Where to go next with Libra?

Hey everyone. I have something with this Libra guy and I'm wondering where to go next. Several years ago I had this on/off relationship with him for a couple years. I lost contact with him for several years. Well, I connected with him again back in August. We talked a lot on the phone and got together four or five times (the last time we were together was two weeks ago). Most of the time it was me calling him. I would leave him messages and usually he would call me back, but sometimes it wouldn't be for several days or a week or so (which now I realize is typical of Libras). Sometimes he did call me out of the blue, but usually I was the one making the calls. And this last time when we talked he said he couldn't always return my calls right away. He said "usually when I think about it, I'm almost home." (yes, he's living with someone and so am I, but don't be too hard on us). And he has said he likes getting the messages.

So this last time we started talking more in-depth about our lives and our relationship at that point. Somehow it came out that the guy I am with now knows that I dated this Libra in the past. This seemed to shake my Libra guy; right away he said, "oh that's not good." I told him, though, that he doesn't know anything about it now. I told my Libra I enjoy being with him and I still want to see him, and he said he knows. He also said if I hadn't have been someone from his past, he might not have done this (i.e, he wasn't out searching for someone else). We have always got along great. We have always laughed and joked, and he always says endearing things to me. One time he asked what my sign was (I'm a gemini) and when I laughingly asked him why because he probably didn't follow this stuff, he said "maybe you're my soulmate." (things like that make your heart melt!).

Anyway, we left each other that day (this was two weeks ago). I left a message the next day to say what a nice time I had. No call back. I called again three days later on the way to my Xmas party because we tentatively talked about meeting up that day. No call back. I then called again the next week to say I felt bad about how we left things the last time I saw him and I wanted to say I was sorry. I told him that I didn't know where this relationship was going, but I knew where I wanted it to go. Still no answer. That was a week ago. I have refrained from calling again. Should I still give him more time or would it be okay to just light-heartedly call to just say "hey"?

From personal experience (and I haven't had a lot with Librans), I'd leave it for a little longer....they like to do the "chasing" and its all about balance....you call, he calls, you call, he calls but if you continue to call he's out of balance if that makes sense.....it doesnt to me but u get that LOL....If I care about somebody I would want to call and have them call just because but it doesnt appear to be THAT simple with Librans.

Lay low for a while and see if he comes back to you but if you actively pursue he may get frightened and back off for quite a while but he should come back eventually.

Also, are you ready to go through all of this when you are both living with another? I am not judging you - that's the last thing I would do, but have you considered how difficult this is going to be on everybody? Can you imagine how Mr. Libran will feel when he realises he may be hurting several people? It'd put him right out of balance.

You should probably give him more time, he's probably a bit spooked. I don't want to say for sure for sure to give you any kind of false hopes.
From experience when someone had come on too strong with me, I'd kind of hide away because I have to figure out all the angles to the situation. Don't take his 'ignoring' too harshly, he's probably spending all his time thinking about you and the relationship.
He'll come around again, I'm sure. Us libras love to be around people and its really hard for us to let go of someone once we've made some kind of connection with the person. Seems to me, you've gone so far past the simple making a connection stage, its probably means way more to him now after all this time, he won't let go that easily.

Oh and get used to the we'll catch up and/or chat "soon"....soon can be anywhere between 1 day and 3 weeks!!!

I'd have to agree with crude when a connection has been made, its hard for Librans to let go....they can flirt well too but still hold a connection with that someone even though you might think (being the someone) that they just don't seem interested.

If he comes to you, you'll know he's keen but even then, 2 days later when you dont hear from him again you'll wonder yet again....get ready for a roller-coaster ride but again, do you really wanna?

I'm just a sucker for mine but again, he's going to have to do all the work which he seems to enjoy doing....I'm still going to go out and live in the meantime while he "thinks" so hard....once he makes up his mind, if he ever does, I'll be there coz of that great smile, those kisses, those eyes, and yep, all the rest LOL

Crude....one wouldn't get the hint that you do spend so much time thinking about your relationship - it seems so completely opposite with the coldness/aloofness...thanks for sharing your views with us...it does give us poor suckers hope 🙂

one thing i hv noticed in a libra-gemini is tat both fail to realize the beauty of each others company. Excitement is more intellectual and not emotional nor much romantic. And when both libran and gemini does this pattern matching to evaluate the depth of relationship, they find it bit confusing and unusual when compared to the colorful world of love in the society.

Thanks for the advice. I guess I need to wait it out a little longer. But it's so hard! From my end, it does seem like he is forgetting about me, or that he is pulling back because he wants it to end. And then I think, maybe I should just call and leave a quick message so he knows I'm still thinking about him. But from what you all have told me, since I have made the last two calls, then he wouldn't want a third call. He would be the one to make the next call. And even though there's no contact he's still thinking of me, right?

We have definitely made that connection. In the past, people have told me he always talked about me. And when we connected again this year, he said he knew who I was immediately from my first voice mail message (before I even said my name) because he recognized my voice (even though it's been years). And he said he was very excited (and nervous) to see me again. When we did finally kiss again, he told me it felt right, and very comfortable.

I think he may be feeling a little unsure (or spooked) because of the other two people. And from what I understand, Libras hate to make people feel bad, so maybe he is afraid of hurting their feelings, or maybe he's worried about a big scene developing (I know Libras hate conflict).

So I'll wait for him to call. I have this definite feeling that he will come back again. So we will see. But at some point, we are going to have to talk about how to handle this relationship (especially with the other two involved).

Thanks everyone!

Yes Maygirl, let him call you. I have had a couple experiences with the Libran Lad and they hate to be constantly called, give him a chance. It is almost like pressure to them. Let him call when he can. Remember he is living with someone and they hate to feel they are doing anyone harm. It is a balance thing...

Sorry to butt in - I'm kind of a lurker on the Libra board.

I piped up at the Libran's talk of Libra/Gemini relationships. I think it's so true that while we get along very famously and definately stimulate each other mentally, we're both looking for that passion, touchy feely, romantic stuff that we, being air signs, count on our partners to provide. I know it's been a struggle (probably the only big struggle) in my relationship with my Libra. Hmmmm...wonder how we can fix this. How DO Libras feel about romantic gestures? I can definately put forth the effort, yet if it feels like I am the only one making the effort to increase the romance, I get funky....

If they are emotional about you it should come natural. If not they don't make too many gestures. If in love they sometimes can't keep their hands off. However, being a scorp. I haven't had a problem with initiating any kind of affectional gestures to my previous Librans. My ex couldn't keep his hands off me though. My most recent friend with benes was pretty touchy feely even now there aren't any bene's (LS would be proud of me!!!) I have resisted twice already and am getting better every day. Dam it is hard though!!!

So, I don't know, maybe he is asking himself the same question you are about you?

Libras and romance? hmmm well I haven't seen any romance from mine and he admitted he doesnt' have much in him - pity, however, he can't keep his hands off, his smile is enough to make up for any romance he lacks....guess like any relationship, its understanding how the other works and enjoying the other little things your partner might do - I dunno...tricky