Me and my husband have been living seperately from each other since last week and I am starting to feel stressed and depressed. I am currently staying with my grandfather until I can save up enough money to leave. I just found a job close to my grandfather's and working part-time at the moment. Before I came to my grandfather's I was staying with my husband, mother in-law and my husband's eight other siblings. I ended up leaving my mother in-laws because I did not feel comfortable or welcome. Me and my husband are newlyweds and have only been married a month and have been together four months all together so I've only known his family for a month before we got married. My main issue is with my husband's mother and grandmother they automatically did not accept me since the first day they met me. They like to talk, gossip and say nasty; rude things behind back when I am not around and stir up unnecessary problems between me and my husband almost almost as if they're trying to sabotage our marriage but they say they like me and accept me as The day before I left my mother in-laws I tried to calmly and politely confront my mother in-law about her intruding in our marriage and talking about me behind my back and before I knew it she got loud with me and pointed her finger towards my face telling her son he needs to divorce me or leave her house. My husband did not take up for me and joined in with his mother and I felt like and outsider. My husband is still at his mom's house and is upset I won't come back. I can't even call and communicate with him without getting into an argument it's been this way between us since I stayed with his mom. He said his mom invited me to come back to live with her but I'm not sure if I want to go back. I told my husband I do not feel comfortable staying with his mother again but he says I should go back and tough it out and if I love and care I would stay there with him. But I don't think I'm wrong for feeling the way I do. Me and my husband can't agree on anything. I want us to live independently as a married couple but it seems like he's not really that motivated to move out his mom's and seems extremely comfortable there. Everytime we get on the phone he tries to get me to come back to his mother's I say how I feel about it and it always leads to arguments. I feel like I'm being completely shut out and my feelings are being ignored. It's gotten to the point where I don't know if I can even talk to him. He is disabled and receives SSI 750.00 a month his mom and grandma get a portion of it his grandmother is also his payee and controls his money. My husband has a disability where he can't stand or walk for more than four hours which makes it hard for him to find work. I've been living on my own since age 19 and now I'm 22 and I only ended up in this situation because I was in between jobs at the time we got married. But it's different for my husband he is 25 and hasn't lived on his own yet and I believe there is something keeping him there at his mom's. I remember him saying that he feared moving out and losing his SSI and putting his grandmother in jeapordy since she is his payee? It's frustrating because it seems like we're not on the same page. I just want us to live independently as a married couple and have our own space and privacy to do what we want. I'm really starting to think I rushed into the marriage but I really want to fight for our marriage.
