Okay, fun is back : ) I honestly thought the argument was a pretext. But here's what happened: We went for the weekend to our old town, I stayed with my sister, I wanted to spend the night at her place, so that we could catch up and see my niece. Since the lease wasn't up on his place yet, he spend the night there. But in the evening he came to see me at the nearby park, on his bike. I have a car. It occurred to me, since he was there, I could ask him to please take the car with him - we were leaving the next day. I honestly despise driving in the city, gives me anxiety, I only do highways. He knows this, but I said so nonetheless. He bluntly said: No. I was taken aback, it was extremely atypical of him so far. He has offered on many occasions to assist with car stuff, he loves to drive, etc. I dared to ask why. He said he didn't feel like trying to see if his bike would fit in the car. And it would, car is big enough. That situation gave me pause. Later, at my sister's place, I gave him a call and told him I was curious about what happened, that him refusing off the bat seemed unusual and that I wanted to check if everything is alright. Earlier, I had told him I was exhausted, I had spent the day with both kids and he said that he can see that. So I asked again what was the reason for not helping - he said he just didn't feel like it and asked what I was so exhausted from. I explained. He said that since the car was mine, I was supposed to go pick him up and that I could use Google Maps (which, I am very aware of) and that traffic isn't all that bad. It's a 10 minute drive, I admit. But I really get all sweaty behind the wheel in the city. And that gave me pause too. Usually, he's not condescending, he's quick to help with stuff. He has asked me many times to please let him do stuff. Usually, I am reluctant to ask for anything. I feel slightly uncomfortable. I feel like a burden sometimes. But this time, I ventured. It backfired. I had no idea why - he sounded pissed off on the phone. Explained it was my wish against his. I said that I understand where he's coming from and that I only brought it up, because I sensed something was up with him and wanted to clear the air. He wished me good night, told me he loved me and to call him later if I have trouble falling asleep. Next day I go pick him up: BOOM. Silent treatment. 2 hour drive. Almost no words exchanged. I jokingly told him it seems like he's angry with me. He didn't respond. At the apartment, more silence. So it unraveled for 7 days. I tried talking to him, he brought up the car argument again. I told him everything all over again. He said it wasn't fair that I asked him to do this in the way I did. I told him it was no issue for me, that I understood where he was coming from. He said it was just his way, building a wall, that he needed time. Time passed, I started getting annoyed. I proposed we do something fun to pick up our moon. Have a glass of wine and have sex. That's usually loads of fun for us. He said he couldn't have sex with me like that. And so we didn't find a way to bypass his mood and afterwards, mine. For me, it was blown out of proportion. I think he read too much into it, thought I was insensitive to his wishes. And so, since I've read Cancer men are very sensitive, I came here to check. Does that sound like something Cancers can find insulting and insensitive, really? Or was it just a pretext for something else going on in his head? And yes, he doesn't feel secure enough to talk about this with me. I've reassured him, on many occasion, that I am not a judgmental person when it comes to feelings. Feelings help up figure out our deeper needs. I don't blame people for their feelings, nor do I shy away from mine. I have a therapist which I talk to about everyday stuff, I've done this for more than a decade. It's a good mental health exercise for me.