I Like My Pisces

uhm...yeah, that's pretty much it.

thank you for your interest in TAUSOME, Inc.

unfortunately, the company has reached its fish quota and the pisces friend position to which you applied has been filled.

we are also currently undergoing a hiring freeze due to the fact that our emotional centre is at capacity due to our new fish recruit.

where we are no longer accepting applications, the HR department will keep your application on file for 90 days. thereafter you may reapply and if you are suited for an open position, a representative will contact you.

wishing you the best of luck,
management
TAUSOME, Inc
"where bull is the shit"

hmm...make that 180 days.

1 black
1 white

what else is there? i'm color blind 😛

she's not chocolate.

you must be color blind too

jebus!

Posted by caligula
thank you for your interest in TAUSOME, Inc.

unfortunately, the company has reached its fish quota and the pisces friend position to which you applied has been filled.

we are also currently undergoing a hiring freeze due to the fact that our emotional centre is at capacity due to our new fish recruit.

where we are no longer accepting applications, the HR department will keep your application on file for 90 days. thereafter you may reapply and if you are suited for an open position, a representative will contact you.

wishing you the best of luck,
management
TAUSOME, Inc
"where bull is the shit"

Love this. LOL

"where bull is the shit" haha +1.

Glad it's going well with your fish, I've always thought Taurus was a great match for me.

he is a good match missarrrrrgh

the only thing is that he's so accommodating that i'm going to have to question him a little more. like, we may agree on the same principles but there is absolutely no reason why we would be simpatico on the details ya know? like there's no variation in the plan i set and the one he has. that's impossible.

i think he might be acquiescing to make me happy which is awesome because i deserve to be happy but god, he reminds me of my bff in that way. she's so agreeable and i know that pisces doesn't do anything it doesnt want to...that maybe he sees it as compromising but i'd like to be given the opportunity to value his differences given he values mine.

it's sorta what i meant about the whole pisces dinner thread. that the agreement is on hunger but instead of saying, "i want italian," the primary agreement is enough for the fish to accept that eating something other than italian is fine too.

ie, if he doesn't want sushi, he's not going to say yea to that...he doesn't agree to just anything. but if he could do chinese, then he's ok with not eating italian. so we eat chinese.

problem is, i was never told he wanted italian. it'd be one thing if i didn't ask what he wanted. it's another if i say, "what do you want" and the response is, "no, what do you want?"

the bigger point is, how do i draw out that which is hidden so that he can learn how to not compromise so quickly? yes, it's lovely he's trying to put me first but i really do want to know what he thinks/desires.

Posted by caligula
he is a good match missarrrrrgh

the only thing is that he's so accommodating that i'm going to have to question him a little more. like, we may agree on the same principles but there is absolutely no reason why we would be simpatico on the details ya know? like there's no variation in the plan i set and the one he has. that's impossible.

i think he might be acquiescing to make me happy which is awesome because i deserve to be happy but god, he reminds me of my bff in that way. she's so agreeable and i know that pisces doesn't do anything it doesnt want to...that maybe he sees it as compromising but i'd like to be given the opportunity to value his differences given he values mine.

it's sorta what i meant about the whole pisces dinner thread. that the agreement is on hunger but instead of saying, "i want italian," the primary agreement is enough for the fish to accept that eating something other than italian is fine too.

ie, if he doesn't want sushi, he's not going to say yea to that...he doesn't agree to just anything. but if he could do chinese, then he's ok with not eating italian. so we eat chinese.

problem is, i was never told he wanted italian. it'd be one thing if i didn't ask what he wanted. it's another if i say, "what do you want" and the response is, "no, what do you want?"

the bigger point is, how do i draw out that which is hidden so that he can learn how to not compromise so quickly? yes, it's lovely he's trying to put me first but i really do want to know what he thinks/desires.

Just tell him, It's easy to talk to us. Tell him just like that "I want know what you think/desire"

thanks for proving you're a sick bitch.

*shakes head*

I struggle with the same sort of thing, not a fish boy mind you, but still none the less. I am accommodating, it matters not where we go I'm going to find something to order. My Virgo takes the same approach. I am, however, learning to be the more decisive one (just last night: I think such and such opened, how about we try that - I really could of cared less, but he went for it).

I think as women we expect men to make the decisions. It's socially ingrained in us, whether we want to accept/admit it or not. Expectations aside, when WE (as women) are neutral, it is that much harder when we are dealing with a man who is impartial as well.

Take the reins woman! We all know you have it in you

there was supposed to be a 🙂 at the end 🙂

huh?

i think you missed the point. i fear that i will be making all the decisions because he's so naturally accommodating. i have no problem being selfish. in fact, being selfish is my problem 😛

it dawned on me the other day that we agree a lot. and that's great but it's sorta like wait, wtf! maybe we agree in part and the rest of the "part" is his compromising...

we agree we're both hungry.

yet we eat what i want to eat.

and SP, i don't that's as simple with you fish as one might think. your sign is so fluid that you don't do detailed well. that's virgo's job.

Posted by caligula


the bigger point is, how do i draw out that which is hidden so that he can learn how to not compromise so quickly? yes, it's lovely he's trying to put me first but i really do want to know what he thinks/desires.

Yeah I know what you're saying. I don't think accommodating is the word though, at least not for every fish. I'm pretty easy-going so for me as long as it wasn't something I DIDN'T want I'd be quite happy.

You could try saying something like "ok we're going out for dinner tonight and I'd really like you to choose where/what we eat" providing of course it's not somewhere/thing you hate lol.

My Scorp/Cancer girlfriends are constantly bickering over where we go on a night out. Muggins here then gets dragged in to make the final decision. And of course I usually say "I'm not bothered" haha which drives them both mad but that is genuinely the case most of the time. If I did have a preference I would state it, but for the most part as long as I'm in good company and it's not someplace I can't stand I'm happy to go with the flow. 🙂

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Posted by caligula
uhm...yeah, that's pretty much it.

"Methink'st thou art a general offence and every man should beat thee."

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That's a bit much.

i get what you all are saying. i looked up pisces traits. one of the negative ones is "indecisive" and positive is "flexible." whereas the opposite is true of virgo, "precise" and "inflexible."

where if i had my choice, i'd choose a "flexible" partner damn near every time, this choice could also be potentially be maddening. i think maybe the best way to get around it is presenting the question and not offering my opinion first...forcing him to share what's in his head without being influenced by my thought process?

Posted by caligula
i get what you all are saying. i looked up pisces traits. one of the negative ones is "indecisive" and positive is "flexible." whereas the opposite is true of virgo, "precise" and "inflexible."

where if i had my choice, i'd choose a "flexible" partner damn near every time, this choice could also be potentially be maddening. i think maybe the best way to get around it is presenting the question and not offering my opinion first...forcing him to share what's in his head without being influenced by my thought process?

That would work with me. While I may be easy-going or "flexible" if pushed to make a decision I will. I'm pretty vocal in what I want/don't want - but with someone I care about I'm willing to let them have their way if it makes them happy, simply because it's not that big a deal to me.

It's all in how you go about it and what you suggested is a good shout.

Sounds like he's smitten though. 🙂