how does a pisces justify cheating on their SO?

An older pisces man approached me awhile back and after dating for about a month, it came into passing that hes already married. The information was prompted by me one day, it was not volunteered when we first met.

As soon as I knew, I wanted out. He persisted and insisted on it being okay. I kept asking him how can it be okay? He justified it by reasoning that his wife is not around for half the time. He wanted (and still does want) to have an exclusive relationship with me; he showed me off to his friends when we met up with them sometimes and got jealous when we got a bit too friendly with each other.

After all that, I had to shut him off completely- no texts, calls, dates. went cold turkey. extremely difficult, what with my venus in aquarius and him pestering me.

I guess Im still unsatisfied by the recent events and I need to learn to let him go mentally, emotionally, like I have physically. As a pisces or individual, how would you justify cheating, if you would? I dont get this guy and Im mad at myself for falling for someone unattainable by moral standards.

Sorry for going on a bit of a rant there..🙂

Posted by Diora_Capri

I need to learn to let him go mentally, emotionally, like I have physically.

.... which means, you have NOT let him go mentally and emotionally.

So, how do Capricorns justify emotionally and mentally cheating with a married man?

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Diora_Capri

I need to learn to let him go mentally, emotionally, like I have physically.

.... which means, you have NOT let him go mentally and emotionally.

So, how do Capricorns justify emotionally and mentally cheating with a married man?

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P, I dont because I disagree with cheating, which is why as soon as I knew, I stopped the relationship and everything that comes with it. THe process of letting him go mentally and emotionally, Im sure you know, wont be easy and quick but its my weight to bear, I am doing it, I want to do it.

the point of this thread is to understand as in, I just cant understand why hed think its okay and after reading about some pisces's tendency to cheat (I am not saying all of them or just pisces or just men but this is specific to my context), I thought Id ask for your opinions, is all. Dont need to get snappy..

Posted by tiziani
I don't know, if I'm being honest I have seen my best friend - a Pisces - use the same out of sight, out of mind reasoning too. I never quite knew what arrangements he had with his girlfriends of the time though. I just know when he found out one of them had cheated on him, he was devastated.

the double standards thing...sneaky fishes!🙂

Posted by Diora_Capri


As soon as I knew, I wanted out. He persisted and insisted on it being okay. I kept asking him how can it be okay? He justified it by reasoning that his wife is not around for half the time. He wanted (and still does want) to have an exclusive relationship with me; he showed me off to his friends when we met up with them sometimes and got jealous when we got a bit too friendly with each other.

I'm sorry this happened to you. It's amazing how many men out there are just like this one. It's not related to astrology. It's related to selfishness and poor character.

In my experience, married/attached men who cheat are MORE prone to jealousy of an unattached partner (or even someone they covet as a potential partner). Why? Because they know to some extent they can't "secure" the unattached partner (via marriage or other similar committment). If they're cheaters themselves, they also assume others cheat.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Diora_Capri

I need to learn to let him go mentally, emotionally, like I have physically.

.... which means, you have NOT let him go mentally and emotionally.

So, how do Capricorns justify emotionally and mentally cheating with a married man?

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Leave the bass-ackwards shaming aspect out of it. The shame really belongs to married people (men or women) who don't honor their committments. Like any other relationship ending, it takes time to get used to not being someone's partner/friend.

shit happens, especially in rio de janeiro I presume
You need an explanation?

Posted by aquavita

Posted by Diora_Capri

Posted by tiziani
I don't know, if I'm being honest I have seen my best friend - a Pisces - use the same out of sight, out of mind reasoning too. I never quite knew what arrangements he had with his girlfriends of the time though. I just know when he found out one of them had cheated on him, he was devastated.

the double standards thing...sneaky fishes!🙂

but would YOU cheat? u disagree with him cheating on u, would u cheat on him? 1 of my "best" friend sis a capricorn, but i have almost deleted her.. i try.. as she both physical and emotional slut. so are all capricorns men and women i know.

