Learning to relax within a relatioship

So I have decided to challenge myself to focus more on my business and finances as well as a few personal goals.

I've given up social media until I completed a few goals. I'm setting my focus on purchasing some land and losing about 50lbs. My problem is I find that I have become hyper focused on my relationship. I feel I devote way too much mental energy and I need to relax a bit on worrying about components that aren't problems. Does anyone else have this issue?

THIS! I completely get where your coming from, as Pisces we tend to give up everything and focus in our partner which isn't good. I think it is best for Pisces to have a partner who is supportive, but gives us our space to just be.

It is SO nice to focus on us, bad thing is that I feel guilty doing this. I tend to cut people out my life during this time and relationships that could grow, or if someone else wants to grow a relationship at this time. Otherwise something will get neglected or half-assed because there are far too many balls in the air.

It is so hard, but it is well worth it.

So much about being a real estate agent is not only attracting people but keeping them interested in you and what you have to say.

This correlates to my relationship because the person picks you for a bunch of reasons, but if you change in the middle of the transaction you come off as inauthentic and they don't trust you.

I've been an only parent for a long time and now that they are approaching adulthood, my role and their needs have changed. I have to carve out my own identity and life. I wanted a relationship essentially to replace the girls in having someone to care for. But the more goals I set for myself based on my dreams, goals and example I want to set, the more "attractive" I will be to clients, friends and my partner.

Posted by livictori
So much about being a real estate agent is not only attracting people but keeping them interested in you and what you have to say.

This correlates to my relationship because the person picks you for a bunch of reasons, but if you change in the middle of the transaction you come off as inauthentic and they don't trust you.

I've been an only parent for a long time and now that they are approaching adulthood, my role and their needs have changed. I have to carve out my own identity and life. I wanted a relationship essentially to replace the girls in having someone to care for. But the more goals I set for myself based on my dreams, goals and example I want to set, the more "attractive" I will be to clients, friends and my partner.

girl, relax - everything in moderation - one can't be a superwoman I am here to say and I'm sorry but it's true ... only on the boobtube and that ain't real life

- it sounds like you think you have to be someone else that you are not right now but all you have to BE is you - so if you don't know WHO you are, then that is the first thing on your plate ... daily life will go on but you must make sure you are true to you every day

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Posted by livictori
So much about being a real estate agent is not only attracting people but keeping them interested in you and what you have to say.

This correlates to my relationship because the person picks you for a bunch of reasons, but if you change in the middle of the transaction you come off as inauthentic and they don't trust you.

I've been an only parent for a long time and now that they are approaching adulthood, my role and their needs have changed. I have to carve out my own identity and life. I wanted a relationship essentially to replace the girls in having someone to care for. But the more goals I set for myself based on my dreams, goals and example I want to set, the more "attractive" I will be to clients, friends and my partner.

girl, relax - everything in moderation - one can't be a superwoman I am here to say and I'm sorry but it's true ... only on the boobtube and that ain't real life

- it sounds like you think you have to be someone else that you are not right now but all you have to BE is you - so if you don't know WHO you are, then that is the first thing on your plate ... daily life will go on but you must make sure you are true to you every day

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The last 3 years I was definitely looking for a partner. But since I was 25, my children were the priority. And my current boyfriend actually lives over 100 miles away. Thankfully that is far enough to not be a part of my everyday life but close enough for me to feel tended to.

Posted by livictori

I need to relax a bit on worrying about components that aren't problems.

smart girl, right there ^^

Posted by livictori

I have decided to challenge myself to focus more on my business and finances as well as a few personal goals.

I've given up social media until I completed a few goals.

I'm setting my focus on purchasing some land and losing about 50lbs.

Bravo !!!!

And don't EVER follow such words with complaints again.

Everytime you "but", you're giving enough credit to those problems that will manifest by sheer thought energy.

So stop those thoughts, and focus on ... focuses on business and finance, purchasing a home, no social media, losing weight ... no buts ***to puke***

You are what you think you are, your thoughts are what you are .... so only the goal thoughts, and not the setback thoughts.

Posted by livictori
So much about being a real estate agent is not only attracting people but keeping them interested in you and what you have to say.

This correlates to my relationship because the person picks you for a bunch of reasons, but if you change in the middle of the transaction you come off as inauthentic and they don't trust you.

I've been an only parent for a long time and now that they are approaching adulthood, my role and their needs have changed. I have to carve out my own identity and life. I wanted a relationship essentially to replace the girls in having someone to care for. But the more goals I set for myself based on my dreams, goals and example I want to set, the more "attractive" I will be to clients, friends and my partner.

You are so fucking adorable!!! Lol

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Posted by livictori

I have decided to challenge myself to focus more on my business and finances as well as a few personal goals.

I've given up social media until I completed a few goals.

I'm setting my focus on purchasing some land and losing about 50lbs.

Bravo !!!!

And don't EVER follow such words with complaints again.

Everytime you "but", you're giving enough credit to those problems that will manifest by sheer thought energy.

So stop those thoughts, and focus on ... focuses on business and finance, purchasing a home, no social media, losing weight ... no buts ***to puke***

You are what you think you are, your thoughts are what you are .... so only the goal thoughts, and not the setback thoughts.

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THANK YOU!!! I'm on the cusp of my 40th birthday and while the journey was not easy, I'm honestly happy. This was the shot in the arm I needed!

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Posted by livictori
So much about being a real estate agent is not only attracting people but keeping them interested in you and what you have to say.

This correlates to my relationship because the person picks you for a bunch of reasons, but if you change in the middle of the transaction you come off as inauthentic and they don't trust you.

I've been an only parent for a long time and now that they are approaching adulthood, my role and their needs have changed. I have to carve out my own identity and life. I wanted a relationship essentially to replace the girls in having someone to care for. But the more goals I set for myself based on my dreams, goals and example I want to set, the more "attractive" I will be to clients, friends and my partner.

You are so fucking adorable!!! Lol

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lol Thanks, I'm blushing

Posted by cheekyfaerie
This is why it's so important to find someone who compliments you.

So very true!!!

Eventually with any relationship there will be conflict and compromise. So its always better to be on the same page from day 1.