Sun Scorpio in house 11 Moon Leo in house 9 Mercury Scorpio in house 11 V
female from USA
Unfortunately, this isn't something I think they can change...blame that cold planet Mars of theirs lol.
I'm surrounded by Aries, and am currently dating one. They can certainly side swipe you with a underhanded comment, be brutally sarcastic that it cuts your core, and sometimes even treat you as if they resent you for no reason.
I find a lot of Aries have pent up aggression/anger, that stems from something that happened in their past. I think this is where a lot of that coldness comes from. Aries are actually very sensitive souls, but hide behind that cold exterior as a defense mechanism.
What works for me...to ignore it, and realize no one is perfect. We all have our flaws, but I think it's easier for me because I'm a Scorp, and we both share the same bastard father - Mars.