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I want to start off my post by begging you, if you think you have an alcohol problem please get help. There is a saying thats its never too late, but sometimes, just sometimes is it.

This is a long post so be prepared.

Last year a fiend who i gew up with and recconnectef with recently after he reached out to me on November passed away slowly and painfully from liver and organ failure last week.

We spoke daily vis text and video call. Nothing about the past 7 months made any sense to me until i read up on compensated and decompensated cirrhosis Liver damage is no joke. Why my friend never chose to tell me he was dying i will never know. What i do know is during this time i noticed his drinking problem. Only after reading up on cirrhosis did i realised i was witnessing him die right before me.

Please take care of those in your life you know are struggling with alcohol addiction.

I live that life. It is what it is. I've told many people, and tbh many look at me like I'm joking or something. The reality is I'm not going to seek help, and I truly don't expect someone to do it for me. This is my demon, and mine alone. Even if it kills me.

All I can say is don't blame yourself. I know you feel bad, and wish you could have done more. Bottom line is a person is the only one who can truly help themselves. AA and advice from friends and family could lead people to the right way of thinking, but at the end of the day it's only that person, and that person alone who can truly make the change. It's not your fault. Alcoholism is truly sad and evil. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. At the same time people who suffer from it will have to lift themselves out of the dark hole at their absolute weakest. People can cheer them on and give advice, but at the end of the day it's that person and that person only that can fix their addiction. Spread your word and story though. It gives me faith I might be able to change before it's too late. Lastly, I'm truly sorry for your loss. I wish I could have spoke to your friend and exchanged thoughts about everything.

Wow I am so sorry for your loss! I know someone who is going through this right now and it’s sad to watch. I’ve also had people in my past I’ve watched suffer from alcohol addiction. Sadly I’ve lost touch with the ones from my past so I don’t even know if they are still living as bad as that sounds. Please don’t blame yourself for not knowing or being able to help. There isn’t really much you could have done. They have to want to make the change. I even volunteered to go to AA meetings with one of the people from my past and he refused to go every time. Nothing I said or did convinced him to get help. I finally had to distance myself as I could not just sit back and watch him kill himself.

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I live that life. It is what it is. I've told many people, and tbh many look at me like I'm joking or something. The reality is I'm not going to seek help, and I truly don't expect someone to do it for me. This is my demon, and mine alone. Even if it kills me.

All I can say is don't blame yourself. I know you feel bad, and wish you could have done more. Bottom line is a person is the only one who can truly help themselves. AA and advice from friends and family could lead people to the right way of thinking, but at the end of the day it's only that person, and that person alone who can truly make the change. It's not your fault. Alcoholism is truly sad and evil. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. At the same time people who suffer from it will have to lift themselves out of the dark hole at their absolute weakest. People can cheer them on and give advice, but at the end of the day it's that person and that person only that can fix their addiction. Spread your word and story though. It gives me faith I might be able to change before it's too late. Lastly, I'm truly sorry for your loss. I wish I could have spoke to your friend and exchanged thoughts about everything.

Keep yourself hydrated man, drink water and electrolytes and it'll do you a world of good even if you don't stop.

It's really sad but I agree with other posters you can't really do much about addicts they would have to want to quit. I saw it happen a lot. So you gave him the friendship and that's probably all he wanted and needed at that time. *hugs*