Playing Games -

I came upon this article and thought that I would share it...hopefully, Susie and Otto won't mind....


"What Games do you Play?"
By Susie and Otto Collins

We recently talked to a friend who complained that the women
he meets "play games" and even went so far as to say that ALL
women "play games" with the people they are in relationships with.

As we thought about his comments, we are certain that playing games
is not something that only women do but pertains equally to both genders.
This "game playing" also isn't limited to just the people that we date or
are in intimate relationships with. Game playing goes on at work, in
social groups, organizations and in our families.

There are a lot of different behaviors that could be considered "game
playing" in relationships. Some examples of might be-- trying to
intentionally make somebody jealous by being with another
person; telling someone you are busy when you really aren't;
misrepresenting who you really are and what you're thinking; agreeing
to go somewhere or do something that you really don't want to do; and
telling your boss at work you're sick when you just don't want to be there.

If you "play games" in your relationships and in your life-- fear is at the
bottom of your game playing.

Many people fear that if they are completely honest and open with the
people in their lives, they won't get the love that they want and their
needs won't be met.

The trouble with "game-playing" is that when you play games to avoid
what you fear may happen--then what you fear usually happens by
default.

When you play games in your relationships--you are creating distance,
disconnection and mistrust. If you are trying to get more attention from
your loved one by trying to make him or her jealous or any other ways
of conscious or unconscious manipulation to get what you want, it will
backfire and only push you further apart.

We both played games in our previous intimate relationships. Before
we got together, we had decided that what we wanted in an intimate
relationship was to reveal our full selves, to be open, honest, share
all of our feelings and to live consciously.

From the very beginning of our relationship, we made a conscious
agreement to eliminate game playing and to be open and honest with
each other no matter how painful it might be to do so. We've attempted
to carry this commitment to every part of our lives.

If you want to create more connected, vital and alive relationships, we
invite you take a hard look at the areas in your life where you play games.

Step one is to eliminate the game playing and step two is to begin living
your life in a manner consistent with who you really are and who you
want to be.

I second that opinion parallax! Great advice Freebird, you could not be more right on target!

OOHHHHHHHH the games people play now, every night and every day now, until there covered up with flowers in the back of a black limousine.