Posted by MrsElleCappysnatchPosted by Pandora101Posted by MrsElleCappysnatchPosted by Pandora101Posted by MrsElleCappysnatch
Rape is rape.
There are not different levels or one more traumatic than the other.
It is all a violation to your body.
Please stop trying to justify it in your head.
and I agree that it is all a violation to your body
the difference is (imho) that if you were a participant of this violation of your body or not
if you offer yourself and/or know this person and then cry rape - you could control it, you could expect the violence, it was somehow at least in your control to stay away
if its a stranger in a dark alley, a brutal assault from a total stranger - you can not control it, you cant stay away
I dont think one is less or more traumatic than the other
I just say, there really are different levels of how to invite offenders into your lives.
If you have a victim mentality, you stay and endure abuse until you cry "rape" (your choice - sorry)
If you get brutalized by a total stranger randomly - you didnt have a choice
It's very simple.....
If you say no before the act, it is rape.
If you don't say no and regret it later, it is not rape.
It doesnt matter if you get all the way naked and seconds beforehand you say no. It is your right to say no and the other person is responsible for their self control.....not you.
"It doesnt matter if you get all the way naked and seconds beforehand you say no."
this will do a great service to our girls, thank you
and to our boys as well, great messege
it DOES MATTER if you get all the way naked and inviting, and then you say its rape
see, thats why I am saying, rape and claiming rape is not equal
would be better to tell girls, dont get naked and into sex, if you dont want to have sex, because otherwise boys will think you want sex (you got naked voluntarily)
and lots of boys are getting into trouble by "drunk as ass and getting naked and inviting" type of girls, who then cry rape because of their parents force them to claim
but, my initial question was, if this is the same type of attack what you endure if you are not naked at the party and dont say you go with them somewhere for money
You are not trying to understand my perspective.
"it DOES MATTER if you get all the way naked and inviting, and then you say its rape"
^^ This is not what I said.
it DOES MATTER if you get all the way naked and inviting, and then you say NO. If you proceed after being told NO. It is Rape.
^^ This is what I said.
There is a very clear line. No means no.click to expand