How to stop being angry?

So while I broke up with him last week, he calls me today to say he thought about it and breaks up with me over the phone

Not sure if it was my ego or what was initiated but I was accepting. He asked to be friends I said I didn't see the reason. He said he didn't want me to block him and o said there wasn't a reason for us to be friends. He said how I deserved better and he doesn't have the attention blah blah. None of this is really relevant. I said have a nice life and got off the phone. I blocked him on all my social media and groups we are a part of BUT

I am

So angry now. I didn't love him. I'm not sure if we were even that comparable. I proceeded to send some of the nastiest text messages I've ever sent in my life. I'm surprised that I'm this pissed. We were only together 5 months. I don't even want him back.

When I didn't speak to him all weekend, I never cried. I felt like I was supposed to mourn the end but maybe I was numb. Anyone have insight?

Soo you broke up with him last week got back together then he breaks up with you ? Are you the Pisces ? Or him ?

I honestly think your only mad because of your pride ! Haha Idont see another reason why you should care being that you broke up with him at first .. Why did you take him back ? I know Leo men that act like this you break up with them and they'll st whatever to get you back then dump your ass on the curve just to fix his ego !

I never took him back. I answered the call because I thought he may have had a hard time. It was the first communication since I broke up with him. Maybe it is a battle of egos. I've got a Leo moon and him a Leo rising.

He just transferred the anger back to me

I'm confused because if you already broke up with him . Why was he able to call you back and break up with you over the phone that's where I got confused ... Maybe you made a typo or something idk .. & the Leo's I know are very vengeful hurt their ego they'll try to get you back .. Rather that's disappearing on you or actually going out their way to make you feel how you made them feel ..

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So while I broke up with him last week, he calls me today to say he thought about it and breaks up with me over the phone

Not sure if it was my ego or what was initiated but I was accepting. He asked to be friends I said I didn't see the reason. He said he didn't want me to block him and o said there wasn't a reason for us to be friends. He said how I deserved better and he doesn't have the attention blah blah. None of this is really relevant. I said have a nice life and got off the phone. I blocked him on all my social media and groups we are a part of BUT

I am

So angry now. I didn't love him. I'm not sure if we were even that comparable. I proceeded to send some of the nastiest text messages I've ever sent in my life. I'm surprised that I'm this pissed. We were only together 5 months. I don't even want him back.

When I didn't speak to him all weekend, I never cried. I felt like I was supposed to mourn the end but maybe I was numb. Anyone have insight?

If you broke up with him last week...how did he break up with you today? Amyway sorry his behavior in the last thread led to this but it shows his heart was not into it and you deserve so much more than some lazy lover.

You not feeling remorse and saddness about the end shows you are truly ready to move on. I didnt cry after my ex (bf of 3 years) broke up. Of course I did do the breaking up but my point is i felt such peace and relief, it is how I knew I made rhe right choice and everything would be fine.

I didn't understand his need to reject me tonight. I called him last week, told him I was unhappy and we should stop seeing each other.

He calls me tonight after 3/4 days without contact or communication and says I deserve better......

I was half confused and then insenced. We haven't spoken in days? What are you giving me this consultation speech for. It just made me angry

Ohhhhhh makes sense now ! Yea girl just move on whatever . His lost ! Go get you a MAN

I think you feel disrespected with his exscuses and lack of caring. But honestly he sounded like a douche and sooo not for you. you did the right thing so just go with that. You are on a much better path to find someone you actually like. Yea 🙂

Posted by Dastard
Sounds like you are insecure and your ego is your weak spot. Your ego is bruised, that's why you are angry.

Get over your insecurity. You don't have to block him to "show him" that you are doing the rejecting. When you are secure in yourself and simply don't care to prove anything, anyone can pick up the signal that they are not worth your time without you having to do much.

You shouldn't even have to block him. Just ignore him and he'll get the message. Right now you're acting like a desperate and insecure person, which is very unattractive.

I block everyone after our relationship ends. If we weren't friends before the romantic part, why pretend after?

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So while I broke up with him last week, he calls me today to say he thought about it and breaks up with me over the phone

Not sure if it was my ego or what was initiated but I was accepting. He asked to be friends I said I didn't see the reason. He said he didn't want me to block him and o said there wasn't a reason for us to be friends. He said how I deserved better and he doesn't have the attention blah blah. None of this is really relevant. I said have a nice life and got off the phone. I blocked him on all my social media and groups we are a part of BUT

I am

So angry now. I didn't love him. I'm not sure if we were even that comparable. I proceeded to send some of the nastiest text messages I've ever sent in my life. I'm surprised that I'm this pissed. We were only together 5 months. I don't even want him back.

When I didn't speak to him all weekend, I never cried. I felt like I was supposed to mourn the end but maybe I was numb. Anyone have insight?

