Posted by brianiabee
I’ve been in contact with a Cancer man for the past few months. We live about 2 hours away from each other so we usually communicate over text. Each time we text, I’m always the one initiating the conversation. He responds promptly, but would stop texting back after a couple of texts. He’s apologized multiple times for being a bad texter though and said that it’s not his preferred method of communication, which I agree because I feel the same way, but it’s difficult because we live 2-3 hours away from each other. When I messaged him once, he asked if I was in town because he was hoping he could finally asked me out, but I told him that I had moved to a different city.
After initiating contact multiple times, I gave up and decided to not contact him at all because I don’t want to feel like I’m chasing after him and I can’t tell if he’s interested or not. A couple of weeks after no contact, he texts me and complimented me on a drawing of mines that I posted on my Instagram. I told him “thanks” and left it at that because I did not expect him to respond back to my text. However, he texted me 4 hours later and asked how I’m doing and we even kept the conversation going for about a week. Once again, he apologized for texting me back late and explained why he responded late, but he also said that he’s trying. We got to know a little more about each other but we didn’t get into anything deep (like past relationships or very personal things). I told him that I would be in town and he seemed really interested and suggested that we hang out and to keep him updated on if I come or not. I was finally able to see him and we only hung out for an hour because he had to work. I was very nervous because I’m that way when I reallllllllly like someone. I kept smiling the entire time because he was too good to be true. We had got food and I didn’t really like my empanada, so he offered to finish it for me. He literally ate it after I had already took a bite out of it. I’m not sure if he does that to everyone or not, but I found it strange, yet cute lol he was very animated and charismatic. He kept me laughing the entire time and we talked about school and video games. Turns out we both play Xbox so he asked me for my gamer tag and I gave it to him so we can add each other. I then asked him about his texting habits and he told me that they’re probably not gonna change because texting isn’t really his thing and he prefers to talk in person. I asked his birthday, it’s July 20th and he asked mines. He’s introverted as well, but he comes off like he’s an extrovert (at least that was the case when we were together). He asked when’s the next time I’ll be in town but I told him I wasn’t sure. He mentioned that he should come to Dallas (where I live) some time and I agreed. He told me he’d see me later and we hugged each other.
I text him the next day saying I enjoyed seeing him and that he was very funny and charismatic. He messaged me back a day later and told me he enjoyed hanging out with me as well and wished me a happy thanksgiving. I guess my biggest issue is that I can’t figure out if he likes me or not because the “date” (if that’s what you want to call it) seemed very platonic and we didn’t get into deep conversation about family or past relationships or just discussing the direction of our friendship. I prefer to be straightforward, but I’m a bit afraid of rejection and I also don’t want to scare him off by being too direct or appearing to be very clingy. How do you know when a Cancer guy is interested? It comes off like he’s interested in some way, but I’m not completely sure if it’s romantically. I’m also unsure if I should attempt to call him or not since he doesn’t like to text. By the way, I’m a Taurus woman