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There's so much opportunity for growth and learning in this aspect.
ughgh im treetrunking w/ someone who has a natal venus sq pluto - he recently started telling me he loves me but... i dont know in what context the love is being expressed... so... i just brush it off as a “im just sharing the love for you as a person in this world” kinda vibe... & not like an L O V E kinda way.
in synastry we have venus sextile pluto... he’s pluto, im venus...
this thread is beginning to haunt me.
i wanna see him grow sooo bad but... i cant make ppl do what they arent ready for 🤷🏻♀️
Grow in what way?
And how do you plan to grow from this relationship?
If you have that synastry... he probably means it... (not to put anything in your head because anything is possible)
well tbh, he was intoxicated the first 3 times he said it. then he said it, very soberly, the last time i saw him. so, my distrust comes from the intoxicated part of it.
he is a lil younger & has personal problems he needs to work out. he always confides in me about wanting to grow up & work everything out w/ himself. i always cheerlead but w/ some tuff luv. i can be a hand to hold but im not gonna tell him what to do.
the other night he kinda unloaded, saying how he doesnt deserve me, that i am too good to him, & he has baggage... real self loathing hours. i dunno who he thinks he is talking to but i am a MFn scorpio. i wanna hear, know, & work thru all that baggage. im not scared by it... cautious, yes, but not afraid.
i grow thru nurturing others bc in turn, i am nourished by them being nurtured. like... i’ll water yr garden if u bear some fruit for me to eat ☺️ however, i always focus on personal growth so, i will grow, w/ or w/ out him.
Yes I absolutely understand the Pluto baggage issue... Many times I feel so "ugly" and full of baggage compared to Venus even though Venus has just has much baggage if not more but they just come off so beautiful and packaged so nice about it lol.
I never thought about it from the pluto perspective. I've always been too caught up in my own insecurity. Pluto usually rejects Venus eventually any way? I almost feel like what's the point. 🤷♀️
But at the same time of there is no venus pluto synastry for me the relationship is too dull, because I have the aspect natally and I crave passion.
Well obviously Pluto walks away when the love is not reciprocated. See I don't know if you've been Pluto in a relationship but it HURTS A GREAT DEAL when that same level of love/obsession is not reciprocated.
Pluto *tries* to communicate that love but if it's rejected then...eventually that pain is too great to live with. It gets draining really quick. I can give you so many personal instances of this Pluto side of things and you'll be like ..."wow".. the emotions are so strong and overwhelming that it's not sustainable unless the other person reciprocates, at least from time to time and as deeply. It has to be matched.
I guess this can apply to friendships too? Just a day ago I had a really bad argument and possible fallout with one of my closest friends. There were a lot of tense issues, but the foundation of it sounds exactly like this. She's pluto, I'm (again...yay) Venus and she's telling me about how I don't reciprocate or show appreciation or patience with her the way she does me and I was offended and confused as I felt like I've been expressing/showing my deep appreciation of her all this time. I wrote it off to her Leo temperament and expectations, but this sounds a lot more bang on.
Do you think you show as much affection/appreciation as she does?
I'm under the impression that I do, but she seems to think otherwise.click to expand