@AiryWater
17 Years
Why do Pisces Men do this??
So, if he is all those things ... then shouldn't have enough to form your decision of whether you want him or not?
Perhaps, he is confused .. however, it sounds like are you also.
You say these things, making an impression that you vehemently dislike these qualities ..... and then make the point of inferring that you've not decided whether you want him, or not .. eventhough he is all those things.
That makes you sound very confused as to what you want from a boyfriend ... so, if you are confused as to what you want as a boyfriend, and Pisces are Chamelions, then how exactly is he supposed to be to please you?
I think you should stop with any more thought into this union .... and move on to another who doesn't leave you so confused.
Perhaps, he is confused .. however, it sounds like are you also.
You say these things, making an impression that you vehemently dislike these qualities ..... and then make the point of inferring that you've not decided whether you want him, or not .. eventhough he is all those things.
That makes you sound very confused as to what you want from a boyfriend ... so, if you are confused as to what you want as a boyfriend, and Pisces are Chamelions, then how exactly is he supposed to be to please you?
I think you should stop with any more thought into this union .... and move on to another who doesn't leave you so confused.
Come one P-Angel I'm posting after I experienced one of the qualities (Lying) and it was a huge LIE. I, DETACHED! BOLTED! DISAPPEARED! I'm not an idiot, I'm an Aqua for Godsakes, LMAO. He pretended NOT to be all of those things and in the very beginning stated to me that he HATED liars but instead turned out to be the biggest one I have ever met. I know most people do not come out and say, Hey, my name is John Doe. I don't put down the toilet seat, I lie, I sometimes cheat and expect you to forgive me because hey, I'm sensitive and trying to find myself. But if someone asks you or you state to someone that you are NOT the very person that YOU ARE, then you are not giving the other party the option of choosing to have you in their life.
You haven't been meeting the good Pisces men unfortunately. Apparently there's two types to every sign. With Pisces it's the upstream and the downstream fish. People have mentioned it on here more thoroughly various times, but I just can't be arsed to look for any particular posts at the moment. Though I will say this, it sounds like you found yourself a downstreamer. If you can't tolerate his ways probably just best to hang it up on the line if you haven't already.
Well one, they are pretending b/c they are dealing with some form of denial about themselves, so what makes you think that when they're called out on it, they will respond with anything other than DENIAL?
Alot of Pisces are afraid of themselves. Afraid of their own intenseness & passion. Somewhere a long the line they got the impression that being themselves either drove others away or wasn't good enough for themselves or for others. So, it becomes very easy for them to imitate someone else, even if just for the moment, so that they can still have gain (like others). They have the mentality that they "Deserve AND get what they want RIGHT NOW" & unfortunately, the more in-denial Pisces feel justified in doing what they've got to do to get what they want (for either good or bad reasons).
Not all Pisces are like this. But Pisces who are very self-critical generally find it easier to become great actors/actresses in being someone they want OR need to be for the moment to get what they normally couldn't get had they been themselves. The Pisces who are very self-critical of themselves and/or who have convinced themselves that they've experienced more LOSS than gain from being their true selves, tend to imitate and/or copy or smoothly become what/who they think others want them to be. And b/c these kinds of Pisces do this so often, they get so used to it, become experts in it & just like with anything else you keep doing repeatedly, they do it so much that they lose the conscious in them that tells them that it is wrong...that is until the person they are with finally caught on!
Alot of Pisces are afraid of themselves. Afraid of their own intenseness & passion. Somewhere a long the line they got the impression that being themselves either drove others away or wasn't good enough for themselves or for others. So, it becomes very easy for them to imitate someone else, even if just for the moment, so that they can still have gain (like others). They have the mentality that they "Deserve AND get what they want RIGHT NOW" & unfortunately, the more in-denial Pisces feel justified in doing what they've got to do to get what they want (for either good or bad reasons).
Not all Pisces are like this. But Pisces who are very self-critical generally find it easier to become great actors/actresses in being someone they want OR need to be for the moment to get what they normally couldn't get had they been themselves. The Pisces who are very self-critical of themselves and/or who have convinced themselves that they've experienced more LOSS than gain from being their true selves, tend to imitate and/or copy or smoothly become what/who they think others want them to be. And b/c these kinds of Pisces do this so often, they get so used to it, become experts in it & just like with anything else you keep doing repeatedly, they do it so much that they lose the conscious in them that tells them that it is wrong...that is until the person they are with finally caught on!
