least, like the challenge of working through someone so complex, because I would have split long ago! I've never put up with this much crud from a guy before in all my life.

^ aww. that's cute. he's put you up on the libra pedestal. which of course we don't like being on, but we also sometimes do like it, so you shouldn't be in too big of a hurry to get him to let you down, or he'll keep you down.

for compliments...make it clear to him that complimenting you is just what he should do. it's just part of being a man, like opening doors and paying for dinner and whatever. don't act like you need to hear it, even if you do. act like you are forcing him to admit it, and that you like how nervous he gets when he does. as a libra, you'll probably prefer this route too. libras hate feeling needy. put him in his place. virgos love being put in their place (on his knees in front of you, lol).

IMA Help you out alot right now, He's feeling you, he definitely is. The issue with him is not that he is scared to make the first move, but he wants to be sure that he doesnt make the wrong one to turn you off or lose you. theres 3 types of virgoes (decans obviously) im a third decan one so i can explain to you whats going on with an open mind and without bias; theres the one thats always confident and then theres the one like yours. When he's alone with you he's only feeling insecure because again he doesnt really know what makes you tick (as in laugh), make him feel comfortable and BELIEVE ME, NO, TRUST ME , HE'S GONNA COME OUT OF HIS SHELL AND ITS GONNA SWEEP YOU OfF YOUR FEET, then when that happens you know everything was worth the wait. Its like youre gonna see a side youve never saw before but one that youre going to say to yourself ITS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE, and trust me its true. With virgoes all you need is patience and trust me it will be worth it youre gonna think he's a libra with the way he's gonna act because all worries and negative traits you guys bring up will dissapear. he just wants to feel like he can be himself around you and youll apreciate it.hes confident around his friends because he trusts them. with virgoes we're like a mix of ground+aquarius+gemini , i wonder why we arent the 4th air sign lol but trust me it will be worth it if you make him feel comfortable. He's probably a second decan being serious and NOT LIKING THE WAY YOU DRESS? man I LOVE LIBRAS AND LOVE THEIR style ,we almost think alike. You libras love that masculinity some virgoes have it others dont but if you wanna see it make him feel comfortable.

if he doest qualify for u im always available ha lmao

haha nyc125, you sly devil, you!

And thanks for the insight everyone!

Here are both our charts. Not really specific, so I don't know if they'll help any:


HIM:
Sun Virgo
Moon Capricorn
Mercury Libra
Venus Libra
Mars Virgo
Jupiter Cancer
Saturn Capricorn
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
Lilith Libra
Asc node Aquarius


ME:
Sun Libra
Moon Libra
Mercury Virgo
Venus Scorpio
Mars Libra
Jupiter Cancer
Saturn Capricorn
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
Lilith Libra
Asc node Aquarius

Hmm, interesting, thanks!
Outside of sun signs, I don't really know how the other planets factor into astrology.
Other than the moon controlling the emotional elements.

I just read your questions and all comments and it is like my life right now with Virgo man. I am curious LibraLove, if you are still here, what happened in meantime? I am going thru ups and downs emotionally with this Virgo which I truly like and I think have deep feelings for 🙂

Hi LibraLove. My dad is Virgo and my male bff who is a musician is one too. They are good thinkers and give great advice but are sometimes sucked into their own world. My dad owns a car dealership so it's sometimes hard for him to go from business life to personal life and maybe my bff too.

I fell in love with a virgo man 2 times. The second one is my husband now. With the first one, he was the typical virgo i mostly read being described about their characteristic. He is one of the most serious, intelligent and gentleman i have ever met. To him I need to really check the way i handle myself because he will surely giv critics. I am so glad I am into astrology so I tried my best not to be sensitive, since this is just him giving constructive criticism. I remember he can say something how i dress up, how i talk, even how i put my make up on. I won't forget his line, "You will always have a room for improvement." He does like me as he said, that i am a clever woman, interesting and i had thought him something he never learned from books and university. He said he likes me but he can't see himself being with me.. which i too can see that. I realized i need to change if we will be in a relationship and this is a no no for me. I love how gentleman he is though, i love how we can converse in a long time not running out of topic to talk about, i love how he wanted to improve himself to be a better partner to his so called "the one" in the future. So I wished then, I wish i can be married to a virgo. And yes I got that wish.. I am married to a better one.. He is a critic and perfectionist but only to his work and to himself.. So he makes me feel I am enough. He appreciates me, yes he sees my flaws but this does not disturb him. He expresses his emotional matters to me openly, he tells me everything i need to know or want to hear.. he is not afraid to be himself because he knows he will not be judge. We are a great partner.. I am a libra, i can be lazy specially if i had a hard day work but he is very understanding when i tend to be lazy, but I make sure though that i will make it up to him when i don't feel lazy like tidying his oom or cooking a good lunch and dinner for him.. Also surprising him from time to time makes him feel special. Virgo is reserved.. but once they know you are the one and can be trusted.. they will open up and you will see the beauty and fun side of him that you have never even imagine. We are hoping for our marriage to last until death do us part.

correction: * interesting and i had taught him something he never learned from books and university.

when both people mirror each other, they usually let the love die its natural death. That is why most of the successful relationships have the aggressive and the passive ones and its vice versa depending on the situations.

The guy that I like is also a virgo with a cap moon!! Was it hard to open him up because this shit is the hardest thing I've ever done...

Posted by chococream
when both people mirror each other, they usually let the love die its natural death. That is why most of the successful relationships have the aggressive and the passive ones and its vice versa depending on the situations.

This is right on...

With virgo men, they like to be in control so if you step back and let him persue you, he will if hes truly interested. Their will be ALOT less criticism as well and he will free to unleash his romantic side which is what really keep Libra/Virgo couples together.