inappropriate crush i'm having on pisces

the guy is so cute, so helpful, so nice, he lets me in through the door (hey, it's not that common nowadays:])
if he has something bad to say about some woman, he immediately apologises to me so that i wouldn't get offended or something.
one time he screwed something on my pc and i had to rerun some jobs, he wrote and asked if i succeeded. but it wasn't really anything hard or very demanding to rerun.
he's sort of a colleague that helps me with things that are new to me. if you thank him for an hour of help, he's just 'meh:]' smiling cutely.
if you write an e-mail and he replies in 20 hours, he apologises for it taking so long.
for his birthday i sent him some cute geeky greeting i made and he got really happy.

damn you pisces, that niceness is making it difficult to stop crushing :]]
and yes, there's a legitimate reason for me to stop this nonsense. i don't want to be a slut.



the confused virgo.

just me being in a successful relationship for more than two years. i can't really complain about it. i still feel affectionate, attracted, can have a great conversation... but still i got the crush that makes me shiver, legs numb, brain shuts off, yeah. life will never be boring. : )
it would be easier if the pisces was an asshole. or just less helpful. now i see what pisces mean when they say 'my kindness is confused with lust'. if i was single i'd already take the niceness as a sign of affection 😄

Posted by esmerine
now i see what pisces mean when they say 'my kindness is confused with lust'. if i was single i'd already take the niceness as a sign of affection 😄

I have never heard this before but have had a few personal experiences whereas my boyfriend's gestures and acts of kindness were misconstrued. He can be quite charming.

Posted by ninalove

Posted by esmerine
now i see what pisces mean when they say 'my kindness is confused with lust'. if i was single i'd already take the niceness as a sign of affection 😄

I have never heard this before but have had a few personal experiences whereas my boyfriend's gestures and acts of kindness were misconstrued. He can be quite charming.

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oh yes, trust me, it's not very difficult to make that mistake. like it's not enough that pulse goes crazy when he's around... he has to be so unbelievably good for everyone which i am not. and that fascinates me. :]

Posted by esmerine
just me being in a successful relationship for more than two years. i can't really complain about it. i still feel affectionate, attracted, can have a great conversation... but still i got the crush that makes me shiver, legs numb, brain shuts off, yeah. life will never be boring. : )
it would be easier if the pisces was an asshole. or just less helpful. now i see what pisces mean when they say 'my kindness is confused with lust'. if i was single i'd already take the niceness as a sign of affection 😄

I know this all too well. I understand you can't help how you feel. It's ultimately up to the choices you make on whether or not to act upon those impulses. I chose my relationship. I am very happy with what I have built with him and i'd rather not screw it up. He's good to and for me most of the time. Even if that other guy is actually my soul mate, twin soul, or whatever, it isn't what is going to happen right now anyway. It may never happen and i'm ok with that 🙂

Posted by ninjamu


I know this all too well. I understand you can't help how you feel. It's ultimately up to the choices you make on whether or not to act upon those impulses. I chose my relationship. I am very happy with what I have built with him and i'd rather not screw it up. He's good to and for me most of the time. Even if that other guy is actually my soul mate, twin soul, or whatever, it isn't what is going to happen right now anyway. It may never happen and i'm ok with that 🙂

yes, no plans on acting on it. at least it's what i think of myself right now - that i just couldn't be such a horrible person🙂
when thinking realistically about the relationship i have, i can't make up any real disadvantage that could be omitted in some theoretical new relationship. some rainy days..of course they happen, and it's normal. i'm thinking it's just a lust for those first feelings, adrenalin rush, dreamy landscapes involving him (when i don't even know him that well, it's just in my head)...and i'm not really punishing myself for this. it's what i have to do to remain happy i guess.
it's not even remotely safe to assume he likes me 😄 so planning on slutting would be pretty stupid as well.

just an interesting thought i'm having - probably i wouldn't fall for some jerk these days. not desperate anymore. and good men deserve to be liked. 😄

(it's a great relief to put such thoughts somewhere)

Posted by piranhaparadiise

You would if you could if you knew that the Pisces wanted you ...

as difficult as it may be to confess this to myself, but yeah, i'm not really sure if i was the ice queen on such occasion. but i'd say it's only doubtful when having intense physical attraction, which fades away pretty quickly. otherwise i don't really care, neither i can open up to strangers, nor i am the sex freak.

