2 questions for Pisces

#1 What do you need from us non-Pisces when you are down? I mean when you are in a rotten or depressed mood and you are letting us know everything you are upset about (work, life..etc) what should we do for you? When I first saw this side of my Pisces I was in a state of shock because I had never seen that side of him. It took me a couple of days to re-coop! Do you say things you don't mean when you are down or is that when you say exactly what you mean?

#2 Go to youtube and look at the Zac Brown Band "Free" song. Get through the violin part and don't fall asleep, but tell me if a Pisces were to tell me to listen to this and I would "understand"...what the heck am I suppose to understand when this was after he said he couldn't do a relationship right now?

Thanks!!

Well, nothing since that talk. I decided to write him an email and let him know how I felt and that I wasn't rushing anything, but still letting him know what I needed. Anyway, he responded immediately with a text thanking me for my email and how wonderful I am, and how he wanted me to be happy, but that dating was all he could do right now, but he knew I wanted more and I deserved more. I told him that I didn't want to be in a relationship just to be in one, that I wanted him. I would rather just date him than be in a wrong relationship with someone else. So, I told him that I had to go out of town to a funeral and wouldn't be back until Saturday or Sunday. He told me to think things over and let him know what I wanted to do. Well, I got back and decided to just give him some space cuz things seemed heavy and he did end up texting me Sunday night. We didn't discuss anything. Not sure we need to at this point. So, I was just wondering these two questions thats all. I am just going to hold back a bit since I told him how I felt.

1. Show genuine concern but don't nag and push. Me personally, if it's something that I feel comfortable talking to you about, then I will and if I do, I don't want any "I TOLD YOU SO!" or any of that judgemental crap and harsh words that my cancerian mom tends to give. Also if I'm in a crappy mood, sometimes I just need to be left alone. I think a good example of how I want to be dealt with is this: I was really depressed and worried about something. I couldn't really talk about it with anyone, but when my libra best friend called me, I told him I was depressed. He asked me why and I said I didn't really want to talk about it. I wasn't sure I wanted him to come over and hang out, but he did and his presence was enough to make me feel better and keep my mind off of what was worrying me. He didn't push for details but I could tell that he was ready to listen if I wanted to talk. My cancerian mother, on the other hand, there have been times when I was depressed/upset and didn't want to talk about it. She with her motherly and cancerian instincts can always detect my moods but she'll keep digging and digging, and eventually she'll say something that will annoy the crap out of me and cause me to snap at her and maybe even hang up on her. I always feel really bad for doing this later, but nothing makes me crazy like my cancerian mom.

2. I couldn't find a video of that song with a good enough recording for me to understand the words, so I googled the lyrics instead. I think your pisces is telling you that he doesn't want you out of his life completely but that's all I can tell you without knowing exactly what happened.

My "story" is on the He's A Swimmer post. Thanks for your help! I am learning a lot about Pisces. I accept him for who he is the good and the bad.

The last thing that happened was the Sunday before last. He asked me out Saturday, but ended up having his son and asked to have lunch on Sunday instead. I said that would be great. So, I went over and we ended up getting "side tracked" but afterwards went to lunch. He just seemed off. He was in a bad mood and just started talking about his job and that he wanted to leave a legacy for his kids and he didn't know what he wanted to do and wasn't happy with his current position. Anyway, I was listening and understanding and then the conversation somehow turned to relationships. He said he wasn't afraid of where we were he was next step that he wasn't sure about. He loved how he felt around me and spending time with me. Then he said he wasn't sure he wanted to do the relationship thing at all and that he would rather spend time with his kids or go out with friends than "work" on a relationship. I just kinda looked at him stunned, I think. He told me to say something and I just said I felt confused. Later when we went back to his place I said I felt sad and got all teary eyed. I didn't really know what to say, that is why I later wrote him a letter. I didn't expect him to say all that after he had pursued me off and on for the last year. I guess I am just as confused as he is. He seemed upset that I didn't call him for two days and that I might date other people, but yet doesn't want a relationship. Anyway, I am just going to give him the space he needs and welcome him in when he needs me.

I know. It will take time to trust again..thats another thing I mentioned in the letter. I understand that. I want to give him space, but don't want him to think I've changed my mind, so that will be the challenge I guess. How much to step back.

Posted by curleymom3
#1 What do you need from us non-Pisces when you are down? I mean when you are in a rotten or depressed mood and you are letting us know everything you are upset about (work, life..etc) what should we do for you? When I first saw this side of my Pisces I was in a state of shock because I had never seen that side of him. It took me a couple of days to re-coop! Do you say things you don't mean when you are down or is that when you say exactly what you mean?

