Capricorn said he loves me...

Should I take it seriously? He said it after we had a long talk and then shied away quickly.

If he said it, he means it.

I said jokingly "Me too" and he shined with a disbelieving look.

Posted by TaurusDivine
I said jokingly "Me too" and he shined with a disbelieving look.

Hmm..Caps don't do well with joking, when we're being serious or have a serious moment.

Posted by TaurusDivine
I said jokingly "Me too" and he shined with a disbelieving look.

Jokingly? Well, the shield that came off just went back up. He may not take your response seriously and it'll probably be a long time before he bares his soul to you again. Caps are VERY cautious with sharing our innermost feelings, especially feelings of love. We tend to be afraid of being vulnerable and if I opened up to you like that and you didn't respond in a sincere, genuine way....well, we see the writing on the wall and will avoid being vulnerable to you again until we feel like we can trust you to handle our feelings with care. So, he may perhaps become MORE cautious and move slower than you'd like because you're going to have to rebuild that trust again, if ever.

You may think the disbelieving look is shock that you love him too, but I have a suspicion that the disbelieving look was that you took his serious feelings lightly and he was shocked that you'd react so carelessly.

Posted by truecap
You may think the disbelieving look is shock that you love him too, but I have a suspicion that the disbelieving look was that you took his serious feelings lightly and he was shocked that you'd react so carelessly.

Yep, and of course he won't tell her that. He'll just be even more cautious and watch her more closely.

OP, if you do love him, you might can salvage this by telling him you weren't expecting him to say that and it caught you off guard, then you can tell him you love him, too.

No, I don't love him. I thought I might but no. I'm trying my way over the Cancer man I split up recently. Just this Capricorn male is so charmingly dear to me and begins to turn mountains for me. I want to leave everything as it is - good friends at work ...but at the same time he feels liike more than just a friend to me. Of course I love him, but differently I guess.

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You may think the disbelieving look is shock that you love him too, but I have a suspicion that the disbelieving look was that you took his serious feelings lightly and he was shocked that you'd react so carelessly.

Yep, and of course he won't tell her that. He'll just be even more cautious and watch her more closely.

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I'm already used to that famous Capricorn observing look. It doesn't seem so strange as it used to be at the beginning any more 😄

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Posted by TaurusDivine
I said jokingly "Me too" and he shined with a disbelieving look.

Jokingly? Well, the shield that came off just went back up. He may not take your response seriously and it'll probably be a long time before he bares his soul to you again. Caps are VERY cautious with sharing our innermost feelings, especially feelings of love. We tend to be afraid of being vulnerable and if I opened up to you like that and you didn't respond in a sincere, genuine way....well, we see the writing on the wall and will avoid being vulnerable to you again until we feel like we can trust you to handle our feelings with care. So, he may perhaps become MORE cautious and move slower than you'd like because you're going to have to rebuild that trust again, if ever.

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Ok then. I wanna be with the man who isn't afraid to cry out he loves me even if I keep silent back.

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Technically, you only said you also love yourself.

Was it a heart to hearty talk? If so, I'm sure he thinks he's serious. Those aren't words we throw around.

No the talk was casual. He said how much he appreciates me, then I said he can talk to me any time. He said "Thank you" my full name, and "I love you". I don't want to read too much into this but I've never heard him saying such words as a or after "thank you"

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No, I don't love him. I thought I might but no. I'm trying my way over the Cancer man I split up recently. Just this Capricorn male is so charmingly dear to me and begins to turn mountains for me. I want to leave everything as it is - good friends at work ...but at the same time he feels liike more than just a friend to me. Of course I love him, but differently I guess.

Ohhh. Work relationships. Bad idea. Now it will be awkward.

Yes, we don't use those words lightly.

For me, I feel like there is a responsibility attached. I only say them if I know, I damn well mean it and I'm ready to walk the talk..

Something is off, or I missed something... are you two dating, in a relationship or just close work friends?

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Something is off, or I missed something... are you two dating, in a relationship or just close work friends?

We're not dating. We're good friends at work but became sharing different stuff recently. I usually tell him what concerns me, he advises etc.... This guy is amazing...I wish I met him earlier 'cause now surviving muddy crap with a cancer male with his immature approach to life. Still can't let go....
The Capricorn guy inspires me and I really adore his personality but we are not meant to be together (just don't) and this holds everything up.
BTW he didn't show up at work today...I just DON"t WANT to think it's because what happened yesterday.... I wish I could call and ask but I'm afraid.... Please advise!

