Yes I get that...and now that it is all said and done nothing really is wrong! Nothing that I needed to worry about anywho...it was all to do with him and putting his feelings in place and to bed.
I just got all tied up and anxious making it about me, which is how I felt. The perfect solution would've been if he took me aside and said "look I need a few days maybe a week or more to sort through my feelings" instead he disappeared. I would've felt a lot easier but I guarantee I still would've felt some anxiety.
Relationships are hard work and never perfect and you can see around the threads how easily people make constant mistakes that cause an end to theirs possibly prematurely.
These boards are great to get other ideas and opinions that can make you stop and think before you act, they help but you have to be open to the negative as well as the positive comments.
My man apologised for the way he treated me and didn't consult me of his intentions but he was carried away with his own turmoil to be thinking about what he was causing me to go through and he didn't have a plan per-say, he just needed to sit in his cave.