If you broke up with him last week...how did he break up with you today? Amyway sorry his behavior in the last thread led to this but it shows his heart was not into it and you deserve so much more than some lazy lover.

Stop reinforcing feelings of resentment and defensiveness. People's subconscious are hard to fool and phrases like "you deserve so much better" usually translate into "you are not enough, that's why he did that to you." Quit trying to assign the role of a victim to this woman.

Gosh you are so stupid.

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How is she stupid she had already broken up with him ..

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Sounds like you are insecure and your ego is your weak spot. Your ego is bruised, that's why you are angry.

Get over your insecurity. You don't have to block him to "show him" that you are doing the rejecting. When you are secure in yourself and simply don't care to prove anything, anyone can pick up the signal that they are not worth your time without you having to do much.

You shouldn't even have to block him. Just ignore him and he'll get the message. Right now you're acting like a desperate and insecure person, which is very unattractive.

I block everyone after our relationship ends. If we weren't friends before the romantic part, why pretend after?

There's no need to pretend to be friends if that's not what you want. But that doesn't mean you have to act as if they are enemies by blocking them. Just ignore them.

Your actions give away your feelings. By blocking them you show how strongly you feel about them.

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He has a gallery of exes especially on fb. He keeps tabs and I think it's weird and unhealthy.

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Sounds like you are insecure and your ego is your weak spot. Your ego is bruised, that's why you are angry.

Get over your insecurity. You don't have to block him to "show him" that you are doing the rejecting. When you are secure in yourself and simply don't care to prove anything, anyone can pick up the signal that they are not worth your time without you having to do much.

You shouldn't even have to block him. Just ignore him and he'll get the message. Right now you're acting like a desperate and insecure person, which is very unattractive.

I block everyone after our relationship ends. If we weren't friends before the romantic part, why pretend after?

There's no need to pretend to be friends if that's not what you want. But that doesn't mean you have to act as if they are enemies by blocking them. Just ignore them.

Your actions give away your feelings. By blocking them you show how strongly you feel about them.

He has a gallery of exes especially on fb. He keeps tabs and I think it's weird and unhealthy.

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Whoa girl! Good thing u ended it what a creep! you must have subconsciously known he was a jerk to never have even slightly fallen for him then?

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Sounds like you are insecure and your ego is your weak spot. Your ego is bruised, that's why you are angry.

Get over your insecurity. You don't have to block him to "show him" that you are doing the rejecting. When you are secure in yourself and simply don't care to prove anything, anyone can pick up the signal that they are not worth your time without you having to do much.

You shouldn't even have to block him. Just ignore him and he'll get the message. Right now you're acting like a desperate and insecure person, which is very unattractive.

I block everyone after our relationship ends. If we weren't friends before the romantic part, why pretend after?

There's no need to pretend to be friends if that's not what you want. But that doesn't mean you have to act as if they are enemies by blocking them. Just ignore them.

Your actions give away your feelings. By blocking them you show how strongly you feel about them.

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Sometimes blocking is a way to move on... Like the modern version of taking his shit and burning it lol

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So while I broke up with him last week, he calls me today to say he thought about it and breaks up with me over the phone

Not sure if it was my ego or what was initiated but I was accepting. He asked to be friends I said I didn't see the reason. He said he didn't want me to block him and o said there wasn't a reason for us to be friends. He said how I deserved better and he doesn't have the attention blah blah. None of this is really relevant. I said have a nice life and got off the phone. I blocked him on all my social media and groups we are a part of BUT

I am

So angry now. I didn't love him. I'm not sure if we were even that comparable. I proceeded to send some of the nastiest text messages I've ever sent in my life. I'm surprised that I'm this pissed. We were only together 5 months. I don't even want him back.

When I didn't speak to him all weekend, I never cried. I felt like I was supposed to mourn the end but maybe I was numb. Anyone have insight?

If you broke up with him last week...how did he break up with you today? Amyway sorry his behavior in the last thread led to this but it shows his heart was not into it and you deserve so much more than some lazy lover.

Stop reinforcing feelings of resentment and defensiveness. People's subconscious are hard to fool and phrases like "you deserve so much better" usually translate into "you are not enough, that's why he did that to you." Quit trying to assign the role of a victim to this woman.

Gosh you are so stupid.

How is she stupid she had already broken up with him ..

That was directed at you. Lol

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Oh ? Lmfao well damn that went over my head hahaha

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Sounds like you are insecure and your ego is your weak spot. Your ego is bruised, that's why you are angry.

Get over your insecurity. You don't have to block him to "show him" that you are doing the rejecting. When you are secure in yourself and simply don't care to prove anything, anyone can pick up the signal that they are not worth your time without you having to do much.

You shouldn't even have to block him. Just ignore him and he'll get the message. Right now you're acting like a desperate and insecure person, which is very unattractive.

