ignored a pisces on his birthday

I've been friends with this pisces guy for 15 years but our relationship has been struggling this past year. He's been doing things I don't condone, well anyways it was his birthday last week and I purposely didnt greet him on his birthday(I see him everyday at work). I can tell he's waiting for it but i've made up my mind at that point to ignore him on his birthday. From a piscean point of view what kind of consequences should I expect from doing what I did?

starfish
"None!!! Life goes on..."

That's what i was hoping, I always thought that pisceans are very sentimental. We were intimate.

starfish you're absolutely right!!

Well he has ignored me too since then.

Thanks starfish!! =)

outcast

You lost me there!! He's not my boss, we're both executive. It's just been hard to keep a professional relationship with him because of our history together.

Uh oh Chloe you better duck and cover. 😛

Seriously though, he'll get over it.

i would think it hurt him on some level, even if he would never say as much. Birthday greetings are greetings, but the avoidance came with a purpose which is entirely different. With that said, i would've still given some kind of greeting, albiet maybe a shortened version. Then put some quality time aside to have a good, long talk..

Have to agree with the game playing, chloe .. I've been following your whole saga on here and know how much pain this has caused you .. but, I also remember that you've claimed that your ultimate desire for this man, because you love him so much .. is to be happy.

Your intentions of doing this 'ignoring' was not for the sake of his happiness .. it was revenge. To commit that same act onto another person as punishment makes you the same monster .. think about that ..

If what he did was to forsake you and ignore your heart, in which you consider to be "bad" for him to do ... then for you to do this very same thing makes you just as "bad".


How can using capital punishment in snuffing out a person's life be justifiable punishment for a murderer? It's the same fucking crime.


Anyway to answer your question .... he will likely be pained, such as anybody would .. however, he probably won't show it and just let it roll off his back. He will definitely view it for what it really means .. the motive behind it, rather than the act, itself.

Rarely does a Pisces view and react off of each circumstance as they happen .. instead, we look at the motivation behind it. So, he'll now start to view you from a different angle.

I didn't see it as game playing. I'm trying to get over him. I've been trying to avoid any small personal talk with him for months..If I try to greet him on his birthday that small personal talk with him would start. It's hard enough that I have to see him and deal with him everyday. He's not making any easier on me, he's flirting constantly and taking the time to greet him would give him the wrong message...

P angel yes I want him to be happy but what about my happiness...He doesnt seem to care about my happiness, if he did then he'd respect what I want which is distance.

Okay maybe my question wasnt clear,consequences professionally is what I meant, on his birthday I ignored the fact that he wanted to buy me coffee I said no, asks me if i wanted to see his new iphone I said I was busy. The day after his birthday I asked him to talk to a client because it's an account that he knows more about it and I even said please and his response was "I'm busy" I asked him to take a look at a resume for an applicant the new position that he requested because his girlfriend is so incompetent that things are not getting done properly and his response was "that's not my job thats yours" Okay maybe ignoring each other is childish.But put yourself in my position you guys pisceans are good at that.

P angel
Maybe I want him to see me in a different angle. I'm not that naeve lil girl that fell in love with him. I am sick to my stomach about how much he defends and make excuses for his girlfriend in front of me when he knows with all of his being that its time to let go of this woman professionally, his solution was to make up a new position and hire a new person for this position,this is already a favor i'm doing for him, he doesnt seem to acknowledge it or refuse to.

I'm so tired of waiting for him to come back to reality and smell the coffee.I want him to start cleaning up his mess and his gf is one of them and his flirting with me is the second. That's the message i'm trying to send him.
I'm trying to be tough but its so tiring.

What's his trying to tell me is i'll fire her if you start forgiving me and start over....I cant!!!! I dont wanna be his side dish anymore!!

He's the one playing games!!

outcast

yes I'm a libra

outcast

I know...I just needed to vent...Thanks for the responding though.

Hey Bijou!!

Welcome Back!!

Bijou

Thanks for the advise again. You know what i'm going through very well, you've been there. You know how hard it is to be the OW and the same time work with your exMM.

Bijou

Thank you!!
"So, focus on that, and protect yourself - you need to distance, for real!! Do not ever be the one to start getting personal."

That's what I intended to do by making the decision to not greet him on his birthday and ignore him. Thats the message I wanted to send him. I dont really see it as playing games, I was protecting myself. Bijou like I mentioned when things ended with us he went back to his wife and went into counselling and his still with his wife eversince. I dont know if the gf knows, if she does I would think that the she would keep her distance as well, I guess she doesnt know.

Believe me I've played all the possible consequences in my mind about this whole mess(I'm a libra). I know what I have to do. Now my ex(who is a pisces) is still in la la land.

Bijou

I dismantled that pedastal months ago, the minute he decided to disrespect me. I dont think I have a lot of anger on the gf well yeah professionally I do because she doesnt seem know what that means. The fact that as a woman(wife) and a mother of two small kids I was hoping she'd have alot more dignity, pride and self respect.