Gossip and it's maliciousness.

Hi all,

I am wondering how you cope with gossip? Especially in the workplace?

Well, I guess my answer would NOT be a good one for anyone to follow. But usually, if I have had enough I would confront to ppl involved face to face and let them know exactly what I think of them.....then I usually get fired for creating a scene...LOL.


Confronting ppl is always a good idea. That way, everyone knows that you won't tolerate it and then ppl are usually more reluctant to 'talk' about issues that concern you. However, pick your moments...and definetely don't sonfront AT the workplace while you are on duty. Maybe after hours.

There are a couple girls I work with who constantly gossip, about everyone and everything. Not about me, that I know of (or that I've heard of) because I don't tell people at work one single thing about my life that they "could" talk about. And that can be a hard thing to do, but I believe it's for the best. I think there has to be a very definite difference between your friends and your coworkers (generally), your work and your personal life.

When I was in school I did get gossipped about from time to time, and tried to ignore it but there's a point when you can't because it's interfering with other things, and at that point you need to confront the issue. You need to show these people that your balls are bigger than their mouths (sorry, that sounds gross at first but think about it metaphorically. lol) I would agree with Parallax's "2-5" suggestions. However, I'd do it in this order: number 5 first, number 3 second, number 2 3rd, and number 4 last.

I can't stand gossiping, but I suppose when you work in a shopping mall and some of your coworkers are mallrats, that's what you get, bleck.

Hey thanks guys, i am going to transfer these responses to a work document and study them some more. Gossipers no more. I can't believe that some people have such a lack of self-respect that they have to pry into other peoples lives. Parallax, you're right, gossipers have no intelligence. I always used to say "if you listen to gossip you are showing your lack of class", so we're nearly on the same page 😉 And gee, i never thought my life was so 'interesting'!

Phoenix, i agree with you. You should try to keep your private life to yourself. It's hard though because i have been in the same industry for 12 years and i have a history there. You know, disgruntled ex-girlfriends are always willing to spill the beans if they don't get their own way. Thinking about it now i am finding it funny although the latest bout is quite serious. From now on it's 'mum's the word'.

Lawgoddess, i am thinking about the 'confronting people bit' but realise it has to be done in the right circumstances.

I hope you all had a happy new year and Phoenix, i hope things are shaping up for you. Let us know how you are,

LG.

How I cope with it? I dont really know, sometimes it gets to me. Not because of the person, but the thoughts behind it, I like to stand back and question why they feel about me this way but it's most likely a first impression assumption which everyone does. Or it's an action I took and people most likely misunderstand it or didnt agree with it. But going as far as gossiping about it would piss me off, I have this thing with justice where I have to justify EVERYTHING and fight for myself. But I'm learning how to just not give a treetrunk. Because basically when it comes down to it, people can have butter thoughts but I can have my own butter thoughts also. I'm judging them for judging me and I just dont want to deal with that crap.

hmm. not much gossip on this end. people say stuff just to have a joke and fun. but nothing more. i don't know i guess i'm just not gossiped about 2 badly though.

i'm myslef don't mind. but u see u have 2 look at like ant piece of info is that how truly rellable it truly is.

different note:
Parrllax: what's w/ the name it's intersting and what sort of bussiness have u been in for the past 12 years. gee's. that's my entire school carrer plus about 1 more.

i'm not trying 2 say ur old it's just i can't imagine that long at the same place.

WHAT THE HELL IS THIS AGAIN. YOU TALK ABOUT GOSSIPING AND POST IT. THATS JUST STUPID. HELL! POSTING ON THE NET IS ANOTHER FORM OF TALKING TO0 DAMN MUCH ABOUT SOMETHING. ITS LIKE GOSSIPING. STOOOOOPID I TELL YOU.

No, let's get this straight. Gossiping is the malicious and sometimes stupid spreading of menail details that have no basis in fact (thanks to Parallax for that idea!). Confiding in a friend or amoung a group is confiding/venting/asking for advice. It is far more constructive than gossip. Anyway Longjonny, you must like something about it - you are here often enough. Haha. Also, i reckon you love women and you love their quirky little habits. Come on... admit it. You love it.

ick why the shouting—

Yes LG, quite right as usual about what we do here being far more constructive than gossip.