Moving On

Often times I've told that I dwell in the past or that I hold grudges, but I think that's misleading. I can forgive easily, but for me to move on or give a second chance to someone whose hurt or betrayed me, I need to know that something has changed between then and now that would prevent the past from repeating itself.

Is this a common Piscean trait?

I think that's a smart pisces, to want someone to TRULY be sorry and have enough remorse to never do it again....any one can say they are sorry, but what does it really mean if they only say it to make peace thinking it's what you want or need to hear?

I had an old boyfriend scam a huge portion of my life savings, he also stole jewlery from my mother, he told me he was coming back to be with me, but never showed up. Years later he contacted me through a reunion site, saying he changed and was saved by Jesus and wanted my forgiveness. He was bragging about his timeshare business and all the cars and houses he now owned, he told me he would pay me back when he got the money he owed me. I told him I forgave him but that I could not call him and be friends UNTIL he sent me back what he stole....because friendships are based on mutual respect and trust, ect. I did need the money, but it wasn't about the money, it was about wanting to see if he really had changed and respected me enough as a human being to give it back, or if it was all a set up, just telling me what I wanted to hear so I would get pulled in again to god knows what. Well he got angry when I said that, tried to say he know's what kind of person I am, blah blah....I never got the money, haven't heard from him again, I told him I was laid off and needed it for school, he didn't give a crap. Some people are just con artists with no empathy, and stealing ppls hard earned money is an abomination in my book.

My pisces sister just got dumped by her husband of 20 yrs for younger woman, she is heart broken, but she would take him back in a heart beat if he came back crying saying he made and mistake and is sorry. I'm not a pisces sun, but my moon is in pisces along with other influences, I'm intuitive and have a lot of empathy for people, but I'm careful now.

Why invest the emotions and energy to hold grudges? While you are busy 'grudging' they are busy laughing. Do yourself a favor and let things go, and go about your merry way. If someone did something to you that merits a grudge, let it go and keep truckin'. To take the maturity down a notch, indifference hurts far worse than any grudge you can hold over someone. Life is short, live it.

I don't think you understand the point of the thread... its about (as Skyler said) wanting people to have actually learned from their mistake and shown that they've changed accordingly. People who haven't done this often accuse me of living in the past and holding grudges when thats not the case...hence the creation of this thread.

I don't think you understand the point of the thread... its about (as Skyler said) wanting people to have actually learned from their mistake and shown that they've changed accordingly. People who haven't done this often accuse me of living in the past and holding grudges when thats not the case...hence the creation of this thread.