Forming families

I need your opinion about this.

For some years I have noticed several brand-new couples are having babies even though they did not want any in their last long-term relationships. Karma?

Maybe I just overreacted but my own bro in law did this, too. After two months they moved together after five months they told us they were going to have a baby.

Almost the same happened with many of my friends: after years of agony and relationships they said they would be waiting for ten more years to have a family. (plus they want to party with this and that...) But after 6 months there would be a 'shutgun wedding' plus a baby with a new person.

Are these never ending love stories? No. Reality hits after some time and drama is ON.

It would also be silly to say these relationships are all rebounds. Though in some weird ways there is connection with their exes. Like those new partners are similar to them or worse etc. Why hurry?

Thank you for sharing your own thoughts.

Maybe the only thing that counts is just how mature they are.

Posted by stopbeingdelusional
I think it's common. A couple of my friends accidentally got prego with a new guy they just met and ended up having a baby together and marrying the guy.

My aqua friend was pregnanat after seeing her current hubby for just 1 month.

They got married after the child was born. They are married for a year now and seem happy.

Good to hear that but one year for me is just a blink.

okay, ignore this thread, I've just realized that every relationship has its own rhythm and purpose. (I tend to be so lost in the details, I cannot see the forest for the woods).

hormones act like like biological lock and key mechanisms for sensing successful procreation conditions and everyone's are unique.

you simply might not feel like having a child with one yet feel a deep urge to have a child with another. nature's wisdom.

People need to be (emotionally and mentally) means tested before they make a baby....it is the most important and profound job in the world and never ends...it is for life

I shudder when i see some of the people that bring children into the world, the poor kids don't stand a chance

I met a couple over the weekend, they have a teen daughter and a little girl of six. They both drink and smoke weed quite heavily....i noticed their energy was totally unpresent



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Posted by MyStarsShine
People need to be (emotionally and mentally) means tested before they make a baby....it is the most important and profound job in the world and never ends...it is for life

I shudder when i see some of the people that bring children into the world, the poor kids don't stand a chance

I met a couple over the weekend, they have a teen daughter and a little girl of six. They both drink and smoke weed quite heavily....i noticed their energy was totally unpresent



😢

Not to feed the devil here but human egos and stupidity could destroy just as much. I've seen men and women using their new partner just to get revenge on their exes...and later, they used their children to get a divorce from them.