I broke up with an ex and was online looking for new friends and possibly dating. Met this pisces man, we went out 3 times over a month, he is very respectful and good with conversation. I kinda want to try to be more than friend with him. But I'm just no sure if he lost interest or was just as confused as me, because he stopped initiating contact with me after our second outings. It could be because we both got busy, but I still managed to invite him out for a 3rd time, I feel he should be able to ask me out if I can do that with busy schedule, unless he doesn't want to go out with me.
So after our 3rd outings, I said: I want to ask you something, can you honestly answer me? When we are going out, it's always me asking you to do something, do you enjoy spending time with me or feel pressured to do so? He respond that you always know things to do, (duh, I might be too nervous to pay attention what exactly he said, but the gist was I'm the one who has good idea of fun stuff to do, so he just follows me or something like that). So we compared our schedule a bit afterward (the conversation was a blur to me now because nervousness made my brain blacked out). He didn't message me when he got home like before, the last 2 times, he always messaged me and thanked me for inviting him out (could be because his mom's minor surgery, he said he needed to call her when he got home). I messaged him instead, thanked him for walking me home and wish his mom's surgery went well. He replied the next day and thanked me for recommending the show, he really enjoyed it. I respond that I enjoyed his company.
I admit that I did intentionally keep it at friends distance for the 3 outings, because I want to see if we can both be our true self. A lot of people put on false personality when they go out on dates, it clouds the judgment. So we never hold hands or kisses, everything was on platonic level, that's why I guess he might lose interest after 2nd outings, when there could be more happen but I held back. Now it became me initiating everything, he does respond my message very quickly, albeit brief, so the line of conversation is still open.
My question is does it worth to ask him out again and suggest to be more than friends? I quite like him as a friend, if he is not interested, I don't want to make it awkward that he would avoid me in the future. Do you think he isn't interested or he was just very passive? He did tell me that he always asked his friends to ask the woman if she was interested in him. But we met online, we don't have common friends.