Posted by MareInfamePosted by RipePosted by MareInfamePosted by Ripe
Yeah, it's another one of those threads?
I met a Capricon woman on a blind date set up by my sister; who thought that we'd be a great couple/match. Neither of them knew that this wasn't the first time someone tried to set us up. The first time was in 2015. We have a mutual friend (a Scorpio woman) who really wanted me to get to know this Cap chick. The second time was in 2016 from a third person. By 2020, I thought "Come' on! if you're waiting for a sign or something, it won't get any clearer than that". What are the chances that 3 different unrelated people tell you.."You know what.. check this out man".. 3 times over 5 years?
Anyway... We did a Zoom coffee thing, and she's attractive and what not... but I'm honestly freaked out about how similar we both are. We talked way longer than we should have about our mutual love for forensics TV shows (Dexter, First 48, etc)... and then she went on about how she liked "randomness", not knowing that it's a cancer man pleasure and specialty (being random).
We talked a few times since and she just keeps surprising me. She's feminine yet strong. Hardworking in an effortless way. She almost never asks anything about me... I'm not sure what to make of that... I know she recently broke off an engagement, so I'm assuming that she wants to take it really slow, and I'm doing my work by keeping her stimulated in the conversation by being funny, intelligent, etc... but still, I'm not sure if she's being cautious or if she is just cold.
To be honest, my gut feeling is that she's "The One", and I feel that I'm already forced to grow in ways that I did not ever think off. It's all too interesting, and I don't mean like butterflies in your stomach. It feels interesting like something is happening within the space-time continuum. I'm getting smitten before knowing that she's into me, and that's not cancer man territory btw.
But before I completely overthink this, any success/happy stories out there?
I don’t know of any Cap women with Cancer men, they are mostly with Pisces men. BUT.... my boss (a while back), was cheating on her Pisces husband and one of the guys was a Cancer man... and she went absolutely gaga for him.
She was usually a very controlled woman, shy and giggly about sexual/emotional stuff but not about starting affairs...🥴🤷🏻♀️
But, back to you; I think these are all great signs. Your sister and your Scorpio friend... both people that know you well and know her well - were objectively identifying all the similarities between you two without being emotionally fogged/involved. I think that is very telling and very promising.
I usually detest dates or getting set up. Not sure if that is how you feel as well, or why you are barely meeting her now, after being told of the same girl before?
BUT... it is also VERY promising that you two hit it off and naturally flowed!
From what I remembered about my boss, she loved how affectionate he was, how caring, demonstrative, protective of her... those things were golden to her. She was very independent and you need to dig a bit to get to her soft, mushy side... very romantic. Or, maybe SHE wasn’t romantic, but, loved men (and friends like me) that were more expressive about their emotions and vulnerabilities.... even though, it was very difficult for her to express.
I don’t know... I say keep contact with your Cap and keep flowing with her. I’m sure the bond will only strengthen with time!!
Sounds exciting 👏🏻
I think I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing. I'll just see if she'd like to develop any "depth" organically. I'll keep this up for about 3 months, I think. I would probably start sending her flowers 6-8 weeks from now, and at the end of the 3 months, I'd force some clarity. Whether she would like to be friends or if she would like to start something...
Ahhhh.... well, organically means; don’t plan anything. So don’t plan your flowers and what you will do, when. Because you might set yourself up for HUGE disappointment if she isn’t on the same page.
Remember; she just broke off an engagement - so, who knows what her state of mind is and how she feels emotionally. If broken, she might sabotage anything that is good right now. So, protect yourself.
Let go of too many expectations. Just enjoy the present moment, that you connected well with her and keep it THERE.
You said you took most of the initiative, so... allow her to express herself and also make some moves. She is CARDINAL like you. If she is interested, she will definitely take lead and make stuff happen between you two. So, sit back and see if she makes any moves. It’s the best way to find out if she is also interested in getting to know you more and you also become more appealing to her because she will make efforts in trying to attain you/ get to know you. Cardinals like to take action.
Your inaction will help you find out a lot without having to sacrifice too much of yourself.click to expand