Is this a setup or has he moved on?

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I told him flat out that i have a hard time coming to terms with this because if i were in his shoes, id question my loyalty till the end of day. How could you even trust me?

his response: past is the past.

im still BS. something dont seem right.



If that's your premise then perhaps the lesson is you learning how to forgive yourself if he has truly moved on from it. But until he proves that, keep him at arms length
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I told him flat out that i have a hard time coming to terms with this because if i were in his shoes, id question my loyalty till the end of day. How could you even trust me?

his response: past is the past.

im still BS. something dont seem right.



So why are you even talking to him? Would you like to rekindle with him or is he just somebody you used to know? [ some-bodeeeee ....]
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Posted by beautifulsoul74
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I told him flat out that i have a hard time coming to terms with this because if i were in his shoes, id question my loyalty till the end of day. How could you even trust me?

his response: past is the past.

im still BS. something dont seem right.



If that's your premise then perhaps the lesson is you learning how to forgive yourself if he has truly moved on from it. But until he proves that, keep him at arms length
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well ive forgiven myself for my mistake but if i were in his shoes, id still have a hard time trusting the other person. id forgive, but never really forget.

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I told him flat out that i have a hard time coming to terms with this because if i were in his shoes, id question my loyalty till the end of day. How could you even trust me?

his response: past is the past.

im still BS. something dont seem right.



So why are you even talking to him? Would you like to rekindle with him or is he just somebody you used to know? [ some-bodeeeee ....]
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well, he called me and i was hearing him out, he sounded like he really wanted to get some things off his chest.
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im not interested in getting back together. that ship has saild. that dog dont fight.





Why dont u just tell him this then and leave it be



saying "leave it be" to a scorp moon who smells something fishy is like giving a fat kid the keys to a bakery.

ive already committed my thoughts to this.
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But what does it matter?
Ya'll arent going to be together. So...?
What am I missing
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I told him flat out that i have a hard time coming to terms with this because if i were in his shoes, id question my loyalty till the end of day. How could you even trust me?

his response: past is the past.

im still BS. something dont seem right.



If that's your premise then perhaps the lesson is you learning how to forgive yourself if he has truly moved on from it. But until he proves that, keep him at arms length



well ive forgiven myself for my mistake but if i were in his shoes, id still have a hard time trusting the other person. id forgive, but never really forget.

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I see your point but look at it this way and ask yourself this: have you TRULY forgiven yourself? If forgiveness implies the slate is clean, then why should he have a hard time trusting, if that's how you see it. Simply, if there is to be mistrust, it would be from him being absent all those years and thus he's a stranger...which is understandable. Not forgetting, or wiping the slate clean, means the forgiveness is not whole and you haven't truly moved from it. Evidenced by asking the question. You'll bring the past to life. Try not to think about it and start fresh with him and see where it leads. _??_
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Its basically just about the drama then?
Gotcha



i guess i want to make sure that the wool is not pulled over my head



If you don't intend on getting back with him then there is no way for the wool to be pulled over your head.
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you sir are absolutely correct. ahh i now see what Delights was talking about.

if theres no contact there can be no room for fuckery.
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I don't understand why you are carrying on about something that is long in the past. You are acting like this all went down yesterday.

So, do this mean that you haven't matured in 4 years at all?

A person gets what they look for ... and you are looking for problems.

Why can't he have grown a bit since then and decided that the air needed to be cleared between the two of you? ... or is that too grown up for you?
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If you don't intend on getting back with him then there is no way for the wool to be pulled over your head.



You obviously didn't date any/many Aries people.



What do Aries got to do with this?
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Wool? Pulled over your head? Oral sex with Aries?

NVM, my imagination got the best of me here ๐Ÿ™‚). The wanna-be Piscean in me approves though.
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I don't understand why you are carrying on about something that is long in the past. You are acting like this all went down yesterday.

So, do this mean that you haven't matured in 4 years at all?

A person gets what they look for ... and you are looking for problems.

Why can't he have grown a bit since then and decided that the air needed to be cleared between the two of you? ... or is that too grown up for you?



yeah he definitely sounded relieved to have had the conversation. He wished we had it sooner but that was on me. i was too chickenshit.