Popcorn is best for these kinds of occasions. Carry on folks =)
Why do some people believe in the saying that 'It takes a strong man to handle or love a broken woman?'
I understand the concept...I get it, I get it ----> The right person will help you unpack...after all, we've all got baggage...
BUT, what's up with the entitlement? What's up with the concept that a man hasn't proven himself as strong or 'real' unless he signs up for the job of playing therapist & building up a woman? Why do women put such an unfair task on men? Why do women convince themselves that it's everybody else's job to fix her, to the point where she or her friends/family might even question the loyalty or strength of the men who refuse to take on such a challenge?
Is the concept that someone should accept you 'flaws and all' really just entitlement in disguise? Does that concept sometimes enable you to not get your butter together (butter that you should've BEEN got together/changed/fixed) b/c your entitlement says that he/she won't or shouldn't leave you?
Isn't thinking that way kind of trivializing the fact that people, including men are allowed to have deal breakers or come to the conclusion that your 'flaws' are just too much to handle?
When a woman meets, starts dating or marries a 'broken' man (depending on your own individual definition of what 'broken' means), she may be called a doormat or reminded that you 'can't change a man.' But when a man refuses to raise, repair or fix a broken woman, his loyalty & love for her is questioned, as if he doesn't have the right to rid himself of being a doormat too.
Isn't it just as fair for a man or his friends to tell him that 'You can't change a woman?'
Why is there a double standard on what it means to be a doormat. Some women are so bitter, broken down, selfish & insecure but yet instead of laying low & staying out of the dating arena in the name of not bringing everyone down with her, she refuses & instead calls out the men who won't put up with her.
Ladies, sometimes a man is stronger for letting you go or never really truly committing to you in the 1st place.