wondering about a libra guy...

ok so i know this topic has been done to death lol but im hoping its a lil diff this time,as its the famous aries/libra combo haha!

been talking to this really sweet libra guy for a while now, there was instant attraction from the first moment we spoke.at least on my part anyway.we basically talk about anything and everything,never run out of things to talk about hehe.

i have to admit at the start we were both a little closed off about showing any attraction, physical or otherwise, towards each other, and we didnt flirt much at the start, there were odd moments tho when it slipped out from both of us lol. personaly i find it really hard to flirt with someone i like a lot ,(i just close off) and easier to flirt with everyone else, the whole scared of rejection thing i suppose.

but we talked it through and broke the ice on that front a few days ago lol and he admitted he had wanted to for a while now but didnt want to offend me in anyway. he didnt say anything specific lol but i gathered he was talking about the flirting thing, not wanting to offend me, and i said i didnt want to offend him in anway either. we both agreed that was that, and we should be more open with each other. fair enough.

im wondering if he likes me? i mean more than just the flirting/talking thing. hes a lil hard to read. when i first met him i thought he was a taurus, hes very grounded, calm, sensitive, a lil indecisive lol (he made me pick out his furniture, rugs etc lol which i tho was hilarious! didnt tell him that tho hehe) so cute *sigh*

then just the other day, we were talking about our weird day, well mostly i was lol (he doesnt talk much about himself, family, or ex's, and i dont like to pry)and i told him about a stalker ex contacting me again (he knows the deal about this), and like other random proposals i was getting, he said i shouldnt leave the house the next day lol we joked about it a bit, then suddenly he said he'd recieved an email from work and had to go sleep to get up early, we usually talk everyday, for a lot longer. we said our good nights and he left. why the sudden change? did i offend him somehow? we havnt talked yet.

i want to ask him straight up about it, but dont want to scare him off. we have already confessed we're both sensitive in relationship matters, so i dont want to freak him out or anything.

what are some of the tell tale signs that a libra "likes" someone?

would he run if i confessed to having feelings towards him?

any advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance 🙂

perharps he really did need to sleep to get to work early. I don't think you should jump to conclusions about you being offensive because I don't see anything offensive in your above post.

As for if he likes you, I was like you once upon a time. I always wonder if he liked me and then I figured what the hell, I don't care, we'll just be friends and have fun and then he started chasing me. When libras decided you are the one, they will come after you so just continue flirting with him and see where that brings you two 🙂

Hi Lunamistress, thanks for replying. yes he has always initiated contact, i suppose im a little impatient lol. but he only reciprocates after i give him signals or whatever, so maybe i should give subtle hints (as subtle as an aries is able lol) as time goes by 🙂


Hi sagiluv, helpful advice thank you. oh i scared him with that...he always says he likes my weird stories, maybe that was too weird lol ok no previous relationship talk. im all for getting and giving space, but i like to wonder about these things...knowing if he likes me is more than enough for me 🙂


i just did the birth chart thingy for him and myself, and was appalled to find my moon in cancer lol (no offense to cancerians 😉) and he has his in pisces. would that help? both being water signs. im assuming moon is for relationships right...

i'm with lunamistress on this one... don't get ur panties in a twist! assume nothing and don't jump to conclusions. that's one of the biggest mistakes that females make with males. they over-analyze everything and assume the worst which causes them to flip out and become unnecessarily emotionally worked up.

thanks for the reply ninjamu, lol hardly a panty twisting situation! personaly i like to know where i stand in situations like this. guess il take it slow for a lil while, see how it pans out.

the guy is jealous and insurcure when you bring up about his ex, i'm dating an aries for almost a years and things are great so dont let it slip i'm sure he got something for you lol.

msg him "I miss you"

thanks for replying Diddylibra, glad to hear about your aries. i was hoping he had something for me hehe but not so sure now.

ive spoken to him since then. jealous or sensitive, either way i wont be bringing up past relations, the only reason i did that in the first place was because hes a friend first and foremost, and i tell him pretty much everything. didnt think it would be an issue when i started getting feelings for him.

yesbutno, yeh i kinda said that to him when we spoke "missed talking to u for a few days" which he replied back with the comment, "it was only a few days and i guess if u talk to someone everyday"... lol oh well thats that. i wouldn't mind staying friends with him, just wish he wasn't so sexy! kinda distracting 😄

you are self sabotaging, meaning you are turning him OFF, stop talking so much about yourself, let him talk about himself and if he doesn't then end the conversation and pick up another time silence is awkward but if you don't let him lead then you won't get to know him in a way that will make you feel secure about him, you really can't know him until he opens up and if your the only one talking mostly about yourself well that gets boring boring boring and predictable because you tell him everything, STOP IT, find a girlfriend to tell everything too, he's your lover and men want to be treated like a lover moreso than a friend, friendship means your not attracted to him sexually lover means I love everything about you and I'm completely attracted to you in every way.

