Moving back home

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by Andalusia on Monday, August 6, 2018 and has 14 replies.

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@nikkistar
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I love my mom and dad, but there is no way in hell I would ever voluntarily move back home.

Parents have a way of always looking at you as if you are 12, and forget you're an adult.

And because both my mom and myself are such strong willed women, we clash because neither of us wants to "submit" to the other. And I will not be controlled by anyone, mother included.

So it's best for both our sakes that we never occupy the same house for extended periods of time.

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Posted by Damous

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Hey Mel, come live with me

Who are you?

Fuck you, I forgot your old tag. CapMusic, uhhhhh any of the 100 tags I've made.

Omg, hi!!!!! I'm bad at keeping up with usernames 😢

I'm actually bad at a lot of things.. that's just the one that's most apparent at the moment.

So, are you moving in or what, bish?

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Ahh, good ole Caps.. always on the lookout for situations they can use to their advantage.

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@Andalusia
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Posted by nanobot

I went through a pretty tumultuous breakup, and opted to move away afterwards for a fresh start. I moved back in with my dad in Washington for the first time since I was 15 (10 years before) til I could get a job and get on my feet. He was mentally and physically abusive when I was kid.... and he was mentally and physically abusive when I was 25. Some things never change. I moved BACK home and decided to just deal with everything there, because my grief over my ex was smaller than my hate for my dad lol. He really fooled me with the whole "I know things have been bad between us in the past, but let's have a fresh start" bullshit.

I doubt your life is this fucked up though, so you will probably be fine. Just have to get used to not having as much freedom as you normally have.

Reading things like this makes me angry and sad.

Like, everybody stays a child somewhat, but seriously.. if you have kids, at least *try* to grow up for the sake of your children.. don't put your shit on them.

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Posted by nikkistar

I love my mom and dad, but there is no way in hell I would ever voluntarily move back home.

Parents have a way of always looking at you as if you are 12, and forget you're an adult.

And because both my mom and myself are such strong willed women, we clash because neither of us wants to "submit" to the other. And I will not be controlled by anyone, mother included.

So it's best for both our sakes that we never occupy the same house for extended periods of time.

It's weird, but I actually get along better with my parents now than I did as a teenager/young adult. It's much more friendship dynamic than oppressive parent/child dynamic.. which is what it was when I was growing up.

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Posted by Andalusia

Posted by nikkistar

I love my mom and dad, but there is no way in hell I would ever voluntarily move back home.

Parents have a way of always looking at you as if you are 12, and forget you're an adult.

And because both my mom and myself are such strong willed women, we clash because neither of us wants to "submit" to the other. And I will not be controlled by anyone, mother included.

So it's best for both our sakes that we never occupy the same house for extended periods of time.

It's weird, but I actually get along better with my parents now than I did as a teenager/young adult. It's much more friendship dynamic than oppressive parent/child dynamic.. which is what it was when I was growing up.

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It's the same for me as well. I have an amazing relationship with them now.

But every time I visit for more than a week, the conflicts between our personalities start showing.

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Been living with my aunt since May after the Gem n I's breakup...to get back on my feet n shiz. She's like a second mom to me, stayed over at her house more than I did my dad's growing up.

I hate it. It's pushing a wedge between her and I, doesn't help that I don't care for her hubby. But they're letting me stay so I don't feel like I can tell them when they're being ridiculous. And it's just temporary, been getting a few leads on apts so hopefully moving out this month!

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Posted by nanobot

I went through a pretty tumultuous breakup, and opted to move away afterwards for a fresh start. I moved back in with my dad in Washington for the first time since I was 15 (10 years before) til I could get a job and get on my feet. He was mentally and physically abusive when I was kid.... and he was mentally and physically abusive when I was 25. Some things never change. I moved BACK home and decided to just deal with everything there, because my grief over my ex was smaller than my hate for my dad lol. He really fooled me with the whole "I know things have been bad between us in the past, but let's have a fresh start" bullshit.

I doubt your life is this fucked up though, so you will probably be fine. Just have to get used to not having as much freedom as you normally have.

i always remember you with that tv series i love to watch...

and she went back home to her mother,

Gilmore girls. she got a good college degree but she just wants to have sex with that ex boyfriend of hers who is getting married to another woman

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OP, there's no shame in going back to live with your parents for awhile. To get you back on your feet. I would do the same for my children coming back home and i will want them to get back on their feet too. Thats what family is for.