Love and Why It Sucks

Alright well maybe that heading is a bit much. There are thousands of reasons why I'm thinking I will never find the right person for me right now, but what I really want to know is what you all think about the following....

Is it true that in a relationship, or pre-relationship, or What the Hell Ever, is it true that one person always loves more than the other? That one person has more faith in either or both people, than the other? And therefore is it true that the person who has less faith and confidence in the relationship should end it? Or is it natural that one person loves more?

ndlkufdoifjdfijg!!!!! Freaking god.

Sorry about the blasphemy at the end, I really am - sorry sorry. But I'm not sorry about any of the rest of it.

No one loves but you and I phoenix the rest are users

*And off they walked, arm in arm, toward the sunset, knowing that of all in the world, only they understood each other.*

I know, do we? I suppose we don't. You can trust a person, believing that what they tell you is truth, you can have faith in a person that they're not going to abandon you, decide someone else is better than you, change their mind about what will happen with both of your futures, affecting not just their life but yours too, love them with a level of passion you didn't think you had within you, assure them that you will be and are true to them entirely, support them, listen to all their stories, help them make decisions, pray to God that they fare well and stay with you, devote huge amounts of time to them, consider their morals and thoughts and opinions, compromise on all kinds of levels...you can do all that, and still, in the end, they can suprise you in very disturbing ways.

I believe that your statement is very true. Once a relationship is established, one may love more than the other and then later down the track the positions are reversed.

Rationally, you can't 'expect' one person to love you the exact same, for we are all different and all individual life experiences etv may reflect this. Meaning, the individuals life journey and phases a person goes through (highs and lows for eg) must filter out through other avenues, eg..love. Does that make any sense?

How about just do not play the game. Just stop playing I do not answer the phone anymore unless its work. the so called friend, and outhers can call to hell freezes over just do not relate to them. Have no relationships stay alone its easer so why make it hard on yourself. If you run into them as you will someday just walk on by if they tri to talk just tell them we have nothing to discuss. were you have to interact do so. at a basic level. ask what questions you must ask answer what questions you must answer. the rst of the time look right through them . they will leave you alone after a bit.

Lawgoddess - yes, that does make sense. I'm so glad for the different opinions I get to read around here, many of you think very differently from me and that is helping me learn and open my eyes to different ways of looking at things. What you said does make very good sense.

James, I understand what you said as well. Everything you described was basically how I'd been living my life until this recent thing came along, and it looks like I need to go back to that. Being alone can be lonely, but easier also in some ways. Less complication. You don't have to worry about anyone but yourself, basically. It's sad, though, because I do desire that human connection. But I'd take being alone any day over being in a situation that is too emotionally stressful. In this situation, it didn't have to be that way, it could have been easy if both people had been equally committed to staying the course. But I guess some people just don't have the tenacity or the patience to wait for the good things. Like ketchup, metaphorically.

If you need friends come to the net baby. If you need someone to tell that they love you. I will lie to you asnd you don't have to face me. ILL tell you that I love you baby ILL tell you this all night long, I have outher lies too.

Yeah. Me too! Like....er.....uh....James Tate loves you. That's probably about the biggest one I can think of right now.










Oh, and I forgot to mention- the sky's not blue anymore either.

And that's no lie. In my bleak, soon to be Heatherless world, the skies are all grey. Damn...if only I lived in a city I could blame that on pollution and live forever blissfully clueless about life!

...now you all just wait as I return here later on saying I'm still with her. Yup, that's probably how it's going to play out. I disgust myself. Anyone know anyplace with backbone for sale?



...wowzers, this soggy cereal is about as good as my jokes this morning. *Grimace*

Does anyone else ever get pained when they start thinking everything they've done in a relationship- and it's been a lot- ends up worth approximately nothing?

Yeah, really, James. lol - that was funny and very true 😛

Josh, I completely feel that way; pained...for the results of all your effort and emotional investment, you end up with shockingly no real return on that investment. I suppose you could call the lesson you learn the return on your investment, but that's only "so comforting"...Josh I hope that whatever happens, it's the right thing and it isn't too painful for you.

I have thought about this phoenix sucking love is good love. I am in a better mood I got a little I feel better.

"any love is good love/so I took what I could get/yes I took what I could get/and then she looked at me with big brown eyes/and said/you aint seen nothin' yet/" 🙂