Meeting relatives

What is the rules if there are any on partners meeting families?

My DD is bitching about my Aries isn’t making an effort to meet her.

I said she will meet him at hers or our wedding.

She said it’s wrong! Her friends (whom I know their whole lives) are dying to meet him as well.

They all are 24+...

I don’t really see him being thrilled meeting her AND friends...

And what is the big deal on meeting anyway?

Just out of curiousity?

Posted by emeraldgem

Have you tried to arrange them to meet and the Aries not wanting to?

No! He will if it’ll be arranged. She is the one who has no time. Her father is behind this plot. 😂

I am just curious about general rule on people you aren’t married to meeting the families.

Aries is talking about me meeting his family...some day...I am not too eager.

I am sure he can leave without meeting mine as well.

Yes it’s been a year in 3 weeks but is it like...custom or something?

Posted by emeraldgem

It is an important milestone. After this amount of time, I think it would be very appropriate to meet your families. These are the most important people in your lives and I think it speaks to the seriousness of your relationship.

It does? Hmmmm

I am sure all of this is important to a degree...like we CAN definitely wait until Christmas...

I don’t want shit to get stressful...they know about me and him. His mother already said to him ‘seems like you are deep in it’ and added ‘are you paying her?’...lmao

It can either be that I’ll tell her off (and I am not planning on doing this but she is just that...toxic) or I’ll be able to be so charming that she will love me. She is also religious type who are going to church for Christmas and Easter but me not being Protestant (at ALL...lmao) I don’t stand a chance!

Writing this all I am thinking:..family meeting IS overrated!!!

We aren’t getting married! WHY should we both be a subject to this stress? Parents (want it or not) ARE going to view me as his future wife and they WILL stress all shit out like if we were about to engaged to be married! There isn’t a way to avoid that. No! Ain’t happening. No reason...

Him and my DD I am sure it’ll be a riot! So I might get that happen! I am kind of want her and her friends to meet him...in a bragging way because he is very ‘braggable’ item. 😂🕺🙆‍♀️

Posted by NemDeux

Meeting the fam is overrated imo.

That usually just opens a whole new can of worms.

Don't let yourselves be pressured into it, tati.

After I’ve answered to emeraldgem above I’ve realized you are totally right!

I am not giving a damn...it’s not a Broadway show!

And so far it’s ok. So let’s keep it this way! 👌

Posted by MissKrabs

this sooo depends on various things. i say fuck rules, especially if the meeting has a judging purpose.

on the other hand i can get you dd, since you are almost living with his son, and he never met your daughter. not sure why her friends are in the picture.

You nailed it! Yes. I think she had mentioned me and his son BUT she is 24 and having her own life.

Her friends are like my young girlfriends.

They came when she brought her bf to meet me.

They love me and we always laughing and having a ball together. And my ex was never social with them so now when she told them ALL about Aries they are dying to see WTF! Lol

It’s no ill intentions. Just girls stuff...lol

Posted by Gemitati

What is the rules if there are any on partners meeting families?

My DD is bitching about my Aries isn’t making an effort to meet her.

I said she will meet him at hers or our wedding.

She said it’s wrong! Her friends (whom I know their whole lives) are dying to meet him as well.

They all are 24+...

I don’t really see him being thrilled meeting her AND friends...

And what is the big deal on meeting anyway?

Just out of curiousity?

It just depends. How much you get together with adult children. Whose house you typically are at etc. if they live with you, if they don’t. But I think when you’re spending time with one side & not the other is where it gets messy. Especially with girls.

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Gemitati

What is the rules if there are any on partners meeting families?

My DD is bitching about my Aries isn’t making an effort to meet her.

I said she will meet him at hers or our wedding.

She said it’s wrong! Her friends (whom I know their whole lives) are dying to meet him as well.

They all are 24+...

I don’t really see him being thrilled meeting her AND friends...

And what is the big deal on meeting anyway?

Just out of curiousity?

It just depends. How much you get together with adult children. Whose house you typically are at etc. if they live with you, if they don’t. But I think when you’re spending time with one side & not the other is where it gets messy. Especially with girls.

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Nothing is messy. They are just no-sy! Lol

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Gemitati

What is the rules if there are any on partners meeting families?

My DD is bitching about my Aries isn’t making an effort to meet her.

I said she will meet him at hers or our wedding.

She said it’s wrong! Her friends (whom I know their whole lives) are dying to meet him as well.

They all are 24+...

I don’t really see him being thrilled meeting her AND friends...

And what is the big deal on meeting anyway?

Just out of curiousity?

It just depends. How much you get together with adult children. Whose house you typically are at etc. if they live with you, if they don’t. But I think when you’re spending time with one side & not the other is where it gets messy. Especially with girls.

Nothing is messy. They are just no-sy! Lol

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Feelings.. that’s how is starts!!

Posted by Phantom_Dangus

I don’t have kids so I automatically imagine this from the daughter’s point of view. I would be very hurt if my mom was in love with someone and not asking me to meet him. I live 1000 miles from my mom and still would have met someone important to her within a few months.

Really? Even if you had your own very busy life?

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Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Phantom_Dangus

I don’t have kids so I automatically imagine this from the daughter’s point of view. I would be very hurt if my mom was in love with someone and not asking me to meet him. I live 1000 miles from my mom and still would have met someone important to her within a few months.

Really? Even if you had your own very busy life?

I think so. It's hard for me to imagine the scenario since I visit my mom at least a couple times a year, and her boyfriend is always around then. They've been together forever though, so that's different. It's hard for me to imagine how your BF and DD wouldn't run into each other at your house sometimes if you live in the same city.

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They wouldn’t run into each other because he takes me to his place and brings me back. We can’t live together until his son is done HS. So while we aren’t living AT my house I don’t see any problems of them not meeting though of course they will meet at SOME point.

I just don’t want to be that idiot who is dragging every man they are with to meet the family. 🤦‍♀️