I block everyone after our relationship ends. If we weren't friends before the romantic part, why pretend after?

There's no need to pretend to be friends if that's not what you want. But that doesn't mean you have to act as if they are enemies by blocking them. Just ignore them.

Your actions give away your feelings. By blocking them you show how strongly you feel about them.

He has a gallery of exes especially on fb. He keeps tabs and I think it's weird and unhealthy.

You have to start by being honest with yourself. Is the blocking part of the battle of egos? Is it partially? Or is it entirely motivated by a different and legit reason?

Also be more introspective. Analyze how do you view yourself in this situation? Do you feel wronged, cheated? Like a victim? Because victims always shift blame and responsibility to something or someone else. And with that comes anger and resentment towards whatever you think it's the cause of your pain or misfortune.

You are still responsible for your own feelings. Remember that.

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I don't feel like I was duped. I broke up because his true personality started to be more evident. I'm not sad about this relationship ending as much as another ending. There aren't a lot of qualities of the partnership I'd like to do again. I'm ok with us not being together it was the Jedi mind trick and the faux compliments he gave as a reason why he's ending a relationship I ended last week. I forget to delete him and went out this weekend ready to move on with my life. I don't know if this caused him to be angry or start his mourning process but he gave that energy to me. I believe it was my ego I absorbed his words as insincere or incredulous.

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Someone giving you a character appraisal about who you need or deserve in your life, during a break up talk, is condescending as hell though. So I understand using that moment to tell them how to shove it up their ass.

I wish I was mature enough to have said it in the heat of the moment but I was blindsided by the conversation. Which is why I was so surprised by my mean and insulting texts. Like why even call me

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Someone giving you a character appraisal about who you need or deserve in your life, during a break up talk, is condescending as hell though. So I understand using that moment to tell them how to shove it up their ass.

Seriously! He's such an ahole! Now I'm angry! —

Posted by livictori
So while I broke up with him last week, he calls me today to say he thought about it and breaks up with me over the phone

Not sure if it was my ego or what was initiated but I was accepting. He asked to be friends I said I didn't see the reason. He said he didn't want me to block him and o said there wasn't a reason for us to be friends. He said how I deserved better and he doesn't have the attention blah blah. None of this is really relevant. I said have a nice life and got off the phone. I blocked him on all my social media and groups we are a part of BUT

I am

So angry now. I didn't love him. I'm not sure if we were even that comparable. I proceeded to send some of the nastiest text messages I've ever sent in my life. I'm surprised that I'm this pissed. We were only together 5 months. I don't even want him back.

When I didn't speak to him all weekend, I never cried. I felt like I was supposed to mourn the end but maybe I was numb. Anyone have insight?

so...you already broke up with him, but he had to have the last word and manufacture it like he was the one dumping you?

lol. I'd have laughed at him right there on the phone..

if you're not pining for him, be glad. you can just keep on moving and not waste your time with guys like that.

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Someone giving you a character appraisal about who you need or deserve in your life, during a break up talk, is condescending as hell though. So I understand using that moment to tell them how to shove it up their ass.

I wish I was mature enough to have said it in the heat of the moment but I was blindsided by the conversation. Which is why I was so surprised by my mean and insulting texts. Like why even call me

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Yeah girl, I get why u mad... It's like he couldn't leave it alone he had to make one final dig at you but imagine those negative energy and comments bounce right off you and go right back where they came from... His nasty azz.

If this didn't happen so late, I would have gone to the gym or even ate my frustration. Thank you all for hearing me out. I don't even want to bother my friends with this bs. I'll be fine in the morning.

Someone said they would have laughed (don't feel like quoting)..

That's what I would have done. The cold laugh followed by, "look, enjoy your life alright? I wish you the best, but please don't call me again..".. CLICK. Complete silence afterwards.. Rage or no rage. But good thing to move on.

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@livictori

You should still consider the possibility of feeling wronged and victim-like. It's hard to accept you feel like a victim to yourself and others if you have a large and sensitive ego. But that doesn't mean you don't actually feel victimized.

When people have expectations of someone and these are shattered they tend to feel cheated, lied, and wronged. Some experience sadness and others indignation.

You can find a thousand reasons to convince yourself that you don't care about him but your anger alone renders them invalid. If you want to avoid having these emotions towards romantic partners or exes, an emotional shift within yourself needs to happen first. Your feelings dictate the kind of thoughts you have.

It seems like you are trying to convince yourself that you feel nothing for this person because you know that's not true and that bothers you, because it hurts your ego. Your ego doesn't want to accept that you feel a certain way and that could be preventing you from dealing with the root of your anger.

