Meditation...

O.k so latley I've been stressed out and have been having these anxiety attacks. I'm finding it hard to motivate myself as positively as I usually would and this adds to my anxiety...!!!

Basically what I realised is that I am trying to manage a situation that is out of my control...it is constantly on my mind, while awake and asleep...it's under my skin and affecting me for the worst. My mind is a mess...

I need to let it go...I need to empty my mind...I need to regain control of my life and mind...ie.

I need to meditate...

Do any of you DXP people meditate— And...may I be so bold as to ask your methods and any hints and tips you might have to share...

I've also heard that it is a good thing to do in groups...is this true and why...

durrie,

Speaking as a rather tightly-wound and stress-prone person, I completely hear you on stressing about a situation that's out of your control. In fact, I think sometimes it's the things that are out of our control, that have a tendency to stress us out the MOST.

I do meditate, not as often as I should (maybe one a month or so)...and despite having read up on it (meaning methods)about as much as humanly possible, I have found that I have to do it the way it feels most comfortable for me, otherwise I don't see any benefits from doing it. Have you ever read anything by "world renowned psychic" Sylvia Browne? Well in one of her books, I believe the one titled "The Other Side And Back", she said something about meditation in the midst of all her advice about different methods of meditating, and it's stayed with me ever since I read it 2 years ago. She said something to the effect of, "you have to find your own method, it doesn't matter what anyone else recommends, if you feel uncomfortable "clearing your mind" or sitting in the lotus position, meditation will never work for you". I liked that, because I have a hard time believing that only one sitting position or mental technique works for everyone.

Basically what I do, is sit cross-legged with my back up against a wall, with all my candles laid out in front of me in whatever layout I feel like putting them in. I light them all, draw the shades closed, turn off any distracting noises (tv/radio/etc) and rather than trying to clear my mind, I try to calm myself as much as possible physically by breathing really slowly and staring at my candles (vanilla scented btw, which is good for relaxation). I do this until I'm physically calm, and then I close my eyes. And I concentrate on nothing. I don't think about clearing my mind, I actually let my mind go wherever it wants...and suprisingly, after about 10 minutes, I'm not really "thinking" at all anymore. I stay in this state for about 30/45 minutes, and then I feel much better afterwards. I find that as long as you are physically comfortable, your mind will follow suit and your mind knows best how to relax you when you let it do it's thing. Someppl may not consider what I do "meditating", but I don't care because it works incredibly well for me.

As far as group meditation, I could never do that because I am much calmer by myself than with a group of people, but it does sound interesting...

Take care durrie...don't stress too much...remember, everything that's happening is happening for a reason.

P.S.

I'm trying to quit smoking right now, so I'll be needing LOTS more meditation than usual. LOL. We should telepathically meditate together durrie, you know, for like, moral support. hehe...

Durrie,
I find the best remedy for stress is a good long walk. It clears the mind and gets the endorphins going. Its a temporary solution though. The only way to really deal with a problem is to sit down, in a quiet space and meditate. By doing this you are contacting your deeper self, where all the answers lie.

I am a hypocrit because i am the sort of person who most needs to meditate but i get too ansy. I do know, however, that you always have the answers within yourself and you just need to listen to that.

Phoenix probably knows more about the method than i do. Next time i decide to meditate i will log on and check her methods.

Phoenix, give it up girlfriend. The only people who profit from your habit are the tobacco companies. They, like all peddlers of poison, capitalise on other peoples addictions.

PS. Durrie, whats up babe?

Yay...thanks laddies...thanks for the thoughts...TOP babes, both of ya...😉

To be honest...it's all a mind set and I realised that last night. I did a little bit of realising last night...thanks to The Lion...My man Bob Marley and my peace pipe...ha.

You are right pheonix...things do happen for a reason and when they do the don't always go according to "YOUR" plan. When that reason is pro "YOUR" choice it's the easiest thing in the world to accept but when it's anti "YOUR" choice we as humans have a barrier to cross...a barrier called depression...!!!

I was so humbled by this realisation last night...humbled to realise I am just like anyone else in this but more importantly that to be down, up or what ever you want comes down to one thing...

"My own choice..."

I realised after all my discussions shared on this board I had been trying to get people to think positively and to fight negativity and yet there I was...grovelling in my own self pitty and self doubt...ha.

Hmmm...Libragirl thanks for asking what's up...hehe...babe, I love that word. (durrie smiles ear to ear)
I don't wanna go to far into it because it's as I said...I need to empty my mind of the irritation over which I have no control and to talk more about it would just bring back these horrible feelings.

Lets just say "she" needs more time...what's ment to be WILL happen...but life goes on in the mean time...atleast I know I've got you guys to talk to...!!!

Anyways...thanks for the advice...I hear you about what's right for you might not float my boat phoenix. I have always thought along those lines but what I was doing was fishing for things to adopt and use because they felt right for me...

Take care both of you...you have kind and beautiful hearts. I am glad to share with you.
Durrie...

P.s phoenix you're on babe...will definatley try to contact ou on the other side...hehe.

Oh my God...how rude am I...sorry phoenix. Let's see if I can return the favour and help you...

Ummm...if you wanna give up smoking deciede that that is what you want and then from there it's simple...

For me I assessed that fact that I wanted to give up but that the only way not to smoke was not to buy cigaretts. You can't smoke their asses if you aint got 'em....lol.

In the end it was quite easy...

Next time you go to the kiosk or shop to buy them cancer sticks...just don't buy them. It all comes down to the final two seconds of "YOUR CHOICE" as you are about to buy the suckers...yay or nay...then and there...

