Overqualified in relationship communication

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I’ve spent 31 years screwing up relationships and wasting other people’s time because I didn’t know how to communicate with whomever I was with. Now of those 31 years, the last 2 I spent by myself learning how to handle people and challenging situations, and my own self and problems. I’ve come a long way... A LONG FUCKING WAY. I’m able to navigate the waters of other people’s poor communication, and explain things in a different manner so they’re able to understand. Years. Years of failing and learning how to do it better. Years of grief and suffering so one day I’d be able to find my “person” and they’d see that I’m not just another mindless idiot. That I care about each relationship I have, intimate or not, enough to COMMUNICATE. Not just walk away when things get hard. Why... after so much turmoil, does the universe have to give me someone that has no idea how to communicate? I don’t understand.
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Posted by GemCurio

Why do you think the universe taught you in the first place?? Did you really think it was for you— Knowledge not shared is useless. Teach the person how to communicate. Step outside of your comfort zone and share what you've learned. The Divine has a way of placing directly in front of us the person going through the difficulties we have just faced. The experience is not meant for us to keep for ourselves like some know it all. We're supposed to give it to and share it with those that need it... So...share it..

You’re right. I started to explain things differently. Kinda going back to basics and I thought for sure he’d grasp it... but then he went the wrong way. I shall try again another time. I know he’s stressed and tired, it’s pretty late. And I also know I’m just making excuses, but I’ll try again when the time is right.
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The universe doesn't owe you or anyone anything...




But doesn’t it supposed to take care of...every one of us? Just asking sincerely.


It does.. It doesn't give us what we want like it's Christmas time. That wouldn't be a loving parent at all.. It gives us what we need like helping hands wohen we fall down, wise council when our knowledge is not enough, the strength to be long suffering in the face of adversity, and loving affections from the strangest nouns in a time of crisis..

It gives us what we need to grow in a world full of whining children in the night..

Just a perspective for my hommi @Gemitati

I am proud of how you haven't really been swinging your guillotine around here for a little while...lol
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You making me think! I hate it! And I welcome your wisdom at the same time. And you’ve missed me being my own bitch...I am always true to myself...

I see what you saying and you apparently correct. 100% . I’ve had experienced a lot of what you saying ‘when we fall down etc.’

I am just laughing thinking that you saying I had changed...you’ve missed some. I haven’t. And trust me it’s not because anonymous forum. I am like this in real life!

I do not let shit fly! I stop it by addressing it! Even with my mother.

I just don’t take prisoners. Hard to believe? Well...just trust me.

But I appreciate your wisdom. It’s what I am looking for. Thanks. Seriously...
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The universe doesn't owe you or anyone anything...




But doesn’t it supposed to take care of...every one of us? Just asking sincerely.


It does. If it wasn’t, there would be no such thing as good and evil, it would just be. You can’t go forward without going backward, there is no give without take, no up without down.
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Disagree! Why there is down when it can be up? Who said it’s the rule?
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Posted by Gobby

The universe doesn't owe you or anyone anything...




But doesn’t it supposed to take care of...every one of us? Just asking sincerely.


It does. If it wasn’t, there would be no such thing as good and evil, it would just be. You can’t go forward without going backward, there is no give without take, no up without down.


Disagree! Why there is down when it can be up? Who said it’s the rule?

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Think of everything as circular. Draw a circle in the air with your finger... you can’t go up until after you’ve gone down and so on an so forth. You also can’t go down until you go up. ☺️
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Posted by KittyKnitter

the idea of a "person" is questionable. i think we meet who we meet and what we do with that is up to us. i have seen a lot of people pass by the chance of happiness when they looked for someone perfect or tried to be someone perfect. people are who they are. we all think and do things differently and we communicate and listen in different ways, showing who we are, in our own time. so even if we have spent a lot of time learning how to be more effective communicator, we also need to learn tolerance. to let people be who they are and if we don't understand them, move on. the universe owes us nothing, life is what you make it. and so is love. you cannot make someone fit. they do or they don't.


I agree with this mostly, but my only qualm is thinking of people as either evolved or not. I put work into myself because I wanted to be better for me first, but also for someone I would eventually be with. That being said, it took me being in relationships with people that more or less pointed out my flawed communication. Those relationships didn’t work because they also needed time to learn and evolve, but a few of them took time to teach me. There would be no progression in soul if people just “were they way they are”. His lack of communication isn’t due to not wanting to communicate - just not knowing how. He sincerely wants to learn, but like kids learning how to ride a bike for the first time, there is a certain level of frustration that comes with learning a new skill. Push back, anger, etc. To grow is to hurt, and to know is to learn.

HOLY CRAP I JUST BLEW MY OWN MIND WITH ALL THAT!