Meeting People

So it's come to this: I'm completely, entirely on my own now. I was before in most ways, since my breakup with Leo Bastard, but...there was this person. But that person and I are not going to work out, it seems.

Where can I meet normal, quiet gentlemanly types? Not nerds, really...but not ones that are trying really hard to be cool, either. Just nice guys who are fairly mature. I'm probably pretty vulnerable at the moment, because I really expected myself and this other person to work...but it's not going to. I need to move forward here. I just don't know how. I don't go to clubs, and I don't want to. I would dance, but I'm not interested in meeting a guy at any sort of clubbish environment. I am also not going to meet anyone at a bar. Well, I might, but I'm not going to attempt to, is what I'm saying. Maybe I should go to some secluded park and talk to the guy sitting under the tree reading Elizabeth Barrett Browning. (As if I'll ever find that guy)....

I won't find him at my work - not interested in the one guy there (plus, he has a girlfriend, but he's truly not my type, either). I could probably get back together with one of my exes, but would that be stupid? Probably.

I want to get married and have a couple kids. I don't want to rush it though. I want it to be with the right person. I just can't find him.

I believe that if you look you won't find what you are looking for. My sister and other friends have the same problem. We/they just can't find that right person. I think this is a really common problem because back in our parents' day it was a lot easier. Things were more traditional then and they didn't have the choices and options that we have now. Anyway, back to the question at hand.

You have a choice; either settle for somebody you are truelly not 'in love' with and fulfil the dream you have of getting married and having children, OR, hold out for the one that you will love. I would rather hold out for the right one. What i believe is that when you are leading the life that is true for you, you will meet the most appropriate person. Think about the circles you are mixing in; are there the 'right' guys there?

Meeting people in clubs sucks, believe me. That is not a trap you want to fall in to. I think you should go about your everyday life and be as active as you can. Join some interest groups/clubs etc... You need to keep yourself busy and you won't meet anybody sitting at home.

Don't rush it, you are still young. You will find the right person. The guy after mr. leo was probably a rebound, designed to make you feel better about yourself.

I think you should really work on feeling better about yourself. Go to the gym, start getting fit, learn to love yourself. You never know what will happen. The gym would be great; it would give you self confidence you never knew you had.

You know what...I do have this gym membership that's not been used since about a year ago...that really is a good idea. I could meet fairly normal guys there, too..(maybe). Libragirl thank you very much for your posts. I'm glad to know I'm thinking along the right track with staying away from clubs etc. I'll tell you what the problem is - it's that I'm staying at home too much. Afraid to get out there. Therefore there's "nobody" I'm mixing with.

This is silly...but I have been reading about this new study that women begin becoming...less fertile at the age of 27. That only gives me five years to find someone, date them for a good amount of time, marry them and have the babies. That's assuming I meet someone N-O-W. 😢

There's this somewhat cute security guard at the place I work, but who knows...he looks like he might be even younger than me.

He does look a little like Tom Cruise though. And he's a security guard, so he must have "some" decency about him.

I only see him walking around outside when I'm on my smoke breaks. So he probably thinks of me as "that smoker girl".

I know, I'm annoyingly upset right now. 😢

God! Too much girl talk! Girls are like this, i wanna meet a nice guy (in translation it means marker who will cheat on me and treat me like butter!) proof "...Not nerds, really...but not ones that are trying really hard to be cool, either. Just nice guys who are fairly mature...guy sitting under the tree reading Elizabeth Barrett Browning" (YOU). What normal guy would read about that book unless he's a nerd, a dork or a damn pussy. You don't even know that the nerd that wanted to take you out in prom was the guy you were looking for because he won't beat u up he reads the books you read and he's a mama's boy.

JeezusH.Christ! I will tell it like it is, because my brother died falling in love to a girl that was looking for nice man who was a real killer!.

so go figure lady.

and yes they were gay!

bwahaha! if that didn't cheer you up YOU suck!

Yeah....okay....

Yeah, i didn't get that either. I'm not trying to jerk you around Phoenix, i really did go before, but i am back! And i guess everyone is in bed. Sleep tight zzz. And yes, girls are like 'that', and we love it 😉

I know you're not jerkin' me around Libragirl. 🙂 Yes, girls are like that, or some are...and yes we do love it.

lol. Parallax is funny, is who's funny 😛