Met and Aries in about June. We were around each other a lot in the same social circles and enjoyed eachother's time. I was seeing someone at the time and so was he so no chance for anything to happen there.
In the past couple months he had broken up with his gf and same with my guy and I. Aries and I ended up at a party together and left with each other. Nothing happened. I mean we did spoon, but that's it We kept hanging out and things were going well. We really have a lot to talk about, we laugh 'till we cry sometimes, and we have had some really fun adventures out of town (hot springs, concerts, etc.) Because a previous breakup of mine was hard on me, I keep telling him that I really just hate dudes in general atm and don't like the idea of relationships.
Welllll, this past weekend I screwed up and slept with him. I'm pissed at myself for a couple reasons. I can clearly tell he is much more into me than I am into him. I knew sleeping with him would only make him fall harder which is unfair to him (damn you sex drive!!). I am moving soon which he knows and voiced sadness about.
I have told him a lot in conversation how I feel about relationships in general right now. I VERY MUCH want this guy as a long-term friend. I'm just in a funk right now and I don't want to hurt anyone while I'm in this state. He is a logical guy, older (I'm 31, he's mid 40's), clear thinking and not a freak - but I can tell that his hopes are definitely up with me. If we can continue a fwb thing that would be great I guess until I move but??. I've really never been the type so I'm worried about going that route...
What's a good way to voice these things to an Aries without crushing him? I don't want things to get deeper than they have already.. He has seen a previous guy of mine stalking me (yes, a genuine REAL LIFE STALKER) still on multiple occasions. He does get why I'm nervous about entering anything... Any advice?