#2 Go to youtube and look at the Zac Brown Band "Free" song. Get through the violin part and don't fall asleep, but tell me if a Pisces were to tell me to listen to this and I would "understand"...what the heck am I suppose to understand when this was after he said he couldn't do a relationship right now?

Thanks!!

That is more than 2 questions.

What do you need from us non-Pisces when you are down? ** nothing, we are self sufficient in handling our own emotions. Don't interfer in our emotions or you will get hurt.

when you are in a rotten or depressed mood and you are letting us know everything you are upset about (work, life..etc) what should we do for you? ** nothing, did we ask you for help? No, so leave it alone and go worry about your own feelings .. Pisces people don't need help with our feelings.

Do you say things you don't mean when you are down or is that when you say exactly what you mean? ** we dont' get down, we get honest. You are the one in a state of shock, not him, so apparantly you have expectations.

#2 .. what a bitch. He tells you to listen to something so you will understand .... and so you come in here to say things to insinutate that something is wrong with him, when YOU are the one who is so UNinterested in understanding him that you comment on how to hear him through his preferred avenue puts you to sleep.


YOu don't deserve him then, if when he tries to communicate his feelings to you, via a song (or whatever that youtube is) .... your reaction is of boredom.

Actually I absolutely love the song and wasn't bored at all! I was just letting others know that they could find it boring if they don't like that type of music. I find it sweet that he wanted me to listen to it. And I don't think anything is wrong with him at all. He came to me with his problems and I just wanted to know how if I should give advice or just listen. Someone is in a bad mood today!

Posted by ianthefish
i dunno, just be yourself, and if thats not good enough then you can do better..

Your completely right! I can't just keep walking on eggshells wondering if I am doing everything right. I need to stop beating myself up!

Maybe I need to talk you your wife Ian! Is she on the Virgo board?! lol

Posted by curleymom3
Actually I absolutely love the song and wasn't bored at all! I was just letting others know that they could find it boring if they don't like that type of music. I find it sweet that he wanted me to listen to it. And I don't think anything is wrong with him at all. He came to me with his problems and I just wanted to know how if I should give advice or just listen. Someone is in a bad mood today!

You can take your condenscending attitude elsewhere, as with your questions that you ask and then don't want to hear an answer.


My mood has nothing to do with you being so stupid that you take an attitude with me, rather than actually HEARING what I said .. your loss.


Keep struggling to figure him out then, I won't offer any thing else to you .. you don't deserve me. Your 15 year old is wiser than you.

I never called you names. Also, you said things that I never said or meant like the fact that his song put me to sleep. I am just saying you could be a little nicer when giving advice and not assume things, thats all.

I'm not a pisces, but being a capricorn, I've had alot of experience in getting to know their personality. One suggestion I would consider would be to sympathize with him but showing too much emotion might do more harm than good. Try to make him laugh if at all possible, my brother is a pisces and he's always showing me funny videos or asking to watch a movie with him. One thing that they hate is being alone, but at the same time, if they feel they don't belong, they'll come to that conclusion themselves. They're very independent people, but they enjoy company very much. I fell for a pisces a couple of years ago and I still haven't been able to get over her. It was a very tough breakup for both of us, she couldn't even say goodbye because it hurt her too much to leave. But after she left, we both insisted on staying as friends. She ended up meeting someone eventually because, just as I had mentioned, they hate being alone. But one thing that both her and another piscean girl I knew that was going out with my brothers friend (a scorpio) well, they were having their differences because her birth chart turned out to have a strong influence of aquarius, which is scorpios polar sign. Basically, he was the jealous and possessive type (in her words) and so I tried to help them (hopefully this might help in your own situation with this compatibility) that she told me that she needed her space, but she loves spending time with him otherwise. From my experiences with my piscean friends, they're very aloof people, they enjoy their moments of isolation as much as they do socializing and sleeping (being the dreamers they are). But she told me the same thing my ex did, that she has dated people simply because they didn't want to be alone. I wouldn't say to give up on him just yet, my brother broke up with his girl of only like six months (although they were signs next to each other - she was an aquarius - which is known to never work out - and he ended up cheating on her with a scorpio on his birthday - whom was also with an aquarius as well). But even after at least a year, he still misses her, he has a picture of her on his dresser and tried to give her a gift for christmas, so I wouldn't doubt that your pisces probably still feels for you as my ex still feels for me even after 2 years of our departure. (We even tried the long distance relationship thing - but I told her before she left that she was bound to find someone else.