I think there's truth him but my sadness for this ending has more to do with failing again than him personally. I stopped investing about a month ago and we were in a ldr. I remember thinking how much I loved others and how I had felt more deeply. I'm going to spend the rest of the summer single and maybe more will reveal itself. But my need to merge and bond wasn't there with this was. Our disagreement was rooted in functioning as a partner rather than feeling which is very unlike me.

You may be right because my anger surprised me. A girlfriend saw us together and mention how different we were and the answer that I gave was telling. "He does everything I want but lacks passion. I know where he is and what he's doing. That's what I'm supposed to pick"

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Sounds like you are insecure and your ego is your weak spot. Your ego is bruised, that's why you are angry.

Get over your insecurity. You don't have to block him to "show him" that you are doing the rejecting. When you are secure in yourself and simply don't care to prove anything, anyone can pick up the signal that they are not worth your time without you having to do much.

You shouldn't even have to block him. Just ignore him and he'll get the message. Right now you're acting like a desperate and insecure person, which is very unattractive.

I block everyone after our relationship ends. If we weren't friends before the romantic part, why pretend after?

There's no need to pretend to be friends if that's not what you want. But that doesn't mean you have to act as if they are enemies by blocking them. Just ignore them.

Your actions give away your feelings. By blocking them you show how strongly you feel about them.

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Your not a Pisces. When we're done with someone, we're done.

We cut all ties and swim away for good.

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Sounds like you are insecure and your ego is your weak spot. Your ego is bruised, that's why you are angry.

Get over your insecurity. You don't have to block him to "show him" that you are doing the rejecting. When you are secure in yourself and simply don't care to prove anything, anyone can pick up the signal that they are not worth your time without you having to do much.

You shouldn't even have to block him. Just ignore him and he'll get the message. Right now you're acting like a desperate and insecure person, which is very unattractive.

I block everyone after our relationship ends. If we weren't friends before the romantic part, why pretend after?

There's no need to pretend to be friends if that's not what you want. But that doesn't mean you have to act as if they are enemies by blocking them. Just ignore them.

Your actions give away your feelings. By blocking them you show how strongly you feel about them.

Your not a Pisces. When we're done with someone, we're done.

We cut all ties and swim away for good.

That's one of the most idiotic things I've ever read. What are you, astrologically illiterate or just stupid?

What does not being a Pisces have to do with anything? Any person from any sign is capable of understanding a point of view and giving out valuable advice. Just as people from all signs can take someone back. Your statement is not even a general truth. Next time speak for yourself and avoid making imbecile remarks.

Attributing every characteristic to a Sun Sign is spreading misinformation and doing everyone a disservice. You sound like every other dullard on this site yapping "mah sign ain't got no time 4 dis bs." You have a fire moon and some earth placements, right? Start taking into account the rest of your chart and stop behaving like a retard with cerebral atrophy when it comes to astrology.

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Considering the Op came to the pisces forum and addressed her question to fellow fish... it has everything to do with everything.

And yes, my statement is a general truth. Sure there is always an exception to the rule, but we don't hold onto ex lovers. When we are done completely we detach and remove all signs of them in our lives. This is truth.

You don't agree with my statement, fine. But calling me a retard, stupid and illiterate just reflects poorly on your own character. For someone who is offering counsel to the Op on how to move past her anger your very quick to anger yourself...

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@LadyNeptune

First of all I'm not angry at you because you haven't done anything to me except offend me with your blatant ignorance. Second of all, I can address you however the fuck I want.

The OP came to the Pisces board so that proves you right? If you want to see it like that, fine. But my point still stands, though. I can come on here and give advice without having to be a Pisces because of the reasons I've stated.

And no, your statement is not a general truth, dumbass. If you're talking about Pisces energy alone, they are the type that don't have to be with you to care about you or love you. They can end a relationship and still care about the person. Many Pisces people have expressed this sentiment on this site, I've read it on books and I've witness this in real life and on the internet over and over. Now go have several seats.

So you can assert a truth about a sun sign but when I do I'm a dumbass. Interesting.

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First of all I'm not angry at you because you haven't done anything to me except offend me with your blatant ignorance. Second of all, I can address you however the fuck I want.

The OP came to the Pisces board so that proves you right? If you want to see it like that, fine. But my point still stands, though. I can come on here and give advice without having to be a Pisces because of the reasons I've stated.

And no, your statement is not a general truth, dumbass. If you're talking about Pisces energy alone, they are the type that don't have to be with you to care about you or love you. They can end a relationship and still care about the person. Many Pisces people have expressed this sentiment on this site, I've read it on books and I've witness this in real life and on the internet over and over. Now go have several seats.

So you can assert a truth about a sun sign but when I do I'm a dumbass. Interesting.

The truth cannot contradict the truth, dumbass.

Here's the deal, I'm right and you're wrong.

Here's your problem, you are full of ignorance.

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Nah, I'm right. But go ahead and assert the opposite. You have a frustrating road ahead of you.