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Something is off, or I missed something... are you two dating, in a relationship or just close work friends?

We're not dating. We're good friends at work but became sharing different stuff recently. I usually tell him what concerns me, he advises etc.... This guy is amazing...I wish I met him earlier 'cause now surviving muddy crap with a cancer male with his immature approach to life. Still can't let go....
The Capricorn guy inspires me and I really adore his personality but we are not meant to be together (just don't) and this holds everything up.
BTW he didn't show up at work today...I just DON"t WANT to think it's because what happened yesterday.... I wish I could call and ask but I'm afraid.... Please advise!

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Personal question...are you guys JUST friends that are.close and have an attraction? ...meaning no fooling around or sex?

He.told you this in person right?.... I wonder if he just loves the person that you are.. period, , and has nothing to do with romantic feelings like.you think.

He's surely feeling something FAR more than friendship from the 3rd month of our work together. I think I might have attraction for him as well. Just don't want to concentrate on it..OOPS already am...

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I said jokingly "Me too" and he shined with a disbelieving look.

Jokingly? Well, the shield that came off just went back up. He may not take your response seriously and it'll probably be a long time before he bares his soul to you again. Caps are VERY cautious with sharing our innermost feelings, especially feelings of love. We tend to be afraid of being vulnerable and if I opened up to you like that and you didn't respond in a sincere, genuine way....well, we see the writing on the wall and will avoid being vulnerable to you again until we feel like we can trust you to handle our feelings with care. So, he may perhaps become MORE cautious and move slower than you'd like because you're going to have to rebuild that trust again, if ever.

Ok then. I wanna be with the man who isn't afraid to cry out he loves me even if I keep silent back.

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That's selfish as hell and a sad mentality to have....for whoever you come across no matter what sign.

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Posted by TaurusDivine
I said jokingly "Me too" and he shined with a disbelieving look.

Jokingly? Well, the shield that came off just went back up. He may not take your response seriously and it'll probably be a long time before he bares his soul to you again. Caps are VERY cautious with sharing our innermost feelings, especially feelings of love. We tend to be afraid of being vulnerable and if I opened up to you like that and you didn't respond in a sincere, genuine way....well, we see the writing on the wall and will avoid being vulnerable to you again until we feel like we can trust you to handle our feelings with care. So, he may perhaps become MORE cautious and move slower than you'd like because you're going to have to rebuild that trust again, if ever.

Ok then. I wanna be with the man who isn't afraid to cry out he loves me even if I keep silent back.

That's selfish as hell and a sad mentality to have....for whoever you come across no matter what sign.

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When the man is sure he does, he won't hide it. If yes, he isn't worthy my love.

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Posted by TaurusDivine
I said jokingly "Me too" and he shined with a disbelieving look.

Jokingly? Well, the shield that came off just went back up. He may not take your response seriously and it'll probably be a long time before he bares his soul to you again. Caps are VERY cautious with sharing our innermost feelings, especially feelings of love. We tend to be afraid of being vulnerable and if I opened up to you like that and you didn't respond in a sincere, genuine way....well, we see the writing on the wall and will avoid being vulnerable to you again until we feel like we can trust you to handle our feelings with care. So, he may perhaps become MORE cautious and move slower than you'd like because you're going to have to rebuild that trust again, if ever.

Ok then. I wanna be with the man who isn't afraid to cry out he loves me even if I keep silent back.

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He is not afraid. He just do not know how to respond well to your silence. Is it a yes or no?

Trust me, Cap is not a good mind reader. But he seldom use the word I love you. == Maybe is me, not represent all Cap though. Not to use "Love" - is either he doesn't believe true love existence or He is not sure .

Cap called me today and said again he loves me. I didn't feel anything and honestly answered he's just a friend to me.
Since I quit my job, we won't see each other on regular basis. I'll miss him but I have no romantic feelings for him. Sadly 'cause he's really a great guy. I'm sure he's that sure, not shallow and consistent person I've always to be with.... And I blame myself I can't return same feelings to him.

there is no need to blame yourself when you can't return the feelings. if you don't feel it you don't feel it. say thank you for loving me but there is nothing more than friendship bw us is the right thing to do. i have learned that the real crime is to try hard to return the feelings when it is not there for whatever reason other than love. it would end up tearing some good hearts apart and no amount of sorry can ease the guilt.