Hehe...lol...so next time you are buying ciggies just try to imagine a little blue Durrie...with a halo and wings shaking his finger at you from over your shoulder...

"Tut-tut phoenix my dear...you wanna give up but you still buy them..."...hehe...lol.

You help me meditate and I'll help you quick them ciggies...deal...—

lol...haha...look after yourself phoenix...
Durrie.

P.S I smoked for eight years before quiting...

Thought it was a love thang, stay cool.

"Phoenix probably knows more about the method than i do. Next time i decide to meditate i will log on and check her methods."

LOL : )--you're so cute Libragirl...listen though, I don't know all that much, I just know what works for me...hey you never know though; my "no method" method could work for others also.

Yeah also about the smoking, it's so funny because when I started three years ago, I was like, "man I don't understand why people get addicted to these things, I only do it at parties and I don't think I'll ever get addicted..." HA! I was such a naive fool! lol.

Durrie, you're the greatest! Don't even worry about being "rude", you weren't, in fact I mentioned the quitting thing just as a sidenote not even expecting any help whatsoever, but look you are my superhero anyway!! lol--thank you! So you smoked for 8 years huh? Wow I bet it was hard to finally give it up...my plight feels so insignificant now...lol. I'm so glad you quit though! Good job : )...now as far as the not buying them method, that is very practical and straightforward advice, and I certainly won't...here's the tricky part: I never buy them, my boyfriend just buys them for me (he smokes too)--basically we just share them. And he doesn't intend to quit, and then he lights up IN THE CAR, where I'm surrounded by smoke...sweet smoke...lol, no I'm kidding--EVIL smoke! Bad, BAD smoke!! haha...so I need to just like, wear a gas mask when I'm riding in the car with him or something...lol. Oh the humanity...makes it hard to quit when even if I don't smoke the amount of secondhand smoke I'm inhaling could probably keep me addicted itself. LOL! Whatever shall I do??

I love the image of a little blue durrie on my shoulder with wings...definitely inspiring and soooo cute!! lol ; )

Thanks so much for your help durrie.

BTW I looked up Valejo's work and it's STUNNING. So I put one of his pictures up on my profile! : )

Take care durrie... : )
Heather

P.S. durrie, you seem to be feeling a little better now--makes me very happy! And yes you're right, you always have us guys and gals to talk to when life gets difficult...I am sure I will come on here sometime in the future (as I have before) saying, "durrie! somebody! HELP!" lol...

Take care my dear fish!

Heather

P.P.S.

Don't forget durrie...we have a date on the other side. ; ) ...lol.

Heather

Hey phoenix...

Thanks for all the kind words...you are great. Love the profile update...ie. the picture, what a talented man he is, I love his work...did you see the girl with all the butterflies around and tatoo'd on her...one of my favorates...

Anywho...take care...
Durrie.

I dont meditate, but when I am feeling down and I have some things on my mind what I do is pick up my spiral notebook and just jot down my feelings, for some reason this helps me with tension, I guess just getting it off my chest. 🙂

Hey all...

Scorpio woman...you are quite right in doing this that it gets it off your chest but what it also does is it makes you realise those feelings.

We can expect to deal with anything untill we realise it first, and writing down your feelings is a great way to realise them.

It's all about changing or takeing back control of your mind. When we're down or what ever it's because a situation or thought or what ever is actually controlling us. Writing is takeing back control as would picking up your guitar and plucking your favorate choon.

Thanks all...thanks for your thoughts and coments...keep 'em comming...

Take care...
Durrie.

How about a truce Durrie? Read your post here and there's only one thing I can recommend to you and that's a book by Eliabeth Clare Prophet entilted "Access The Power Of Your Higher Self. Your Source of Inner Guidance and Spiritual Transformation". The book is magnificient BTW! It'll be the best $ 5.95 (US dollars you'll ever spend!) The book is available thru Amazon.com.

I was however a "little" disappointed in the book only because I had always been practicing what was suggested (What can I say other than I'm an oldie w/an AGELESS SPIRIT?!). You as a "newbie on THE PATH" will love it! Trust me on this one.

BTW not only am I from an international/foreign country (not far from you BTW) BUT I ONLY TRAVEL internationally! I just LOVE foreign cultures although I live in the USA(My mother's idea of a punishment. What can I say other than I must have been a bad little girl?) You should get a look at my passport! You'd be surprised! LOL

Do order the book. You strike me as being "different". And it's the different ones that'll make a difference in this world. I hope you're one of them. Much love & peace to you.

Saggie...

Thanks for the advice..I will definatley get a copy. Just have to wait for next pay day...Aaaah how frustrating is that. Thankyou also for your very kind words...thankyou for sharing with me, you are beautiful.

Although I don't make a point of it I think subconciously I try to be a little differant. Maybe it's the Pisces in me maybe it's just me...all I know is the cause of frustration I spoke of to post this topic has been venquished. I noramlly would be home by now where I have no internet and would normally have logged on and had my say on these boards but for a reason only apparent to me now it was ment to be this way today so I could read yours and others posts with an open mind again.

Once again...many thanks...will definatley get a copy.

Take care all...
Durrie.

Durrie I am so glad you are feeling a bit better now.

Yes I saw the picture of the woman with the butterflies and LOVED it--especially because I am a big butterfly freak : ) It's funny you brought up that picture because I almost used it but then I thought the woman with the sword might have been more self-representative...lol.

Hope you are doing well...talk to you later : )