Your killing his attraction with the DRAMA from your past, there is never a reason to divulge information especially negative info about X partners from your past. Slow down, enjoy him and for goodness sakes stop trying to fill in the gaps with your whole life, let him talk about himself, his life, his dreams, his positive past or this will not last very long. Treat him like a lover FIRST and then treat him like a friend.

point being lean back, LEAN BACK, let him come to you, let him talk, let him SHOW you HIS interest because truly he really wants to do it because that is the only way he can gain that fire and momentum to pursue you, it's okay to be interested in a man but women (not all) but a huge percentage sabotage relationships when they finally meet a man they have chemistry with, we move to fast, we tell men our whole life history, we tell them everything about us, the men lose interest because there is no allure, no mystery, no puzzle to piece to together, no challenge, no obstacles to climb over but when a woman is relaxed, she's confident, she's secure a man is INTRIGUED by her essence, he wants to KNOW her, he shows her a side of himself that is attractive and interested in her. So instead of telling him you miss him, LET HIM TELL YOU HE MISS YOU, let him lean towards you, come to you, call you first, text message you first, let him SHOW you he's still attracted to you because without attraction it's OVER, men don't stick around too long when they are no longer feeling that deep attraction to makes him want to shift his focus on you and the more you focus on him the less he wants to focus on you....so I would suggest you FIND something else to do, go out with friends, date other men, go have fun and stop working so hard on this ONE guy.

some libra are tho but we keep it inside to avoid conflict .

i'm both lol, Jealous and sensative blah i dont care i admit that.

thanks tikki33 for repying, can i point out hes not a lover!! not yet anyway 😄 personaly i like all my lovers/relationships to first of all have a strong friendship base. it would be pointless trying to have a relationship with someone you cant even consider a friend. i tell him stuff, sure thats what friends do, but only because he asks, not due to my own self inflated ego lol its not a matter of finding other things to do, i have family commitments, run my own business, too busy to sit around waiting for him to call. as for other guys, yes there are a few but i want him, and i get what i want 😄


Diddylibra, see i dont mind the being jealous and sensitive bit, but they dont show it! if it showed then you could acknowledge it, understand it, then correct it. may i ask how the jealousy/sensitiveness would show in a libra? i know its different in different people, but trying to get a general sense in the libras, thanks 🙂

Sorry airfairy tons of women doing it backwards and ya'll wonder why these men are giving women such a hard time, coming in and out and just not all that into these women who do this friendship first BS, many women find the guy, the one they have this strong chemistry with and then they FREEZE, they treat the man they really want like a friend and they are gaurded, well see how far that gets you.

Many women are trying to be friends with men first and in some cases it can work but most of the time it doesn't, women end up making huge mistakes, boring the man to death, turning him off in some way or another. My point was for you to stop treating him so much like a friend and treat him like a man you want by leaning back and allowing him to pursue you, need you, want you in his life because all that friendship crap is going to do is get you pushed to the side as he's already showing signs of treating you this way. I don't care if he ask, STOP TELLING HIM STUFF IF YOU WANT HIM TO BE YOUR LOVER, these men today are ENCOURAGING women do to the wrong things, it gives them an OUT because once they FIGURE YOU OUT, they are gone, think about it deeply and you will see my words have a ring of truth to it.

If you need to talk and vent my suggestion is you find a girlfriend you can trust to spill your whole life too but not with men until your married. That is one of the problems with Aries they are pushy, I can tell through your tone that you don't listen and you do what you want and that is going to be the DEMISE of you losing him, libra men won't be pushed around, they won't be chased and they bore quickly, your feisty behavior is only attractive up to a certain point and then he's going to let it go, libra men love soft women and Aries women tend to not be soft, I'mgiving you a warning, I'm not trying to tell you what to do or how to handle your relationship, I see a few red flags due to your behavior and if you don't adjust it well he's not going to go far with you... libra men have to lead or he will not budge

If you get what you want then I suggest you CHANGE how you behave because that attitude will get you dumped, he will not do what you want period, it's his way or no way, it's his idea or nothing, he is not a follower when it comes to women.