Anyone who would like to support me with a piece of advice, please. I feel bad.

Hi, this is Cancer lady who met Pisces man five months ago. We started dating but he told me he has just ended up a relationship, but wished me not to get far from him. He kept on sending messages and one day I kissed him (I think I precipitated things, but I can’t regret that now ‘cause it’s already done) and he asked me: what are we gonna do? But no one proposed anything. We kept on dating like five more times, sometimes kissing, sometimes not, but I didn’t want to be his friend with benefits. One night we talked abt our relationship and he told me he was still in contact with his ex (who lives in a different city) because she has a problem (her mother had a terminal illness) and he is supporting her, then he said: do you want to have a relationship with me? I understood he was making that proposal and I said yes. Later he told me I had been the one who proposed that and he couldn’t reject me because I liked me much. That lasted one month. Within that time we barely saw each other because he works as a security guard and don’t have much time, but he was texting all day. I had my first sexual relationship with him (no regrets about that because I felt ready. I am 27, but I didn’t want to do it before because I had never felt so comfortable with a man). During that month, he mentioned his ex three different times: first when he told me about her mother’s illness: secondly one day I told him he had had no details with me. That day I went to his house and he had a picture of him and his ex on his dressing table, he told me he had lost details with his ex too and that contributed to put an end to their relationship. And the third time: one night I told him I felt insecure because he still loved his ex and I wanted to finish what we had because I deserved the same I was offering: someone totally available to love me. All of this was said without arguing. And we ended all. From that day we have been texting every two days, seeing each other once in a while, saying we miss each other. I have told him I thank him for everything and what I learnt about this relationship. And he told me he knew I was an opportunity he was missing because I am a good person, but he had her in his heart and he wanted to “see the end of his story with her” (btw his relationship is toxic, they have never been fine, they see each other like once a month, sometimes they stop talking but she always looks for him and is always texting him.) The other day he told me he wanted to have sex with me and I said: no because I’m not your friend with benefits, precisely because I have read that if you fall in that, pisces never take you seriously. The point is: I don’t know whether I should stop talking to him or not. I want to be in contact with him because besides our story was short, it was transcendental for me and he is important in my life. But I still have feelings for him, I like him, I miss him, I don’t see him as a friend, and I have tried to get far from him but he looks for me (sending messages), and he knows this, although he doesn’t know it hurts me much, he doesn’t even imagine that I have cried a lot for this situation. He tells me I am important for him and he wouldn’t like to stop seeing me. What do you think I should do guys? Honestly I feel bad, I think I am getting stagnant in this situation.

Thanks in advance for reading me, I know I wrote much…

Wow, that's difficult. You deserve someone who gives you back what you give them, and it's good that you took that step. I believe that you're important to him, otherwise he wouldn't be looking for you but just wait until you approach him. I think he doesn't want you in the same way or he's not ready for it maybe? As he doesn't take you as serious as you do. It could be that he's still committed to his ex.

I'm a Pisces and once we commit to someone it's difficult to let go, I made that mistake too with my current boyfriend and we love each other to death, but I broke up with my ex a week before I got together with my current boyfriend and met my ex behind his back. It didn't take me much longer to let go of him as my current boyfriend makes me 1000 times happier.

We Pisces need some time for closure and some time to process and accept our loss before we can move on and be with another person. Asking you for sex might be because he's not ready for an emotional relationship and emotional commitment (even though sex is also an emotional thing for me) but just a physical relationship, which indirectly also leads to an emotional relationship because you matter to him. If he didn't care for you at all he would only want sex with you because of the physical thing, I don't know him so this is difficult, but this is my view on it as a Pisces.

That wasn't really advice but I hope it's useful. I think you guys need to sit down and talk about how you both feel, as he doesn't seem to know the impact this has on you, and you should hear his side of the story too, maybe you can work it outh together. It's not just your job, this should be a mutual thing. Maybe tell him you're getting tired of being treated like that and that you want to move on if things between you two don't get sorted out or become clear. If he really cares about you that much he'd do anything to make sure he won't lose you. The fact he keeps looking for you means he doesn't want you out of his life, and if a Pisces is about to lose someone they genuinly care for they'd do anything to keep you.

You should also make him aware of how you feel, and let him imagine HIM being in your situation. We Pisces are very dependent on the ones we love and have feelings for (we can also be clingy), especially the one we lost our virginity to. Honestly, your situation would wreck me, I'd constantly be having him on my mind and overthink and just drown in my worries and thoughts. He has to realize and be aware of what he's putting you through. The last thing we Pisces want, is to hurt the ones we care for. So if he realizes that, I hope he will change his ways.

Goodluck 🙂 I hope I helped or at least could give you my view on it as a Pisces. Keep me updated if you'd like!

I think if you really love him you should read this again and again

Posted by AdrianaCrabTor
he had her in his heart and he wanted to “see the end of his story with her”

...and actually wish him the best in your mind and move on.

Pisces don't think less of you because of sex! Maybe you can make him to forget his ex by hazing sex?

Just stop treating sex as is a thing only he wants.

It was a mistake to get involved with this man. You say your looking for someone whose available to love you. He's not the one. And he told you this by mentioning his attachment to his ex constantly throughout your dealings with each other.

That should've been a red flag warning to pull back. Instead you dove right in. Live and learn.

Posted by Gemitati
Pisces don't think less of you because of sex! Maybe you can make him to forget his ex by hazing sex?

Just stop treating sex as is a thing only he wants.

@Adrianacrabtor

Take geminati's advice with a grain of salt. She is a married female cheating with a man who is also married and bemoans the fact he hasn't left his wife for her.

In her situation throwing her sex at him hasn't made him forget his wife. Doubt it would work in your situation.

@Adrianacrabtor

LadyNeptune is a very bitter sex deprived person who wishes but don't get it.

That's why she can't get enough of me.

I am speaking from experience of 4 years trying to figure out my love life.

And yes dear - Pisces are highly sexual people and I can tell you the more we get together - the closer we get emotionally.

He told me it is harder and harder to leave me each time we spend time together.

So to each it's own and I hope you will cut his ties to his past.