Help !

This is directed to all you pisces fem's

I am a cancer male going on with a fem fish for some time now.
Till now it,s been great,she is engaged and she has told me that,inspite of that
she is friendly with me as before.
Till now we have met a number of times but we didn,t get past touching and fondling each other.
But for quiet some time I have subtely felt that she want,s to go further,but i am not sure.How should I be confident of this.
She just leaves me guessing.what should I do to get her talk about what she has in her mind.Please help........

Is she engaged to another man?

deep water,

How can you be "confident" about anything... when she is engaged? Confident about what? Sex?

Well yes caridad she got engaged to another person after our friendship started
Now she must be having something on her mind .......I don't know for sure,she is so confusing or it seems to me like that,how can I clear this confusion.

One day we went to park and she told me that her bra is unhooked and told me to hook it.shall I take it as an indication—
She keeps repeatedly saying that she wants to tell me something but is afraid of me getting angry,I have repeatedly told her to tell me frankly what is it,but she dosen't tell me.

Is that something bad on my part to think like that.

I can see why your confused!

You really need to have a heart felt talk with this girl. Since she is engaged to another; you don't want to be invading a relationship. She has some decisions to make. Does she want a relationship with you or does she want her cake and eat it to?

Maybe she is confused as well and is unsure of what she wants? Maybe she wants to tell you she just wants to be friends? And is afraid to be honest for fear of getting you angry. Maybe she lead you on a little and is feeling remorse for that.

I don't know if I would read into the bra incident. It could have truly come undone and needed hooked. Yet again she surely could have managed hooking it on her own and instead asked for your assistance. I guess it would depend on how close your are.

Just be sincere and honest when you talk to her and she should respond with the same sincerity. Good luck!

caridad you got to help me out on this please,

the thing is I am hell of a confused person with this gal,

Today she sent me some silly questions,and told me to answer those,which I did,after which she mailed me that I had scored 101/100 and wrote that she is very happy with me and I will get whatever I want.

going back to that bra incident,at that point of time she was very nervous,I got the point,but just because she is engaged held me back.

Can the situation be other way round that she too wants it!!! but just that she is a girl and unsure of my reaction,she is not coming straight.

GOD........I will get mad for sure!!!

If at all,that is the case,that she wants it and let us assume that I ask her about it(Though we have never talked over anything on those lines,it's been just pure and simple talk) it will be difficult for me,but then will she regret it later—
will she go ahead— I know she is a pisces and you people do everything to make your loved ones happy(that is entirely my opinion).I simply dont want her to do it and regret it later,But if she does it out of her own desire and is happy afterwards,I dont mind,After all who dosent want it.......Kindly guide folks...

More confusion.

"You will get whatever you want." What does that mean? From her or the universe?

Your a gentleman for holding back during the bra incident. She may very well want it to. But because she is engaged to another; she may not want to be cast in a bad light. So she doesn't fully act on her feelings. Not wanting you or her fiance to think ill of her.

I don't know if I would move ahead without her being totally single. It could be hard on you if you two don't work out or if the fiance finds out. Tell her how you feel ask her what she feels. That way when and if you move ahead there will be no regrets.

...I am a pisces generally I would do anything for my love ones. However if it would interfere with my happiness or my moral standards than I have no problem saying no.

Cary Thanks A lot,I really appreciate your adv.

Now it will be more better if you could clear my confusion a bit more.
The thing is this that I know in hearts of my hearts that the thing is for sure as I am getting it,cause she is sounding more clearer day after day,giving me some clearer signals,great what you say??
But,but ,but....shall I go ahead and plan it,someway round,or shall I deny it outright.
I want to go ahead with her consent(here I mean mentally),

Just today I had talk with her and when I asked her that what is the diff b/w just thinking one must act also,to which she said that just thinking gives a lot of pleasure. So is she just thinking and imagining it and dosen't know the consequences,GOD you Pisces folks really will drive all practical persons on this earth Crrrrrrrrrrrrrrazy......

We drive ourselves crazy!

I would not move forward because she said "just thinking gives a lot of pleasure". To me that means she is not ready.

Thanks dear for all your opinions,thanks really

Got to see how things turn up....

God help me!!!

I just want her to be happy,and dosen't want this fish to swim away from me,
Which ultimately I think is going to happen at last!!!
Let us see

Your welcome and good luck! Many have told me "what will be; will be" when it comes to relationships. However; I have never found comfort in these words. And I stuggle often with the concepts of destiny and free will. But we all must have faith in the fact that there is someone out there for us. And we just need to be open to all the possibilities that there can be.

It may not be the person we initial thought or wanted it to be. But it can turn out even more beautiful when it is unexpected and falls naturally the way it should.

Today I had A long talk with her over the phone,God was she double minded!!!!
she first mailed me in which she wrote that she was in great confusion bcos of me and that we should stop seeing each other for some time and the sent me another mail in which she wrote that
we should carry on meeting and I should not pay attention to the first mail

Dear dear dear how should I clear her confusion tell me some way,I am ready to let it go from my side I dnt mind it at all but I just worry bt her,tell me some way how should I handle the situation.Can't it be that we can stay friends,She is Imagining much more and when it dosent seem practical to her she gets sad.

I have accepted this fact that we are just friends and nothing else,can't she also get this thing in her mind.

Oh LOL. Another Pisces faces with alot of variables. Can you see how much she is confused?

Dude. It seems like she is facing alot of choises and dont want to make a mistake. I dont know how you going to figure this situation out, because things for her change soo fast that if we try to put all what on her mind we will get 100 paged topic here. She have to decide what is more important for her; you or her other man. You are not Pisces and I dont think you could keep up with her mind change LOL. Your only solution is to let her to make her own decisions. Good luck.

Thanks haffo,
How does the choice arise,the other felow is her fiancee and I am her friend,just that so there is no comparison,This is what I am trying to make her undrstnd.

Can't we be just friends,just good friends————————

Hell with this world!!!!!

deep_water_current!!

?Those damn trees, wont allow me to see the jungle..!!?

Simplifying of mind/heart/feelings is an art work man?.!! You have the facts as:

? She is engaged.
? You are in love with her.
? She knows what she is after.
? You don?t.

Whether you like is or not, her future will be with her fianc? while you can see yourself in sorrow and drowned in alcohols to get rid of the pain.

You say damn this world, this is the world you created for yourself by stepping into the confusion by your own choice.

Let it go..!

Logic says: if you go further and say things to her, and if she is not agreeing with you. You are the loser.! And if you don?t, she moves to her fianc? (husband later) and you lose her anyway.

What more you are going to lose?

Now.. take a deep breath and instead of making more confusion for yourself step out side and talk to her directly about your feelings and wishes ?without any expectations?, it?s the only chance you have to take.

I?ll promise you that you feel better after that, one way or another.!

Thanks Haffo,
Today I have done exactly what you wrote,I made her understand that her future is with her husband and not with me,I have never been in love with her cos I have known this fact bfor that we both will suffer if we take it like that,but she somehow got the idea.Caridad had written that we(Pisces) don't like the fact that what is,is.I am having a hard time making her understand that what is is but she just wants to escape the reality,

I don't have any regrets,just that it should be clear from my side,I will make efforts.

You have chosen the right decition Deep Water Current. Now she will have to figure out among her problems what is the most important thing for her is. Now, sit wait and hope for the best. LOL!

Hope Hope Hope..............
This world lives by this word!!!