Just like with anything else in life you do repeatedly, Pisces sometimes will get so used to & so successful at doing this that it almost becomes 2nd nature.
But one thing you have to understand though is that even though Pisces may gain friendships, relationships, & bonds with others by "pretending" they are never truly content in these relationships/friendships. Pisces know (in the dark) that they are not being themselves, which if anything drives them more further to keep pretending. It's much more easier to continue "pretending" than to try to undo everything that's happened and/or try to start over.
Usually the only people who are able to get these kinds of Pisces to be their true selves are the ones who sympathize with a Pisces who feels the need to do this. Usually Pisces will come out with their true colors if they're with someone who ALREADY knew the truth from the beginning & yet still decided to chase and/or like them. OR when a Pisces feels that being the person they are pretending to be isn't causing any gain, they may also try to slip back into who they REALLY are as a last-resort to keep the person.
But one thing you have to understand though is that even though Pisces may gain friendships, relationships, & bonds with others by "pretending" they are never truly content in these relationships/friendships. Pisces know (in the dark) that they are not being themselves, which if anything drives them more further to keep pretending. It's much more easier to continue "pretending" than to try to undo everything that's happened and/or try to start over.
Usually the only people who are able to get these kinds of Pisces to be their true selves are the ones who sympathize with a Pisces who feels the need to do this. Usually Pisces will come out with their true colors if they're with someone who ALREADY knew the truth from the beginning & yet still decided to chase and/or like them. OR when a Pisces feels that being the person they are pretending to be isn't causing any gain, they may also try to slip back into who they REALLY are as a last-resort to keep the person.
Well Im done with Pisces men for a good while. That was my second serious relationship with that particular sign and no matter what I do I get hurt in someway.I know there is a lesson I'm suppose to learn from the fishes ( since they are the only sign I meet, both male and female) but I'm not willing to find out what that lesson is anymore.
^^^^^^ rolfmao at ianthefish. I love when people from message boards judges someone off of a post or posts. I must have hit a nerve, LOL. Have a great day my dear.😉
I hear you, Ian .... most people are indeed too weak to be able to handle a Pisces.
Such as we see here .. a thread created for an emotional rant.
^^^this thread was not created for an emotional rant. I asked a question. If i didn't ask the question in a way in which you understood then that's one thing. After reading both you and ianthefish posts I saw nothing but insults but I guess, again, I must have hit a nerve. Neither or Ianthefish did not try to help me understand this Pisces man's behavior at all. Also, in my opinion putting up with others BS does not make you weak it makes you strong. Weak people are the ones who stay when they see qualities in someone that they do not like. Peace, LOL
I meant to say NOT putting up with peoples BS does not make you a weak person.
Oh ianthefish it wasn't a quick downstream rant as you put. It was a huge lie! A my brother is damn near on his deathbed I have to fly to California to see him but I'm really going on vacation with the boys lie.
FLeo, hmmm, I kinds understand your friends husband if he stating that he has evolved into a "new" person. I done that......a few times.......
Ianthefish, okay, okay, I get it. Just b/c you have a nightmare doesn't mean you stop dreamin....Sigh, I do love the fish, though. But please let a gal know how do she can tell the difference between an upstream fish having a brief downstream episode and a fish that just swims downstream moment? Does that make sense?
Ianthefish, okay, okay, I get it. Just b/c you have a nightmare doesn't mean you stop dreamin....Sigh, I do love the fish, though. But please let a gal know how do she can tell the difference between an upstream fish having a brief downstream episode and a fish that just swims downstream moment? Does that make sense?
Hey Starfish225. It's funny that you say i shouldn't use logic when it comes to seeing the difference between an upward of downward fish b/c Pisces seem to be the ONLY (and I repeat) ONLY sign where I don't use my "logic". So you see the trouble I'm having here, LOL.
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However, I must admit Pisces men (NOT ALL! Just the ones I know) can not accept or choose not to accept and/or see themselves for who they are. Why the hell do they do this? They pretend so much...they put on a show ALL THE DAMN TIME....they LIE SO F*****G much, just so they can be who you want them to be. Why can't they be themselves? Why must they lie soooooo damn much?
If at the end of the day you're a liar, cheater, thief, confused, wish-washy, selfish or secretive person then don't pretend that you're not. Be who you are, so I can at least have the option to choose if I want you in my live or not...