OOooo this is sticky! In two ways...first is obvious your in a relationship the other which is obvious for fishes...we love being nice...tis whom we are others can and often read too much into it.

PirahnaParadise,
I was thinking the same thing you just said. That's often a problem that I always run into when it comes to love and it's the reason why I'm still single today. I'm not interested in being apart of a "love triangle" and coveting over the lover of someone else, because that it just trouble waiting to happen. Last year, my class reunion took place and one of my classmates (A Leo Male) got shot in the head and killed by a man who was the boyfriend of the woman he was dating. Apparently, she lied to him about not currently being involved with anyone and he began dating her. He never suspected that she was already taken, now he's 6 feet under in a grave.

Esmerine,
As for you? You need to just get over it. Go take a cold shower or something and just leave this alone. Enjoy the relationship you already have and stay loyal on all levels.

The Stellar One

You crush on the guy, you make sure to flirt with him, and seek out his attention .... for the purpose of your feelings in having him give this attention you wanted.


Then you say bullshit like, "I'm confused"


I hate that .... to say "I'm confused" is your excuse to pretend like you have no responsibility in actively participating in creating situations in which to have encounters with him.


I hate it when women do that ... "I'm so confused" is utter bullshit. You know full well that you are seeking out situations in which to bring his attention to you.


You use it in case your SO finds out that you're a cunt ..... you think you can tell him that the guy confused you and you merely thought he was just being friendly .. so that you don't have to hold yourself accountible for your cunting.

Posted by P-Angel
You crush on the guy, you make sure to flirt with him, and seek out his attention .... for the purpose of your feelings in having him give this attention you wanted.


Then you say bullshit like, "I'm confused"


I hate that .... to say "I'm confused" is your excuse to pretend like you have no responsibility in actively participating in creating situations in which to have encounters with him.


I hate it when women do that ... "I'm so confused" is utter bullshit. You know full well that you are seeking out situations in which to bring his attention to you.


You use it in case your SO finds out that you're a cunt ..... you think you can tell him that the guy confused you and you merely thought he was just being friendly .. so that you don't have to hold yourself accountible for your cunting.

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thank you for not being nice about my sins 🙂

but what i meant with 'i'm confused' was about how my brain works, not about his actions, which i'm realistically putting in 'friendly' drawer. like, for real. there's just the quite stupid side of myself i'm observing that could build castles on nothing - merely a smile or some other totally neutral 'sign' that a good friend of mine uses, but while i'm not having on crush on him, it's just normal! i understand these things. i guess it's time to put imagination for some better use. 🙂

and there was only one time that could be different from all i've said or done for him if there were no adrenalin rushes... that 'happy birthday' email which should have looked pretty friendly to him but i wouldn't have written it if i hadn't liked him, cause i am too lazy 😄
other conversations were and will be about the thing i am researching for college that i have no idea about and he does.


okay, that's it for defending myself today. 😄

Posted by Let*It*Be
"as difficult as it may be to confess this to myself, but yeah, i'm not really sure if i was the ice queen on such occasion. but i'd say it's only doubtful when having intense physical attraction, which fades away pretty quickly. otherwise i don't really care, neither i can open up to strangers, nor i am the sex freak."



ahh..but you see esmarine. I caught something noone here did. Your first comment you are a "Virgo" - your second comment the ^^above quote. THAT is what a TRUE Virgo does with a passing infatuation. *poof* They know what they have, and if it's solid they have the common sense not to make such a selfish error in judgement. Gotta love the good and loyal virgos. There's nothing wrong with looking, talking or sending a greeting card. You got to the line and didn't cross it. High five to you. 😉

again let*it*be your arse is on point! High five to you! lol

Posted by esmerine
now i see what pisces mean when they say 'my kindness is confused with lust'. if i was single i'd already take the niceness as a sign of affection 😄

that really made me laugh because i know exactly what you mean 🙂