the problem with "extremely likable" people

i think i noticed this first-hand with people i've encountered in my life

i will reveal detailed anecdotes after some posts but i will say in this first post my general observations.

i'll start with their tendencies:

(1) they tend to abuse their popularity

(2) they get away with things

(3) they seem to be extremely materialistic

(4) whatever they do, no matter how bad it already is, people still support them, thus, making their impulses uncontrollable by people around them (which mostly comprises almost all people in the communities they're known in briefly because of their popularity)

(5) they betray "friends" when the latter do not support them or disobeyed their wishes or crossed them, even for the pettiest reasons

i think i've met at least 4 of them in my 31 years of existence

how to spot them (their usual characteristics):

(1) they're funny (extremely funny at times)

(2) they're unusually nice (almost too good to be true but you won't notice the "unusual" part)

(3) they're very generous (treating you to this and that, giving gifts at the most unexpected moments/times)

(4) very welcoming

(5) easily elected for leadership roles (again because of popularity)

the lessons i learned:

(1) i learned not to trust them

(2) i learned to stay away from them no matter what

(3) if i do encounter people who seem to have the same qualities, i am no longer "impressed"

(4) i also learned not to give away compliments too easily to such kinds of people... as they often end up showing their narcissistic sides...

what will make an "extremely likable" person trustworthy? there are some people i've met who are both extremely likable and at the same time trustworthy... e.g. after so many years, they were still able to maintain integrity and has not committed any form of betrayal. these are their characteristics:

(1) they're not afraid to show their flaws

(2) transparent

(3) grounded

(4) not self-absorbed

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Posted by Silverado

Then we obviously won't get along.

lol

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i'm posting this thread to warn people just in case they get to meet such kinds of people. BEWARE.

Posted by Silverado

Then we obviously won't get along.

who are you?

and did you even read the post?

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

But to be serious, I think you're talking about narcissists. I generally see right through them and don't find them likable because they can't laugh at themselves.

not all narcissists are likable

i'm talking about "extremely likable" people

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Posted by firebunny

Posted by Silverado

Then we obviously won't get along.

who are you?

and did you even read the post?

Yes, here is the attention you crave. You're welcome.

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you didn't answer my first question

Posted by GemLover

Well I red the op and I red them thoroughly. I honestly don't know what to think because those descriptions sound so much like you were talking about me except I don't betray anybody.

it's not you, gemlover, lol, don't worry.

if you don't betray anyone, then you're not part of this list

Posted by firebunny

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Posted by Silverado

Then we obviously won't get along.

lol

i'm posting this thread to warn people just in case they get to meet such kinds of people. BEWARE.

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I think its a good luck to meet such people and enjoy their company, most people are not "extremely likeable" so they cling to these people and dont realize, that the extremely likeable people have other people to entertain as well

most introverts are fascinated by them and then feel betrayed if they dont feel they are special enough to focus only on them...

maybe?

they have some many people to entertain, inspire, have fun with, that promises cant be fulfilled physically, if one person cant be on 3 -10 different places at once

they shouldnt have promised, yes

but maybe they feel they inspired people to have the fun themselves, not just waiting for the exciting person to organize it or something?