For me, looks are what attracts me visually first, BUT (huge but)--it's all about personality after that. I have seen some incredibly nice heart-stoppingly gorgeous guys, and then I've seen some drop dead gorgeous a-holes. The thing is, as soon as a guy acts like a jerk, his previously unbelievable good looks turn to s h i t right before my eyes. Immediate turnoff if he's a jack a s s.
Physical Attraction is a must for most people. I personnally think that to many people in the world base thier opinions or feelings toward someone on what the outside looks like. The outside is the bonus, the inside is what makes or breaks your relationship.
-scorpio woman - is a fox on the outside, and more beautiful than an angel on the inside. and that is what attracks me to her both physically and sexually, and that is why I can not keep my hands off her.
"I am just recently engaged, MarineSag I love you. I am a compassionate person
That is good that you have accpeted yourself, that is healthy, and I just started doing it myself. Like I said in a past post on this subject, they way people act and how kind, funny etc has alot to play in finding someone attractive, but I feel that it goes deeper than that...I have to be physically attractive to someone in order...I guess u could say to start converstaion if I think I might be intrested.
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41 years old female
Personally, I have to be attracted to someone, though that attraction is rarely based on looks - more a case of a person being comfortable with themselves and confident rather than a conventionally attractive person who (from experience) is more likely to be insecure. I've gone out with beautiful people and others who, in hindsight, are well within the realms of circus freak. For me, that initial lust has a blinding effect - i find myself identifying the good points and inflating them so that they overwhelm any negative aspects.
Cortica, I agree with you all the way. Yes, looks are great, but I have dated both beautiful and not so beautiful people in my life, and I think that I am much more attracted to someone who may not be a celebrity lookalike, but makes me laugh and has extreme confidence like he is prince charming. That is very attractive to me. Also, think of this. If he puts himself down, then why the hell do I want him. I am thinking.."am i missing a flaw". I also find that beautiful men usually think they are more attractive than a female, and they normally cheat.
Yes! on attractive. I have never dated an unattractive person. Never really got to date much. I got married and then two weeks after my divorce I got hooked up on the rebound! I can usually find something appealing in every one. I ended up with the ones that had reputations!!! I agree with Cortica; it is more about how a person 'carries' themselves vs. looks! Never found farm animals attractive though, like Cortica HAH!