Wrong post! I meant why does a **Capricorn moon**is sad most of the time??

I need some advice or details of this placement.. He seems to be down and sad most of the time but of coz he covers it up with crazy work, gym, music and all.. but when I ask how his day was or etc or his feelings he either always say he feels butter or it was a butter day... I do get good days sometimes but I think majority he's down.. I do think he did have or do still have depression etc... When I'm with him though, it's perfectly quiet happy.. but when distanct... those are my normal answers yet he doesn't seem to want to share much about it.. I have a Taurus sun so I can deal with it quiet well but I don't know the best way to be there for this placement...I have an aqua moon ...so I'm very curious but I think asking too many questions will annoy him more etc... So How are you guys like? Do u crave more love when down or prefer distance?

Posted by saweetz1988
he doesn't seem to want to share much about it..

It doesn't matter whether you can handle the truth of it or not. The point is, he doesn't want to share. Don't force it, don't push - that only causes one to pull back and shut you out more. If he wanted to talk about with you, he would. If he doesn't, he won't.

Posted by saweetz1988
How are you guys like? Do u crave more love when down or prefer distance?

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I prefer people not to pry. I prefer time alone, yet I want to know that people are there -- as long as they leave me alone about it. I'll work it out and climb out of it by myself. There's nothing you can do, so let it go.

Idk

I need people to be around me but I have a strange habit of pushing them away. I noticed I really appreciate the type of friends who are in ur face wont leave me alone type. He will open up if he wants to, you can ask gently but dont push for it.

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Posted by saweetz1988
he doesn't seem to want to share much about it..

It doesn't matter whether you can handle the truth of it or not. The point is, he doesn't want to share. Don't force it, don't push - that only causes one to pull back and shut you out more. If he wanted to talk about with you, he would. If he doesn't, he won't.

Posted by saweetz1988
How are you guys like? Do u crave more love when down or prefer distance?

I prefer people not to pry. I prefer time alone, yet I want to know that people are there -- as long as they leave me alone about it. I'll work it out and climb out of it by myself. There's nothing you can do, so let it go.

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Thank you...'so less questions... I think with this placement unless I can offer him practical advice he won't both e talking to me much about it. Am I right?

Posted by LibraLovesHim
I need people to be around me but I have a strange habit of pushing them away. I noticed I really appreciate the type of friends who are in ur face wont leave me alone type. He will open up if he wants to, you can ask gently but dont push for it.

Yay I don't get the pushing people away bit.. how have u pushed people away in th past. What did they do? what do u mean by don't leave u alone type?

Posted by FrenchKpricorn
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Lol that exact emoticon I often get from him!!! He's always down most of the time.. he did shed a tear on me once saying he just wanna give up sometimes... I know it's a big thing for him to open up that much.... but still there are still parts of him I can't get through.. And it's frustrating

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Posted by LibraLovesHim
I need people to be around me but I have a strange habit of pushing them away. I noticed I really appreciate the type of friends who are in ur face wont leave me alone type. He will open up if he wants to, you can ask gently but dont push for it.

Yay I don't get the pushing people away bit.. how have u pushed people away in th past. What did they do? what do u mean by don't leave u alone type?

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I can be feeling all lonely and get invitations to go places hang out with people but dont feel like I can mentally deal with it, so I accept then cancel last minute. I also prefer one on one hanging out as opposed to a big group-it can be quite daunting for me and I usually end up on the side observing and listening. I love one on one interaction its more valuable to me. If people dont understand this in me they think im sad, stuck up, moody or all of the above. Once I have a few drinks im usually the life of the party but people dont get the sober me is extremely quiet, lost in thought, loves to just chill with a friend even not speaking but to have someone around.

Ive had maybe 2 friends in the past who always call always wanting to be around me, "ok im coming round now" that type is great because I dont have the heart to say no dont come, and at the same time I realise its actually what I need once they are here! The type who is half in half out will never manage to break through that exterior.

Posted by FrenchKpricorn
i'm sad because i know the truth and i cant change it

Why do Cappys think they dont have control over situations? Grab the bull by the horns!!!! What do you know the truth of that you cannot change...if you wish to share only of course...

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Posted by LibraLovesHim
I need people to be around me but I have a strange habit of pushing them away. I noticed I really appreciate the type of friends who are in ur face wont leave me alone type. He will open up if he wants to, you can ask gently but dont push for it.

Yay I don't get the pushing people away bit.. how have u pushed people away in th past. What did they do? what do u mean by don't leave u alone type?

I can be feeling all lonely and get invitations to go places hang out with people but dont feel like I can mentally deal with it, so I accept then cancel last minute. I also prefer one on one hanging out as opposed to a big group-it can be quite daunting for me and I usually end up on the side observing and listening. I love one on one interaction its more valuable to me. If people dont understand this in me they think im sad, stuck up, moody or all of the above. Once I have a few drinks im usually the life of the party but people dont get the sober me is extremely quiet, lost in thought, loves to just chill with a friend even not speaking but to have someone around.

Ive had maybe 2 friends in the past who always call always wanting to be around me, "ok im coming round now" that type is great because I dont have the heart to say no dont come, and at the same time I realise its actually what I need once they are here! The type who is half in half out will never manage to break through that exterior.

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Arghhhhh I get you now ! Thanks... that explains many many things... esp the * ok I'm coming around now * lol I never done that but I will try that..

Posted by LittlePieces62
I am more pessimistic than sad because what is the use of putting on a mask in a world that constantly fails. Might as well be real and behave real about it hehehe.

No but seriously. In those type of situations I do not like people to be clingy or constantly ask questions. That push me away. I was born alone so I will come out of the mess alone also. It is nicer to have those same people still be there but give me space to sort it and not judge me for the way I go about sorting myself.

Wow you all sound a lot like him.... Thank you for your advice