what's up with pisces F

" insight from the fishtank "

lol

My bad, I wasn't making fun of your whole post. I just thought the word play was funny. I'm not a Pisces, you'll probably get some insights soon.

yes hot/cold/hot/cold ....that is how we roll unfortunately. I dated a pisces male for 3 years and that annyoed the shit out of me. I try not to be the hot / cold person .......what can we say ....love scares the hell out us. 😐

PD

I only run hot/cold when I start to question your character. If what you say or do doesnt start to add up then I need to take a step back and see how things unfold. Love does not scare me, I dont have a problem with diving right in. What does scare me is finding out the person I'm getting to know is the complete opposite of what they present themselves to be.

"HOT/COLD/HOT/COLD/DISAPPEAR"

That's just something u have to get use to. haha... Don't read too much into it...cos' the more you are going to think about it...the more you are going to worry about it...and if they sense it...the more they are going to swim away from you.

Just relax...stay calm. Easier said than done, but if you observe enough pisces...and accept this which is "norm" to them...don't take it to heart, u will find yourself a happier person. hee...=)

When they are comfortable with you enough, they will reveal their feelings to you.

thats so bizarre to me, because i've been trying to figure out why the cancer that i've been seeing on and off is so hot/cold/hot/cold/and disappears.

from my situation, i keep trying to back off of the cancer because he's told me before that he doesn't know what he wants. but he keeps calling and i cannot help the way i feel for him. i'll wake up in the morning beside him and be extremely happy but in 10.5 seconds or less i'll be thinking of how its not such a great idea. because he wont talk. and i take fault too because sometimes i dont either. i'm really fickle, and mostly fickle with this because i'm too afraid of losing control of myself. it's been about year now, and i'm still struggling with the decision to leave it alone or keep it afloat even if its not going anywhere anytime soon. i just need reassurance (don't all girls do?) but he is bad at communicating. and when i mean bad, i mean down right terrible. (i.e. never send your apologies via text)


so maybe what you're saying is short, but not crystal clear enough? maybe she's saying she "gets it" but does every woman ever really mean it when she says that?

maybe you can give me some insight too.

and like starfish says do think about her experience. although carrying your past in your hair isn't the greatest approach to the future, some people can't help but relate it to one another.

i don't have a trust issue, i actually hand them out eagerly. but i'm oblivious to a lot of things, and i've been led to believe the opposite of what i've seen. so i have to be precautious, and i let down my guard. but when i feel like i'm about to be hurt, i lift it back up. just as they say a cancer does when they crawl in and out of their protective shell. (my rising is in cancer btw) and maybe thats what shes doing. maybe.

Posted by Starfish225
"love scares the hell out us."


Uh thats a indiviual thing there..Love does not scare me, Im scared of giving myself to a man that does
not deserve me..

That is what I think I was trying to convey...You are absolutely right SF. If I feel insecure in a relationship ...that is usually when the hot/cold comes out. I do agree with you SF ....there is something going on if the hot/cold action is going on. The fish needs to feel secure in love.

thecancerinme

"You fellas must have been doing something right to pull three years no doubt."

Not really darling ....it was the most unhealthy relationship I have ever been in. If I could do it all over again, I would have gotten out a lot quicker. His hot/cold action became mental abuse. It was not fun at all and it took a long time for me to heal from that one. I will say this much, it taught me to listen to the warning signs a lot sooner. I no longer question myself, or put up with much.

Best of luck with ur fishman.

PD

fish WOMAN lol. i don't sink a line with that bait, although I'm tight with almost ne1. have to literally cross my hairs if you know what i'm saying. x

wish she would message me, but it seems to be completely gone. we'll both move on. she's doing well too btw. courageous woman.

What the hell are you babbling about, Starfish .. and all you otherins who are inferring that something is wrong with this girl, or afraid, and making it sound like this guy has a care for her, so what's her problem.


this guy doesn't give a rats ass about her ... so why the fuck does it make her have a problem for not being his doormat?

Posted by thecancerinme
i know, right. i can't be bothered with this either. too much too soon is my suspicion, although i made it abundantly clear i can't be sexually involved. maybe that's a factor. idk what to think. beer o'clock and i'm going to bed. l8

He doesn't care to even be bothered.

Somewhere else in here he made reference about not being bothered about other things in her life that are important to her .. so what the fuck does this mean ...


"until she is ready and see's that you were in it for the long haul"




::::: shakes head ::::::


Long haul? He has made it abundantly clear in here that he is in this for himself and won't be arsed to have any emotional involvement with her that even remotely looks like nurturing ...... can you people not fucking read between the lines?

"((moment to elaborate)) She's 6-months fresh out of a five-year relationship. ex-BF passed away. That's sad. I'm not so much sympathetic toward her, but I listen to her when she talks. My final answer: Move on. This year alone, I've lost my fiance & baby, contracted an incurable disease at no fault of my own, totaled my 'reliable' car *totally my fault, good riddance*, ruined a good friendship with my dad, am slowly but surely losing my badass job (i'm a steel-worker, freelance programmer, work two months out of the avg year and have my own house and cars). I don't tell her all of this, but that point is.. is: everybody has hardship. Each person that walked their ass on this planet we call earth has had fucking problems some more tremendous than others' but shit rethread the fucking bolt already."




His cold heart is evident .... she is a female, first and foremost, if he is going to so casually/indifferently toss her feelings aside, simply because he has his own emotional shit in which he hasn't figured out how to grieve for .. then, since her feelings are tossed aside with no support or nurturing .. then why in the fuck should be catering to him?


She has lost her life-partner and people would actually think she has a problem for being hot/cold .. when in reality, any person who is normal and has had this kind of loss goes through a healing process of mixed feelings.



wtf is the matter with people, is my question? of course, she's fucking in emotional distress .... and this guy admittingly, has no sympathy for her .... but SHE is the one who is made out like the bad guy?


:::: shakes head ::::

dude just forget it. my final conclusion on the matter is void of any details i shared here with you guys. thanks again for the replies everybody, but i should have thought more on this on my own.