It's not hard. ask us to be honest about our feelings. What we want and our feelings are two different things.
You can love someone and it not be best for you to be in a relationship
You can be in a relationship and want someone else
It's all relative. Love is a P.I.T.A .... that's why horoscopes didn't focus on love for relationships. the 7th house is for partnerships and contractual dealings, including marriage.
your 5th house is your traditional amorous love. the romantic stuff.
my ex and I have 11 (friendship) , 12 (obsessive/secret/self sacrificing), 8th house(sex) and 5th house(love)... we are amazing together... but we have no 7th house connection in our synastry. I feel we are soul mates, we had an instant connection and are magnetic when together and she really wants to be my friend since we split due to 18 month LD and she got with someone else. I'll NEVER be ok being platonic friends - there is too strong a connection between us, I'll be friendly, but never friends... so I'm ok never talking again at this point.
karmatic life lesson to grow. It might be hard for him to lose you, but he will learn from this situation and be stronger for it.