She insisted that she would be faithful, and she was probably for about 6 months, she even told me about this guy that seemed to like her, as if she was asking me to insist in starting a new relationship. I just wanted her to be happy, it was probably the hardest thing I had to do because her and I got along perfectly, even our sun, moon and rising signs complimented each other perfectly. But we stayed in touch through social networks and it wasn't until last January that she had changed her status to indicate she was in a relationship. What's even more crazy is that she was in a bad marriage, so for her to cheat on him with me only seemed to reconfirm my beliefs that she would do it again, which she did eventually. But I believe that her tradeoff was love for money, but even to this day - I still keep in touch with her through social networking. It's been 2 years now and she had left one social network without any notice because they also joined another one that I was already on. But through her status messages, I still get this impression (and this has been going on for years) that she's unhappy - shortly after becoming one of her friends, she became really depressed. I tried to console her and reassure her that I'd always be there for her as much as I could and I realize that its little things like that which seem to lift her spirit. They like to know that they're cared about, I can't begin to express how many times my brother wanted to hang out with his friends and they would have other plans and he would either get mad, feel abandoned - I mean he really takes it rather tough by saying things like, "Whatever, nobody wants to hang out? Fine by me!" He's been known to throw some fits when he's felt rejected or brushed off cause his friends are like everything to him. But in the same sense, my piscean (I call em fishies - the females seem to like that) friends are like that with me, wondering how I'm doing from time to time - once they feel confident enough, that's a big thing too. But alot of them seem to share similar histories of feeling abandoned by their friends and it might get to them more than most other signs. I've had alot of friends leave me in life, it hurts but I guess since because I've been much of a loner most of my life it doesn't seem to bother me much. But being with my ex - it was only for six months but I don't think either of us will ever be able to get over each other. I've seen it in many of her statuses, but I'd remain hopeful.

Although, when I was with one of my other exes, a taurus - for three years, they were pining for this male pisces that they never seemed to be able to get over. It turned out that they had moved to Texas from PA and they eventually came by to visit, because they were having personal problems with their family and the tension was too overwhelming for them to handle. For a pisces to have emotional problems along with tremendous stress is like having an earthquake going on in their minds. So they felt the only way to alleviate that tension in their personal life was to move back to PA, the other familiar place they were comfortable being at. But when they came to visit, I was at her house and it was kind of awkward but he didn't want to act like a stranger to her cause he knew how much she cared about him. But he wasn't interested in her like that anymore, he actually ended up spending more time with me as a buddy to hang out with then he did with her. She even ended up calling him once when we went to hang out at the mall and asked if she could have her boyfriend back. LOL - but yeah, he was very persuasive, he was driving a Camaro with a broken bumper, being held together by a bungee cord from a T.A. he got into when a lady ran a red light at an intersection he was at when coming home from work. But along with this and no up to date PA inspection or emissions, he was able to con the officer to give him a warning! I couldn't believe it, he was pulled over for speeding on top of it. But one thing I realize about pisceans is that they have a subliiminal way of showing their emotions sometimes. With my ex for instance, she wouldn't tell me that she still cared about (wouldn't tell me she didn't love me either) but she would do things like post a song on her profile that would reflect missing someone far away or it would have expressions in the song that would give the impression that they still cared. I had recently noticed when she was expressing that she was depressed, one of her friends had suggested that she found her 'way' in life. So she replied by saying to them, "What if where I wanted to be, isn't where I belong?" The other thing is that she'll try to keep me from being hurt by expressions concerning her love life, knowing that I'll probably read it. But she's always been a wonderful singer, I had recently found that their same screenname on the social networking site they used was the same one they used for video uploads.

I'm guessing that they thought that knowing that she's perused the site when I was with her, I might check on there and lo and behold, there it was. She posted videos of herself singing songs about missing someone and the songs themselves are specific in their descriptions, which reflect how she may feel for me, even after all of these years. It got really strange when I realized that they had tagged some of my favorite videos for those songs to come up as related videos, even though they're too specific and yet too irrelevent to the videos she posted. The thing of it though is that it seems she may have done the same thing I did to find my profile and trying to subliminally give that impression that they know of my favorite videos (which alot are also songs of missing someone - one of them even describes my entire relationship with her perfectly.) But I digress, this is just one example of how they've been known (in my own experiences) to express themselves, which may be influenced by the whole rejection thing that the ones that I've known have been faced with dealing. They're a great sign, but on the outside they can be tough to shelter their emotions, it protects them from themselves. I'm alot like that too, I become very vulnerable when I let my guard down emotionally. I can see where they're coming from in that perspective because it can be unbearable for them especially. Sometimes she talks about death and anticipating the next life and feeling nothing inside or worthless or like an empty shell. It gets to me sometimes as I worry about her well-being, but much like you - even I have a tough time trying to figure them out. But overall, I would just try to be there for them, reassure them that you care and making them laugh always helps to lift anyones spirits. 🙂

I agree! Thanks Capvirgo for sharing your story and advice🙂