Posted by ScorpioTruthPosted by starlordPosted by ScorpioTruth
And in my opinion, yes you were overreacting.
If you have made it seem to the cap that you are okay with only being platonic (when you’re clearly not) then you have been misleading. Be honest with yourself and be honest with him. If it hurts you to see him with other women, then you cannot be “friends” with him. You still feel possessive of him which is understandable, trust me, I get it.. but the problem is you have not been honest with him you’re trying to come across as being the “cool chick” that’s down for whatever, because maybe you think it will win his affections over, but instead it’s biting you in the ass. Your “friendship” is built on a rocky foundation. The only way you’re going to get over this guy is if you allow yourself to. You’re getting in your own way.
Yes this is dawning on me. I see now, that he has thought I was cool with the whole thing.
But I think that was my way if trying to move on. I told him I liked him a long time ago, he did not like that one bit. I was rejected. From there I should have moved on. And I thought I did by saying I was fine with being platonic. Like what else are people supposed to do? Especially if they work together.
We have a huge age difference also, so I have been afraid to talk about it. I think if our age difference wasn't so big, I could have maybe said to some of my coworkers, that I had been rejected and therefor was backing off. Because they would want to know wth we weren't really taking anymore.
I genuinly think pretending to be fine and okay is my way of trying to move on. What are you supposed to do?
You’re supposed to be honest with yourself. You’re not ok, you obviously have feelings for him which is 100% understandable.. you laid down with the guy. As women, we can’t just give our bodies away without feeling something.
There’s nothing wrong with admitting that you have feelings for the guy and protecting yourself by keeping your distance. Whatever that looks like — changing jobs, changing numbers..
But there IS something wrong with lying to yourself and others and pretending to be friends with this guy when it’s hurting you. Maybe avoid him for 6 months or so until the feelings fade. Then maybe down the road you will look back at all this and laugh at the whole situation. But give yourself time to heal.click to expand