if she/he lived,

from an earlier thought, and i've been reading stories about people who have taken advantage of the love of the person that loved them so much..

i think this is kind of metaphysical and paranormallyy...maybe more psychological..

for example, this individual had three women he loved to a degree, but he played around more with the other two and took more advantage of the sweeter woman, who did so much for him.

and when she died, he was in deep sorrow that he was not able to show her the love that she truly deserves.

so when if the person had lived, would the man truly go back to his old ways or is trigger of her death brought on pure guilt from him?

would he have really pursued her and made her his 100%

one example, Ian Fleming's first love and inspiration, Muriel Wright; he seemed to have loved her but he did not really want her 100%



and instead he goes for a woman who is a darker version...who likes bondage and slapping. lol who was married to other men and having secret affairs.





xd



do men really change?? lol would he /or men like them change?



same with women....do they really change? is it the type of person they get with that changes them? ;p

Posted by AneemA04
I dont think he wouldve be any different if the partner hadnt died.
We have the tendency to take ppl/things for granted when we still have them.

yes that's what i thought too...

i have read it time and time again... many novels, books and biographies.

they dont really understand until the loss.

so if they had them back... would it change?

i dont really think soo...but u only get one chance. no one comes back from the dead

Posted by Impulsv
What is his childhood background in the show

perhaps a bit spoiled. id have to re watch it again. but he was raised in a wealthy /affluent family.

besides it is just an example i used because i have read this type everywhere...

and whilst the tone of the man's voice, or writing is heartfelt and convincing..you wonder, if they would ever really not take advantage if time were turned back...

Posted by Ellygant
Seems more like guilt than love.

If someone has to die before you realize you treated them terribly and undervalued them, then I doubt such a self-absorbed person would come to that realization on their own if the person lived.

i thought the same thing, was that guilt made him (or even her if it were a woman) realize how precioius life is...and that he was shamed/heartbroken that he couldnt love the woman and maybe in his mind and heart he would love to atone for those sins..kind of feeling.

Posted by Impulsv
How did it go with the lustful married woman

you should watch the film.. ;p

it's quite volatile..



but he's a passionate man. he will never want less than...

Posted by Impulsv
My dads brother dated my moms sister when I was six
LIke the show he treated not as good as he was dating another. The other came to his country to get him n said she wanted marriage, he married . Aunt didn’t fight for him like the other. She never made him accountable n told anyone he was dating her as well.
The sweet one lost out n was broken hearted for years!!
Do you think there is an ounce of guilt n he thinks about . No!!!!!
Hell no
His life is good , living the life
Her life on the other hand was somewhat destroyed after that.

men /women should be honest in who the types they want...

but they want an angelic woman and a dark lilith all in one.

u can't have one and then crave another. she must be all in there somehow...

or split into two women..

your aunt's life sounded such a tragedy. :/

Posted by -sierra
i totally get why sometimes you'd stay around in abusive relationships though.. yeah the abuser might be a hurtful jerk but also there are times when they're very sweet, kind and warm.. like you know how when someone's a butterty person but they have moments of greatness too?

you kinda stay around to see a glimpse of that every now and then.. and you attribute their bad behavior to alcohol, stress, drugs, illness, etc. like if they weren't plagued by these things they'd be awesome

my grandpa became pretty aggressive after an injury he got from the war and been on heavy medication to manage the pain.. he became pretty butterty to my grandma but she never left him coz he was the sweetest man before that pain took over his life.. when you've seen good in them, you'd stick around and wait to see it again

welll...i think because too, they have through alot...your grandma is not just gonna walk out on the man like that ....maybe take a break and have other caretakers take turns cause too much negativity from him can be horrible...but she's not gonna leave....

Posted by -sierra
people who loved you so much while you treated them like butter will always haunt you coz they loved you at your most unlovable..

you just probably get to appreciate that butter when you're old and feeble.. surrounded by thankless grandkids and people who won't lift a finger to understand you and can't wait for insurance money to pour in...then you remember...someone loved you once

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sigh u make it sound so sad....