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Me, no, I cant imagine why I would. For one, before I knew he was married, I thought the chemistry was just awesome and I enjoyed being in his company, whether with friends or alone. For another, because generally in dating, I like to focus my energy on my partner, its practical and convenient. I can imagine it must not feel very good, what with the juggling and the lying, the betrayal of trust and further its like the bigger they come, the harder they fall kinda thing, youd think you had it all figured out and then all hell breaks loose haha!

Where do you stand on that? Would you personally feel okay with cheating?

I guess this pisces man and I are just not meant to be.

Thanks for all the positive support you guys!

Posted by hydorah
shit happens, especially in rio de janeiro I presume
You need an explanation?

Im good thanks, mate! In short and in DJbucks words: hes just a cad

Posted by CreoleGeisha

Posted by Diora_Capri

I'm sorry this happened to you. It's amazing how many men out there are just like this one. It's not related to astrology. It's related to selfishness and poor character.

In my experience, married/attached men who cheat are MORE prone to jealousy of an unattached partner (or even someone they covet as a potential partner). Why? Because they know to some extent they can't "secure" the unattached partner (via marriage or other similar committment). If they're cheaters themselves, they also assume others cheat.

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Yes, I agree..and perhaps poor judgement of character from me at the beginning too..didnt occur to me to look for a wedding ring earlier on, u know?🙂 Thanks for the advice about attached men being prone to jealousy - I will keep this in mind in the future. It was ridiculous because he would accuse me of not wanting to spend time with him, wanting to spend more time with my friends (whom he automatically assumed were guys) than with him etc..now that I think about it..what a roller coaster ride of emotions!

..and I had him pegged as the one! I can now see the good side of this happening to me. All thanks to you guys!!

Posted by djbuck1
This has nothing to do with his being a Pisces, and everything to do with his being a cad.

as a frequent visitor on this site, I have always liked your straightforwardness and no-nonsense response, no matter how hurtful. Thank you!

Posted by aquavita

did u tell him yoiu want exclusiveness? i believe men may need more than 1 woman . for a woman it s different. 1 man should be enough. it is a biological difference. may be he lied he s married. just kidding... i hav this pisces man online now. contemplating skype sex. the erotica is awesome. but i am not sure about doing it. may be i ll get attached to him... via skype and then suffer . lol. i have had a pisces boyfriend when i was very young. he was madly in love with me and i dumped him 1 day. he made it a priority in his life to prove to me that i had done a huge mistake by doing so.( dumping me) . he is very successful and he is currently married ( long term marriage) to a lady and she is a sag and yes he does have many relationships out the marriage. wife is OK with it.

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wow..how very openminded of the couple! Thats an interesting outlook cos I know there are swingers who enjoy the company of other couples but both hubby and wife would have to totally trust each other and be okay with it. But I cant imagine how his wife would feel if she knew, nevermind sharing him! Also, Im not good with sharing so itll be in everybodys best interest for me to get the hell out of the relationship before it gets even more serious.

Id also like to point out not only men cheat, women can too..itd be interesting to find out why and how theyd justify themselves..

Posted by tiziani
Are attached men really prone to jealousy?

That seems like very bad new for all the people who love their partners to be "possessive" and fly off the handle at the drop of a hat.

I said attached men who cheat are more prone to jealousy (of the unattached partner).

I once dated a man. We were exclusive, but not married. He cheated with a mutual friend. Lovely drama *sarcastic smile*. After a heated breakup, we reconciled briefly. I was younger and not "ready" to give up on him.

It was sheer hell. He NEVER trusted me and CONSTANTLY suspected me of infidelity. To "get back" at him, I guess. Then he started really pushing for us to get married. Clearly he felt that marriage would soothe his insecurities about ME related to HIS behavior.

Cheaters assume everybody else cheats, too.

Posted by tiziani
Are attached men really prone to jealousy?

