How to handle the situation with an Aqua male

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by tikihare142 on Wednesday, April 26, 2017 and has 7 replies.

Hi all,

I am in a tiff with my Aqua man. I posted this to a reply in the "Astrology" section, but I am not sure how to address my situation. Here is the bulk of how my Aqua man is acting.

Backstory: I am a Cancer female and he is an Aquarius. We've been together for about 6 years. About 2 or so years ago we broke apart for about 6 months. During the retrograde of '15 (and unaware of it being a retrograde), I contacted him and we have been kosher since.

Starting in the beginning of March, he was acting not like himself. He was more withdrawn/quiet than his typical self. Events and whatnot he typically is a part of with work he has decided to withdraw himself as well. At times, I even called him out on it. He said it was work, his kids, etc.

It is 2 weeks today since we have spoken. With myself being a moody/emotional cancer, I was having a rough week at work. On 4/11/17, he called me from work while I was in the middle of a workout, and he said he'll call me back when he's on the way to his kid's sporting event, but needed to call his buddy first about fixing something at his house. Cool-- no problem. Instead of calling me back he sends me a text an hour later that says "talk to you tomorrow—" I replied with "k. Fine." (I go to bed early for work and the event was going to run late). Already being in a bad mood, this made it worse as all I wanted to do that day was talk to him. The next, and I didn't pick up. Should I have picked up-- yes. I am full of guilt for not doing so. He knew I was irritated. He left a voicemail that says "I'll try you tomorrow" and I haven't heard from him since.

I think this is a combination between the Venus and Mercury retrograde. Although we have bickered in the past, but he has never gone AWOL. He knows sometimes I need a day or so to just chill out with my frustration, and vis-versa-- but he has never just disappeared. We have always talked it out.

I am not sure how this will turn out, but I am heartbroken. Was it wrong for me to not pick up that Wednesday (4/12)? Yes.... but I was expecting his call the next day.

My intuition is to not contact him first-- just a gut feeling.

I am not sure if this is his way of needing space, or whatnot. I am not sure what to do either if he contacts me again. I am not used to ending a relationship with unfinished business. He has always been pretty open with me when it came to his emotions/how he is feeling.

@saweetz1988

13 Years1,000+ Posts

Not an Aqua but why do you need for him to make a move again?

@compy

9 Years1,000+ Posts

Reach for him, because it's not his problem to deal with your moods, but yours. He gave you the space to recompose yourself. He has not detached from you, they don't do it so easily and for nothing.

@The_eleventh_sign_11

16 Years5,000+ Posts

6 years and only now you guys are pulling this shit?

You need to find out how much your pride means to you because it is holding you back from being happy. You're so salty..

@Tikihare

9 Years

What do you mean by butter? I am not familiar with that term in that context.

Just the whole issue with him not calling when he said he would the next day and not even trying to contact me. I know I can contact him... But still....