Posted by DiamondAcePosted by CG04
So I met this Taurus guy/Aries Moon off a dating app. I am a Cancer/Scorpio moon. We ended up living about 5km away from each other. Talked for a week, non-stop, back and forth before I suggested coffee. We met for what was supposed to be a quick coffee but ended up talking for 3 hours. I then went on vacation for a week, and we talked every single day of my vacation.
When I came back, we talked every day and it was not at a superficial level. We had lots of common interests, but besides that we connected on a philosophical/intellectual level. We told each other about many personal things, including our former mental health struggles. I never open up to anyone, so this was unlike me. Our second date I told him I was going on a walk, and he ditched a family get-together to join. We basically took our dogs to play. Things continued as normal, but I noticed him being more quiet. I realized he was busy at work, but I told him it made me feel a bit weird, like I was talking to myself. He acknowledged that and told me he needs to work on those things alongside anxiety. I did not mind his silent moments so much after that. And I told him if we at least will be friends, I just need a quick “hey busy” so I don’t feel like I am intruding on his personal space.
Anyways we continued as we were, literally falling asleep while texting each other, always saying good night. He even admitted to me about an ex, someone we both knew, because I assume he did not want to keep that from me. I did not mind this at all and we never spoke of her again. He was out with his friends and texting me throughout the night until literally 5:30 am.
Our third date was great, and he even joked from now on I was not picking movies (because it was boring.) He made plans for the future, like summer hikes, said he would tell his mom about me…and then you all know what is coming. VANISHED. Our last message was him being normal and telling me he had gotten home, as usual and asking me about my work. When I replied, I got nothing.
I waited around 4 days, knowing he goes silent and reached out to him asking if he was okay. Nothing for another two days. I sort of felt disrespected, and I told him politely (or professionally according to my friends) that I found his silence to come off as a bit rude, and immature. If he was not interested in me that was completely okay, and I wish he had told me (judging from how much we talked.) I told him judging from what I know of him, I think he would have preferred the same. He showed online as whatsapp but message was never shown as read. I assume he read it, but deleted the message as I did not want to keep re-reading what I wrote.
A week later, I messaged asking him if he was truly okay. As someone who has gone through mental health issues all alone, I was concerned something similar was happening to him. I said I did not meant to come off as rude (although everyone said I was not) but I just wanted to say what I feel. And that I hope he is okay. I even called him. He never answered. Never replied. And that was that. I have not tried since.
I tried to be empathetic. I was pretty go with the flow. The only time I talked about relationships was when I asked if he had ever been in one of those open relationships, or if that was his ideal. I believed we were working towards something and having been in a 4 year relationship that was open before, I did not want that happening again.
What went wrong?
I don't know why I keep reading these same stories where the bull disappears but it happened to me as well right after they say something sweet or warming. It's really weird and unattractive and I thought Aquas were aloof. It's a form of disrespect to leave someone hanging.click to expand