That seems like very bad new for all the people who love their partners to be "possessive" and fly off the handle at the drop of a hat.

can one really love their partners when they act possessive? I remember a Sag ex who behaved like that when he thought my guy friends would come on to me or just to show people that we were an item. Got tired of that act real quick and I left after 3 months..that was back in high school lol! none of that jazz for this cap! Having said that, I always appreciated it when they showed a bit of jealousy though, by telling me in a calm way how they felt and what they expected from now on, which can be so sexy - turns me to butter..but act superpossessive when you dont even think about putting a ring on this finger, you can kiss my backside 😉

Posted by Diora_Capri

Posted by CreoleGeisha

Posted by Diora_Capri

I'm sorry this happened to you. It's amazing how many men out there are just like this one. It's not related to astrology. It's related to selfishness and poor character.

In my experience, married/attached men who cheat are MORE prone to jealousy of an unattached partner (or even someone they covet as a potential partner). Why? Because they know to some extent they can't "secure" the unattached partner (via marriage or other similar committment). If they're cheaters themselves, they also assume others cheat.

Yes, I agree..and perhaps poor judgement of character from me at the beginning too..didnt occur to me to look for a wedding ring earlier on, u know?🙂

You can believe he wasn't exactly displaying it blatantly for your perusal. 😉

Thanks for the advice about attached men being prone to jealousy - I will keep this in mind in the future. It was ridiculous because he would accuse me of not wanting to spend time with him, wanting to spend more time with my friends (whom he automatically assumed were guys) than with him etc..now that I think about it..what a roller coaster ride of emotions!

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Oh yeah. A married man who pursued me went to ridiculous lengths to try and isolate me and separate me from other people and opportunities to meet other people. If you're getting to know a guy and he is unreasonably jealous of your personal life, look out. Something's not legitimate with the relationship.

Posted by MissFisk
This shit again. I'm going to start counting these threads to get the trend of the Pisces and cheating phenomenon. This is getting tiresome. Nothing against you OP, but if I had a dildo for every thread that get created about cheating I'd need to drill new holes in my body to accommodate them.

Lol, none taken MissFisk, but do send some of those dildos my way, will ya?😉

Posted by Diora_Capri

An older pisces man approached me awhile back and after dating for about a month, it came into passing that hes already married. The information was prompted by me one day, it was not volunteered when we first met.

As soon as I knew, I wanted out. He persisted and insisted on it being okay. I kept asking him how can it be okay? He justified it by reasoning that his wife is not around for half the time. He wanted (and still does want) to have an exclusive relationship with me; he showed me off to his friends when we met up with them sometimes and got jealous when we got a bit too friendly with each other.

After all that, I had to shut him off completely- no texts, calls, dates. went cold turkey. extremely difficult, what with my venus in aquarius and him pestering me.

I guess Im still unsatisfied by the recent events and I need to learn to let him go mentally, emotionally, like I have physically. As a pisces or individual, how would you justify cheating, if you would? I dont get this guy and Im mad at myself for falling for someone unattainable by moral standards.

Sorry for going on a bit of a rant there..🙂

Wow...I would've given anything to hear the thoughts of the friends who got to meet the side piece.
Any woman who dates a guy and screws him within a month without checking him out first, OR EVEN ASKING if the guy is with another woman makes me scratch my head. I just don't get it. I also do not sympathize at all.

Posted by Diora_Capri

the point of this thread is to understand as in, I just cant understand why hed think its okay and after reading about some pisces's tendency to cheat (I am not saying all of them or just pisces or just men but this is specific to my context), I thought Id ask for your opinions, is all. Dont need to get snappy..

Like I said...I don't understand and cannot fathom how some women can jump in before asking or doing their homework. Guys like this know there are women who don't ask and I guess get away with it.

Posted by Diora_Capri

I guess this pisces man and I are just not meant to be.

You "guess"? 😕

Instead of focusing your energy on ANYONE, check them out next time. No guess work ever when you do that.

Posted by MissFisk
This shit again. I'm going to start counting these threads to get the trend of the Pisces and cheating phenomenon. This is getting tiresome. Nothing against you OP, but if I had a dildo for every thread that get created about cheating I'd need to drill new holes in my body to accommodate them.

I bet my count on female density will be multiplied.