Married pisces flirting with me

Hello!

This is my first post. Im a capricorn woman with strong scorpio influence and have been interested in astrology for some time.
I seem to attract piscean men.
I have a coworker who is in his fifties, he works for another department, but we see quite often due to work. We have known each other for some years and always had a very good connection, we even discussed our personal problems, children etc. He is a very good husband and father to his grown-up children. He has always been kind and helpful towards me.
In short, last year he started hitting on me subtly, but persistently, displaying also some jealousy towards another colleague who also liked me. He changed completely his appearance, being now more "manly". We were on a mission together and even other people commented on his "attraction" towards me.
His "hitting" has been very subtle, but with sexual hints. I like him a lot and I really struggle, because I have already developed some feelings for him.
The thing is that we will be working more closely next year, so there is no way we can avoid each other.
The situation is now at the point that he tries to avoid me and I try to avoid him as well, but when we are in the same room, the tension is just palpable... he still continues saying sweet things to me and to touch me in a friendly way.
I cant understand why he changed like that and started hitting on me, because I always thought of him as an excellent husband.
Does anyone have experience with married Pisces?

We dont work in the same room, we see each other maybe once per week, but next year we ll be working in the same building.
The weird thing is that it continues although the contact is rare.
As for keeping boundaries, he proposed indirectly sex to me already...

Haha... why do you think married PIsces have problems? I always thought that he has a very happy relationship, he is a real family man.
Maybe he has a midlife crisis and just needs an ego boost.
The Pisces are charmers, and the age doesnt count, but he doesnt look a cheater to me, more like Peter Pan haha.
Anyway, I dont plan to sleep with him, and I doubt he wants to go there either. He is happy with the emotional connection he gets from our brief interaction.
Why poor wife? I doubt that a Pisces would cheat on his wife just because he is horny, especially after 30 yrs of marriage.

Posted by eglantine
Hello!
Im a capricorn woman with strong scorpio influence ..
I seem to attract piscean men.

Well, is it any wonder? It's a double whammy. Cap AND Scorpio. What Pisces guy can resist you?

Seriously though, I suggest when he gets all touchy-feely with you & flirts with you, bring up the topic of his wife, his kids, etc into the conversation. Force him to remember that he is 1st & foremost a FATHER to his kids & a HUSBAND to his wife. Keep bringing them up into EVERY conversation. esp when you are alone with him. Not only will it remind him of his priorities but it will also keep your own feelings in check.

Thanks BeoWulf,

you are right, this dreamy Pisces probably sensed that Im a strong and independent woman and that s why he is so smitten with me!
Ive never reminded him that he has a RING but if he continues this way I will do it!
I needed to be reminded because those Pisces just drive me crazy....

Jason,

I dont think he is a womanizer, but I can assure that he started it. As someone with nearly all personal planets in Scorpio Im not easily seduced, believe me, and only a few males approach me at all (probably this strong scorpio vibe intimidates them haha). Im more scorpio than cappy. I need strong emotional and spiritual connection, only then I develop a sexual intrest in someone. Im also a bit traumatized having been alone (divorced) nearly 10 years and I have strong defences.

This Pisces man just broke down all my defences. Yes, you are right, Im also part of this, because after 2-3 months of his subtle and sweet hitting on I suddenly developed feelings for him, but I NEVER NEVER flirted back or encouraged him, only talked normally. He of course picked it up from thin air that I felt something for him and since then we have this connection ---- I dont know, how you call it... emotional cheating probably. That we both lighten up at each others presence, that we could talk forever etc. We have never met outside work. Nothing has happened, he only confessed his feelings more directly once or twice. Recently he made a sexual hint, but I didnt pay attention.

Yes, he is in my head. Now we are both trying to avoid each other.

And thank you all for your help, I dont think bashing helps. I just try to understand what I should do. Probably confront him and take this all to a different level, because I will be seeing him also the next years due to work.

Thanks for sharing, Jason, yes I feel vulnerable only posting this.
Ive come to the conclusion that there is something wrong with both of us that he started this and that I came along and developed feelings for a married man.
In my case it is probably connected to my self worth (or lack of it) and a strong independent streak (Venus opp Saturn on natal close orb and Uranus influence).
In his case... I always felt a strong need to be kind to him and that s why I dont want to confront him.
I will just pull back.
Last question, Jason,
why do you think his existence is "miserable"? he has apparently a happy big family, although his children are out of home already.
Why do you think he has issues... Would he cheat just for lust?

IntriguedScorp, thanks, you really answered my questions.
I think I will go with the flow and not cross the line.
His friendship is precious to me and I want to be kind to him. Pisces are so wonderful people, so kind and compassionate... I grow just with any interaction with Pisces, men or women.
I have spoken with his wife on the phone several times about a practical question some years ago and I know their family life a bit. She is a tad disordinate and inconsistent person, but very kind. Id say another Pisces or Gemini influence... He has Aries Venus/Aqua moon though, not a weak person.
I have a theory about why some marriages fail... why mine failed. I have Venus-Saturn opp in my natal and I married very young the guy I was not in love with. I fell pregnant and we had children and I stayed many years with him... and cheated on him emotionally and later physically (he knew about it, I told him, but we didnt have any sex relations at that time any more). Basically I stayed many years in that marriage, torturing us both... when I finally left him he was devastated, but soon met his love and they are very happy now. But this is me, and Venus-Saturn.

Posted by JasonDeluca
An unhappy pisces male is easily seduced. I have a hard time believing this is all him. If you throw out the bait he will eat it. It's just that simple. This is frustrating me.

Him Him Him Him, c'mon it takes two to tango. Can you tell me you don't like the attention?

This is a huge misunderstanding that people have about pisces men and men in general.

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I agree. I totally got the vibe that she likes him, and she's gone fishing.

Posted by JasonDeluca
An unhappy pisces male is easily seduced. I have a hard time believing this is all him. If you throw out the bait he will eat it. It's just that simple. This is frustrating me.

Him Him Him Him, c'mon it takes two to tango. Can you tell me you don't like the attention?

This is a huge misunderstanding that people have about pisces men and men in general.

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I wanted to clarify this again. Pisces guys are hard to resist, because - being in tune with their feminine side - they know what women want to hear and they push the right buttons.

Ive known this man for 3 years, I didnt consider him even handsome, I didnt even think twice about him in those 3 years! But I remember his broad smile and quiet kindness. And somehow we always ended up talking, even though - I repeat - we didnt see often.

When he started hitting on me a year ago in this subtle way I remember that I thought Wow why does he do that, does he like me— He said things like "we should..." "you and I should..." and put his arm around my shoulder sometimes, very gently. He was crawling under my skin... Then we were on that mission trip and there were dinners and walks in the evening with the group, and he made often comments about me and even sang to me... typical Pisces seduction central haha.

And when I developed feelings for him, he picked it up somehow.

No, Im not fishing... wish I were lol.

But still Jason's point remains, it takes 2 to tango.

Can I ask you just for my own curiosity. What are some examples of him hitting on you and I ask you to be very specific. Can any of his actions be passed off as just being friendly or a caring kind of love from a friend.

I send you a private message, I dont want to put it here on the board.
There were of course friendly comments, but also sexual ones.

You should put it here, since it relates to what we're discussing.

No, I wont, this is private. But they were not "friendzone" comments.